How to forget my Ex?

Sorry to hear about your failed relationship... Do you mind sharing with me... so I can learn more from your "failed" relationship. The reason(s) why she broke up with you. What do you think of those reasons that she gave? (Are they excuses?) When you say see her "suffer" with you, in what ways is she suffering? Have you and her tried every option out here to "rescue" your relationship before coming to this decision. Thank you

Hi cheongyc, Its been 2 years. Do you already forget about her? i think time will changes everything.Me too wanna forget my ex husband. And starting something new. its still hurt tough.. seeing my sons grave yard hurt me some more.. thats why im not telling friends here about lebaran days. Home felt like not home anymore..i really confused by the past. its not good.

I think you should give yourself some time to forget her. As they say "time is the best healer". The more you see her , the more u will want her. The more you try to remember , the more you will be hurt. So i would probably suggest you go on a small vacation , have a great time , chill around with your friends , pamper yourself and keep yourself engaged all the time. that will really help u get over it. All the best ~pinks~

First off, glad that you stop drinking. About your relationship, I totally understand how you feel b/coz I've been there before. I am just like you, I don't want to force someone to stay with me if that's his choice. I agree with you that love is base on wanting the one you love to be happy. And if I leave will make that person happy, I will do it for him. But we need to protect ourself as well. Seeing your ex regularly just to make you thinking that you still have a chance. So, stop seeing your ex and move on. Put all her stuff in a box (out of sight, out of mind). Make yourself busy, so you have no time to think about her. I know it is a painful process, but you have to do it for yourself and for her. It takes me years to finally put all my ex stuff into trash. Good luck to you.

Oh..easy problem.Get a new gf dude!Life ain't just drinking.But at least you had already get something from her.

Hello my dear friend cheongyc. I am so sorry and sad about your love affairs a year ago, and I was almost in tears when I read your agony because I had the same experience as you had years ago before I got married. I had a heartbroken love relationship with my ex-girlfriend in the end though we had had it for five years long like you had. But I had to let her go as her heart was no longer with me because of working in a different city. It took two years before I could forget about it and fall in love with my partner. In fact, it is hard to forget her as she is my first love and nothing will be able to change this fact. But I am very happy that I have got a better one as my lifepartner, my wife. It is now after a year since I read this discussion of yours and I hope that you have now found one that is worth your love with luck.

first, do not drink heavily it will not help you get over her. you are meeting with her at least every month.. that is a good start for you to start being with her as friends. i guess you should think about your self and moving on and not thinking how much love you have for her. i am not saying that you should hate her... but since you are in speaking terms.. it means it is much easier for you to move on. (at least for me, that's what i think of. 5 years is a long time and it may be really hard to get over that too quickly.... but the sooner you think about getting on with your life.. the better.. start picking up the pieces now, do not dwell on her memories, but do not forget them.

Why are you meeting her twice a month? What for? What is the reason? You are not going to gain anything by that. Right now you need a clean cut in your life. © ronaldinu 2008

it is very very difficult to try to forget someone. more you try to forget, more you will end up remembering that person. when people c=break up they think that they are about to forget that person to ease out the pain. its never the real case.time actually help out.

Well I can sense that you two are just not ready for that separation that your partner initiated. I think what stops you from getting over her is that you're still seeing each other twice a month? Why? You are just trying to torture yourselves or yourself by doing this. I think when you talk about breaking up you should allow yourself to really lost in touch in her for sometime that means no more dating or meeting with her for at least six months or more. You will never really never forget her because of this habit of you two still seeing each other 2x a month. Stop this and eventually you'll get over her. If you cannot break this habit of yours then what's the use of breaking up at all.

First loves are always the hardest becuase you have no other experience in this department so its hard to find ways that will make yourself feel better since youve never been through this before. If i was you I would stop seeing her so much, out of sight, out of mind, as much as you distance yourself the less you find you think of her. Also, when me and my first love broke up, as hard as it was I deleted him from my life. We didnt break up on good terms though so It was easier for me then it would be for you. You dont have to forget her or anything, but having the pictures hanging onyour walls,or your desktop, or whatever wont make you feel better at all. For me, I couldnt just DELETE a year nad a half of my life, or in your case 5 years. So if you have any pics of the both of you on your computer, file it away in a folder and dont look at it. That way you wont hurt everytime you see them, but you still have them as memories if its to hard to get rid of them.One day youll be able to look at them with the thought that you had a great experience and not be heartbroken. You just have to distance yourself from her and anyhting that reminds you of her. Like i said up there..out of sight out of mind, the least amount of reminders of her will make it so much easier to move on...

