Insensitive people...

Wow! How kind of her (NOT!) I didn't have someone say something rude to me when I was pregnant, but there was a lady I'll never forget when I was grocery shopping while I was 7 months pregnant with my youngest son. I was pushing the cart along, minding my own business and stopped to look at a product. A middle aged lady came by with her cart, stopped at the side of me, and before I could do or say anything, she got down on her hands and knees and put her hands on my bump, cooing and saying how much she loved pregnant women's bodies! I was so shocked that I couldn't say anything for a minute, and then from out of nowhere I heard my own voice say "I'm not pregnant." The poor lady looked absolutely horrified! She got to her feet and rushed away, without even taking her cart with her. I felt so bad, but when I told my partner, he roared with laughter and told me not to worry, and that she shouldn't have done that to someone she didn't know. I'm so sorry that your "friend" would say something like that to you. It seems people think that pregnant women don't take offense at anything, or maybe they think we developed thick skins for the duration of our pregnancies. I hope she apologizes to you.

it is very rude of her.. yeah i also have heard comments when i was pregnant from my neighbour friend. although she was my friend but she often said those hings which always hurt me badly. for example, she taunt me on my gaining weight as i think every women have experience thsi thing... she make fun of me that your husband is sooo lean if you gain weight then your couple would looked like Laurel and Hardy... it hurt me so bad that i stopped talking with anymore and quit friendship with her beacuse she always left out me with loads of questions in my mind which result in depression.

I have never been pregnant but I do have an "ex" friend that always asks me if I am still married when I see her. I have only gotten married once and that was 6 years ago today so I don't really know why she keeps asking it, esp. since she is divorced and remarried. I would never ask her something like that though. It's rude and obnoxious. Come to think of it so was she. That's why she's my "ex" friend.

As I was in labor with the first daughter, my mother in law told me, now if you just pray, maybe God will change that baby to a boy. Yikes. I would tell that family friend that you weren't asking for her opinion, you were just sharing information. If she finds that rude or insensitive, well she shouldn't have gone there in the first place. Having children is a very personal decision and I'm not sure how it became one that every person and their cousin thinks they can comment on.

That is terrible that she made an assumption that you and your hubby wouldn't stay together! Hmm I could write a book on insults that I received during pregnancy! A relative went on and on about how fat I am. I was 7 months pregnant, I was huge, but all belly! I made her get a tape measurer, I measured my waist, then she measured hers-we had the same waist measurement and she wasn't pregnant! I laughed so hard, I don't think she likes me anymore lol, but oh well! I also got the "are you sure you ain't having twins comment" all the time. Like I'm some dummy who would be oblivious to the fact of carrying multiples when I've had two ultrasounds. I also did a baby registry for what I needed, I'm a planner and from talking with down to earth friends, they told me what really is necessary. Well only a few people bought stuff off that list for my baby shower. Everyone treated me like I was a dummy and bought the stupidest stuff, I had a closet full of 0-3 month stuff, yeah like a kid stays in that size forever! My sister was pregnant right before me, she is a beautiful women and her hubby, well he was humble looking. People would ask her right in front of her hubby "and that guy is really the father?" I've also found people say dumb stuff once you have a baby, I bet you know all about that after having 3!

Wow! I mean, WOW! That is WAY out of line .. You mention that you've been married, where does your "friend" get off talking about him getting re-married? Insensitive, rude, jerk! I would hug you if I could - that is awful, I'm sorry you had to hear someone, especially a friend, make those remarks to you. I think being pregnant, it stings a little deeper with all the hormones and such, but pregnant or not they should not have said that :( I've really not had many cases where someone said something deliberately when I was pregnant but I remember things hitting home a lot more than if i weren't pg.

Well even though pregnant women are more sensitive than those who are not pregnant, that was still a rude thing for your friend to say. Was she joking at all? What a thing to joke about with a pregnant woman if she was. Men aren't supposed to be thinking ahead to divorce when they are happily married so of course it's not selfish for him to get a vasectomy if you both agree upon it. Sometimes people say things and we have to try to take them in one ear and out the other..

