Men who live with their mothers

I guess it would depend on the relationship he had with his mother. If he were living at home to help his mother with her expenses or she has health problems and shouldn't live alone, that's great. If he's living at home to have someone take care of him, not so great! If he was a "mommy's boy" and tied to her apron strings, I would definitely run the other way!

I don't think I want to date a guy whose mother is still doing his laundry. That is just a little to weird for me. Unless he is maybe living with her to help her out with money, or because she is in poor health. But living with your and you are in your 30s means you definitely have issues.

I wouldn't want to go out with a guy that was still living with his mother. I like a guy who can look after himself, who can cook and clean etc and won't need me to clear up after him like a child.

I think I would look into the reason why the man is still living with his mother and what kind of arrangement they had. For instance, when I started dating my boyfriend, he was still living in his mother's house but in an apartment downstairs. He paid rent and lived independently, so it didn't bother me too much. Let's say for a minute that teh man is not living independently. Here are the things I would look into: 1) Is this a cultural thing? In many cultures, the oldest son has a very important role to play in the family. This is especially true if his father has passed away. As the next oldest man in the family, than the oldest son is expected to care for his mother and also keep an eye on the rest of the family. In this case, he is doing his family duty and can therefor be seen as understandable. What happens to his mother and his role when he does get married, well that's another story. 2) Is it for financial reasons? Nowadays people can continue to be in school well into their 30s. This makes it more and more common for people (men included) to live at home because their school expenses are so high. In this case, the man is working towards a goal and is doing what he needs to do to make it work. That's pretty impressive to me. 3) What kind of relationship does he have with his mother? This is where we see the red flag. If he allows his mother to do everything for him and seems to just be there because he is lazy, then this can be a real problem. I've seen men who live with their mom's just so they have someone to do their laundry and cook their meals. This is when I would be worried because there is a possibility that the man would expect you to do all the things that his mother does and will compare you to her as you do them. Being close to your mother is a good thing, refusing to establish independence from her is a bad thing. I agree with you, MaMa's Boys can be scary, but I wouldn't write off a guy who lived with his mother until I understood what was really going on.

This has something to do with culture. The thing is, most Asian culture would require the son in the family to live with parents and take care of them even after they got married. The guy is not dependent on his parents, but he is actually doing the filial piety that a son should do. This is pretty difference from some culture where after the children got old enough, they should separate from their parents and live on their own. It is not wrong whatsoever. But that is the culture differences that people has.

i met my husband 12 yrs. ago as he stopped by his ex-wife's house to pay is monthly child support payment. love at first sight! i left with him that day and have been with him ever since. jan,2013-we'll be married 6 yrs. we have lived with his parents the whole time we've been married. up's and downs-i actually left him last june for 3 months and came back and were stlii here.i believe that i've become the sick one living here.