hi cheongyc! I think you better not think of the things that make you together happy. Those memories, cause it can really hurt you. Remembering those days will not make you move. You should not forget her completely cause simply, she's wonderful. You're both wonderful. It cannot last to 5 years if it isnt really working. Thats what I think. I think you're really inlove with her. Thats the good thing you've done. You let her go. Maybe, she needs more space, she wants to grow and you know. Maybe, after she have done that she'll come back to you. But dont expect too much. You might get hurt again. I suggest not to look for another girl. You might get more frustrated and you might look for you ex again and again. So take time to heal your heart. Pray to God always and all your worries unto him. Its such a blessing that someone like her loves you in that times.

This is one that usually helps me get over my ex is... Go out get drunk and shagg a different man/woman... You should try it...

You're right! You must have to forget her as soon as possible. Holding back the memories you have will only prolong the agony so better start now that you have courage before you clings too much on your memories. I know that it is hard to forget someone whom you love dearly. I've been on that and I know it's really possible to forget her. Maybe nsome person doesn't agree with that specially if they're holding on too much on the relationship they have. Let me share some advice that I get from friends during the time I wanted to forget my ex boyfriend. First don't go to the places that you go. The places you've dated. Avoid going to places where you have a memory of her. Then stop thinking of her. I know its hard but its possible. Do things that will make you busy. Things that will stop you from thinking the past. Now if you can't help but remember her try to write a letter to her but never send it to her. Just keep those letter and when you think it's already a bulk read all those one by one. That's the time you will see how naive you can be. HOw bad you are to yourself to let yourself suffer from pain because of her. You don't have to blame yourself but try to see that your ex had moved on so why can't you? It also helps to date new girls. Some people say that it is effective way to forget is to find new love. Those are just few things. There's a lot of things you can do to forget her. Just don't put yourself being drunk cause its not good for you. Hope I do help you. Goodluck!

Don't purposely force yourself to forget her. To forget something can be taken as some sort of investment. The capital is time. You may invest a lot of time before you can really achieve the goal. Now since you have already invested a lot of time why not going ahead? During the course you will have plenty of supporters for you along the way. Wish you a success.

"Out of sight - Out of mind" I think you need to stop meeting with her. When you see her it is bringing back memories that are too painful for you. Maybe it would help if you meet up with some friends and just hang out and meet new people. Drinking is not the answer I know your trying to soften the pain but this only makes it worse, after having some drinks it makes you more depressed. Time heals all wounds. It will get better my friend.

dude by drinking your spoiling ur own health and not doin good to urself, u can first tell m y didnt things work out between you 2 as u say tht u were together for 5 yrs, it should have been very difficult for you to let go of her, ask ur self if u still love her and my brother if you do, you should tlk to her you should be ready to change urself according to her needs, give her wht she wants, talk to her bout the things she dosent like in you and the things tht killed the relationship. only by then u would come to a conclusion wether or not u should forget her or not, after listening to all this i would be able to give you a proper solution to forget her... take care and minimize ur drinking habits..

First off, although its already been said, drinking will ultimately cause you a lot more agony than you happen to be feeling right now. A five-year relationship is a tough one to get over, and chances are you'll always harbor some feelings for this girl. You should check out this article about getting over a relationship: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/26994/how_to_cope_with_a_failed_relationship.html

Im in the same situation as you.. I think what you should do is to do something you like, like sports etc.. and stay among friends and your family, dont stay alone.. you'll start thinking of her again... When you go to sleep, listen to non love music until you sleep... I usually listen to trance, techno music... When you start thinking of her, just do something else like watching TV... Try to stop looking for her... Stop meeting her.. I know it is hard, but with time it'll make you better... It will normally take a lot of time... For me its been 10 months since we've seperated, and I'm still not fine... But im much better than 2 months after we broke up...

Whoa! This situation is so similar with mine. I had a 4 year relationship and just ended up last year. I was so hurt coz she is the one who wants to go. I really want her to come back, i always think of her and always contact her and begging for her to com back to me. But she won't like it.. It's like all of those times were just a waste. It was really hard for me but somehow i find solutions to my agony. I kept blaming her and resurrected myself and told myself "poor her coz she lost me". I tried to date other persons and open my heart and mind. Well it worked after a few months i met this really great girl, boost my confidence and i just discovered that she likes me too! i thought before that i already found the one but now my new girl is even better. and i am so thankful of what happened to me and my ex coz if not then i would not meet this wonderful girl i am crazy with. So good luck to you and may you find your girl too.