OMG and you didnt slap her in the mouth?! hell I would have..thats just flat out flippin RUDE to say to ANY married person let alone a pregnant wife who's sensitivities are higher....Did you tell your husband about this? if so, and if you dont mind my asking, what was his take on it all?? oh wow I so would have popped her in the mouth and kicked her out of my house!

Oh my god! That was a terrible thing for her to say! I would of been so mad to hear that. How dare she! I dont think you should be friends with this woman anymore, she is obviously insensitive and rude. The worst thing for me was my fiance's brothers liked to call me fat. I was 8 months pregnant, but to them I was just fat. I always had body issues when I was growing up so that made me feel really bad. One night they went to far and my fiance went mental, they didnt call me fat after that :)

His next wife? What was wrong with this woman?

What a stupid, pathetic, horrible and insensitive comment to make. Please tell me that you have nothing to do with this person anymore. How many marriages has she been through anyway?

He was utterly rude to you, no doubt about that...you shouldnt get any hard thoughts over this because it's more than clear that he said something he shouldn't have. It is something to say not only while you're pregnant but at any other time. Simply it's not his business.

Talk about rude. That lady was so out of line. My rudeness experience lasted my entire pregnancy. I got pregnant shortly after getting married, a honeymoon baby which is supposed to be good luck. Well, when my father's side of the family heard I was expecting the rumors and snide remarks came snowballing down at me. Apparently, I HAD to get married. They actually had a pool on when I would have the baby, how early I would claim the baby to be and how much the baby would weigh. I even had one cousin ask me where I found a wedding dress that hid my pregnancy so well. Needless to say, I have nothing to do with those people at all. Boy were they all shocked when my sister pointed out that anyone who could do simple math, unlike them, could figure out that there was no way I HAD to get married. We planned the wedding for over a year. Invites were sent out 8 weeks prior to the wedding. My bridesmaids were chosen a year previous. HELLO? Even if I had gotten pregnant right before the wedding, I didn't HAVE to get married. And when the baby came, it was 9 months after the wedding, he was 6 weeks early, and stayed in the NICU for a week. Stupid people.

every where you'll find different types of people so choose good natured and having good habbits people but don't avoid bad typed people because the only difference between you an dthem.

Oh my goodness, if someone said that to me I would have gone off on her! That is extremely rude and I would have told her that straight up! I definitely wouldnt consider her a friend anymore!...when I was pregnant with twins I had a lot of people say some really rude things to me. My oldest son was only 4 months old when I got pregnant with twins and one of my friends told me, "oh my god, i would be looking into adoption!"....and I also had a female doctor say,"oh my god, I would slit my throat!"

The only annoying remark I got was when are you do. I had so many people asking me this that I started making a song out of it. This person is inconsiderate and should mind her own business. Like gee, thanks for having confidence in me that my marriage is going to last.

Wow...talk about your insensitive creep! What are you doing hanging out with someone who treats you like that?

Oh how awful!!! You should ahve looked her straight in teh eye and said: "Then he'll adopt." and walked off.

yes I was told that I looked like a whale 15 minutes before my baby shower. I grew up with this person. She did tell me to my face and she knew that it hurt me. I was a gym person loved to workout and stay in shape.I tried to hide the weight as long as I could. I was a shamed of the weight I had gain from being pregnant plus having a toxic water gain from being pregnant.I did get huge but I already knew this myself why did she feel the need to tell me. I had just found out about the toxic water gain two days before and was already upset. I was not feeling the best and was nervous. My friend got me to go for a walk to claim me down before I had to get up infront of all those guest.It did not work. After she said that I just wanted to go hide.I have never got over her hurtful words and to this day she laughs her butt off about that day.

What in the world? Why would she think he would get married again? He's married to you and you both decided that 3 children are enough for you. My brother and brother-in-law both had vasectomies because their family is large enough. I'm so sorry! That was not nice of her at all.