I am a widow, worried and afraid to marry again

by the way you say it..i think you really want to marry again..but i think to compare defeats the purpose of excitement for your new relationship.. but you know what, i think that if you really felt loved by your late hubby then i think you should just focus on you children..but if you really cant live alone then a partner wont be bad.. making the right decision is not a definite thing..so i suggest you ask your children if they want you to have a partner again and then pray for it..because i think the best decision could only come from God.. good luck and God bless..^_^

At present I think you atre still grieving so its not nice to carry the old relationship memories good or bad in to a new relationship. I think for p[resent you should focus on your kids and bring them up with love. Do not hesitate however to make new friends and go out on dates too, just don't look like someone who is actively seejking future husabnd. Give yourself some time and soon your hubby will be a part of your wonderful past and you will be ready to move on. Don't get married beacuse you are afraid to be left alone, get married only if you are able to love another person as much.

Its not really complicated in your case since your already a widow. If someone comes along and you will feel the same feelings that you feel with your late husband then i think theres nothing wrong. I believe there is a second glory. After all you deserve to be happy again im sure your late husband will also like you to be happy. Just pray to God and faith on him. im sure everything will be just fine.

First of all lorelen,don,t ever think that you will find another man like your husband who passed away so im telling you that because it i true,and there is no need to try to find one just like him,he was the love of your life,the man you had your children with and that was special.After saying that,then I will tell you that you can love again,it will be a differnt kind of love but love non the less....i am telling you these things from my own experence because i have been where you are right now..I would suggest if you do find someone that you would consider marrying,don,t jump into anything,just take it slow and watch for signs,such as how he gets along with your children,how you communicate,a lot o things to consider,and i will tell you now...YOU Will compare that man to your husband,not that you want to ,it just happens,so you have to be careful and not do that...I married again myself.My husband now is totally different from my late husband.He is very good to me,likes my children and has a good heart,and we are happy,but its not like my first but it is good.It took a little ajustment on my part to reaalize no two men are exactally alike..I think it would be good for you to marry agin,that way you will not have to be alone in your later years.Your sons are getting older and will soon be leaving home and going on with their life,s i would suggestto you if you could find the right man for you it would be better.I wish you thebest and hope that i have give you some sound advice ....have a wonderful day

I don't think that is a decision you can make at the moment. If another man comes into your life then that is the time for you to decide whether you can be together. I think that you shouldn't stay alone for the rest of your life though as everyone needs love.

I don't know want should be said. But life contain many possibilities.Maybe you will meet a good guy who will give your concern as you late husband. Then you'll forget the saying "there is no second glory"and forget you are a widow. May you find a excellent man who can give you safety and love !!!

I am a widow for a little over a year now. I had a good husband, I miss him so much. I miss being loved and protected. I am sure you understand how I feel. I loved being married, I miss it so much. Having someone in my life, life can get lonely when you are all alone. I have family but its not the same. I am hoping that someday I meet someone special and if I do I would be open to getting married again. You don't say if you have someone special in your life now. If you do have someone, I think its important to not compare this person with you husband. That would not be fair to him. I wish you good luck on finding someone special or if you have someone special already. I think you can still have another "second glory". I had a good marriage and would like to think that I could be happy and saisfied again in life. life is too short to spend it alone.

I am a little confused. Is there someone that you have an in terest in marrying now, or are you just afraid of the whole concept? It seems if you were able to find the love of your life once, if you let go of the fear and let yourself shine through, you will probably attract that same kind of love again. Forget the old sayings; make your own destiny.

I agree that that matter should be a cause for concern for the reason you cited about your late husband. However, it should not be a cause for worry. You don't have to worry unnecessarily. Just enjoy your life and be prepared to cross the bridge when you get there. Just be open to the idea of getting into a relationship with a potential husband and it will help you decide and see things more clearly. The saying that there is no second glory is just like that, a saying. Serious matters like marriage should not be decided on the basis of what other people say or what their opinions are.

Take everything one day at a time. Don't pressure yourself regarding marriage. You don't have to stay a widow for the rest of your life, but you don't have to get married too if you don't want to. It's really your choice. It won't be fair to compare 2 different men, and if you do get married, you shouldn't. These 2 people came at different points of your life and whatever love you feel for them won't be the same.

you are only a spring chicken.There is a lot of living for you to do yet Your body has a lot of misusing to undergo.Start going to places to meet people,get yourself fit,get yourself prettyed-up,at only 43 there should be a whole lot of shaking going on,come on mama,get down.

Loving someone so much and losing them is one of the hardest thing this life can give... Never be afraid of loving someone... never be afraid of giving someone a chance... Those people who take risks and those people who move on are the ones, who truly feel enjoyment and contentment in life... You are afraid to love, because you are afraid you can't find someone better than him... Always remember lorelen: "The worst regret we can have in life is not for the wrong things we did.. but for the right thinks we could have done, but we never did.." Take care...

as other people told you that you shouldn't be in hurry and take some time and think why do you need to marriage second and there is nothing wrong to get marriage again but as you were so much involved with previous so do it if you can manage and understand your mind and heart's feelings.

if you feel ready, if you think you good love again, then you should get marry, if not, than don't do that. If you decide to get marry, don't forget to ask your children opinion about the guy.

I think we should always look at the future.It's you who have to decide.I think you can re-marry provided the person to whome you will marry should understand you very well.

yes u should not marry but u should concentrate on to uur children

Everybody deserves to be happy anyway, and in your case i think you're not yet ready for another marriage. Anything can happen, but dont close your door to anyone. You can never tell, its really hard to live alone your children will live on their own in the future. We need somehow a companion and somebody to take care an cared of.

you know, maybe you should just forget about the limits you set on yourself. of course you loved your husband, but there will come a time when you have to think of your own happiness and move on. but my advice is let the issue go; you're not restricting yourself from the prospect of marrying again, but your also not dating every guy you meet just so you can marry again. meet new friends, and let things take their course. it wont probably be a jackpot the first time you try to date again, but it's a trial and error thing. but the most important thing of all is TO NOT KEEP IT FROM YOUR CHILDREN. they may not approve of it, but then it's being open to them that will make them understand. goodluck and be happy. :)

go ahead dt care for the society.they are only meant for criticization.As far as the old saying is concernd,they are not always true.

I'm sorry about the loss of your husband - I'm sure that you are still working to face each day. That said, I don't think that you should try to make this decision right now unless you are in a relationship that you are considering. When the time comes and you meet someone, and you're thinking, "Hmm, should I marry him?" Then is the time that you need to make that decision. And when that time comes, it shouldn't be based on the fact that you're a widow. Certainly, if you marry again it will be much different than the first, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with your husband, and remember that you will always love and honor him, yet there might be someone else whose companionship makes you happy, whose face makes you smile, and who makes your life better when he's around than when he's not. And if/when that happens, I say go for it!