Is it ok to get even with a husband whom you think is cheating on you?

I don't think you should try to get even at all. that is a petty reaction. Besides you don't even know if he is cheating on you, you just think he is. What if you are wrong and you decide to cheat to get even, then he finds out. Clearly there is a trust issue in your relationship nad you should deal with that in an adult way. talk to you husband, try to get to the bottom the real issues. If it ends up that you were right and he was cheating, then leave him. But be a bigger person than him and just let it go. Don't fall into the revenge trap. It is not healthy for anyone, especially you.

Vengeance is never the answer to any problems. It will only lead to complications, and will make you end up even more hurt. Remember the golden rule? Just stick to it and you'll be fine. Instead, forgive, find peace in your heart and start a new beginning. It will be hard but soon enough, you will see.. Just don't resort to vengeance, specially cheating. It was and will be never okay. :) Just a piece of my mind :)

My first question would be how long have you two been together. You said you think he is cheating and you are talking about getting revenge. That is never a good thing to do even if it is true that he is cheating. You need to have a good old fashioned sit down and talk it out with him. The golden rule is a good rule of thumb. Communication needs to be in your relationship.