It's so unfair!! ENVY, how do you deal with it?

Count your blessings and remember that there are a lot of people who don't have a family or husband to love and care for them, who don't have a roof over their head, who have no friends, or food to eat or clothes to wear, who can't afford an education...Don't compare your life to that of your friends', be happy for them and what they have accomplished.

I think envy is just something normal in all human beings. We all think about "the grass being greener". You just have to keep reminding yourself that you have a great life and there are people out there who envy YOU! I try to do that when I start feeling envious. I wish for more money, for a nicer car, for better clothes, to be skinnier...BUT, I remind myself that my husband loves me even at a size 20 and my kids are beautiful and good. I have a roof over my head and I do have a car even if it's not the greatest. SOme people don't have as much as I do. I am thankful for that. Just don't feel bad for being envious. That is being human. Just don't let it get to you so you aren't a good person.

you may have a little bit of depression going on there.you are feeling alone. you miss your loved one so it has also made you start to notice what others have and you are still waiting to get.if you man was here you would be out having fun and not worring about the other people. i was always told if you are not getting anywhere ,then you are trying to hard, let up a little and things will start to fall into place.i never knew you could try to hard but it did work for it in the passed. i was putting to much pressure on myself and it was taking a toll on me.the other old saying you have got to love yourself brfore others can love you.. that is saying you have to be happy with yourself or you will drive others away..

I think it's somewhat normal to be jealous from time to time. My friend would always talk about how other people had this or had that or she wanted something, etc. I told her someone will always have something you want or have more money or have a better relationship or be doing something better. It will always be that way. The thing you need to do is be happy with yourself and what you have in your life. Until you are truly happy with you and your life, you will always be looking at others and "competing". It's true. Try not to worry about other people. That's the best way to get over that envy. Sometimes it will be you and sometimes it will be them that has everything going smoothly.

i have severe envy for everyone who is in better healt that me...who can live in their OWN place and not their parent's place...who can come and go as they please...who can be with their beloved or at lewast visit them... Yes, i more than envy them. i have a lot of contempt. And yes, i know that is terrible, but at least i am honest about it.

You should satisfy with what you had been offered by God. There is no end if you are jealous. Read spiritual books and do meditation. In India we have lot of spiritual gurus. Lot of spiritual books are freely available in the internet also.

Starline, you are lucky already. If you reach my age, you will be looking back at what you used to have and what you have now in terms of graces, love and even material things. You grow into it and the more you know about yourself, the more that you will find out that you are actually very lucky in many ways. It will take you more than what you read or what has been preached to you. It will only be you that will find that. With regards to being envious, it has a positive and a negative effect on one's personality. Positive is when you strive harder in your endeavors to reach your goal to match someone's achievements. The negative is that it will never end as there will always be someone richer, more famous, more gragarious, more beautiful than you. Finding out that you are already blessed with so many things HE has given, will take time and so I say the people that had reached enlightenment early in life are the very lucky few.

I used to be envy on alot of things then, from friends, possessions, to loved ones. But now, I find it more of just a worthless thing for me to get jealoused and envy. Someone told that it will only cause me more into trouble if I don't change the way of seeing other things, it will only put me more into self-esteem and only to live a life with no sense at all. Envy and jealousy if not taken with proper attention, would only eat us all through out our lives. So I try to change my views on it by appreciating what others have and their reasons of having it, being optismistic would help us alot in these situations.

I envy people who others think are better, but then I won't change my life for the world. I've come to terms with myself and is trying to be the best on my own terms, not by somebody else's standards. I feel that if I ask something from high above to be just like the people I envy, I'm going to pay a high price, which I'm not willing to do. So I'm just buying time and making something of myself at own pace. Competition is good, but racing with me, myself, and I is a win-win game.

I envy a lot of the same things you do. I hate that I work so hard, and it seems I accomplish nothing. I try and try, and other's sit there and everything just falls into their lap. I hate that.

My best friend of 22 years is the first thing I thought of when I saw your discussion. We are envious of each other as crazy as that sounds. I'm not trying to sound conceited, but usually i'm the one in my peer group being envied. Nice big house, brand new vehicle, almost picture perfect relationship with my hubby, 3 great kids, I work because I want to, not because I have to, you get the idea. I am happy with my life. Then I talk to my best friend. She's single, nice apartment, good job, no kids, focusing on getting her masters degree, and nobody to answer to. I have to admit, on occassion I am quite envious of her. I guess we both have our own sets of problems and the grass is always greener. I guess it just comes down to if you're happy being you. Everyone is different and I guess blessed in their own ways.

One should try to see the bright side of strange feelings like envy or jealousy: it is no harm if they make you more persistent in love and carring, in wishing a better relationship, in finding solutions to improve your life. What do I find most envy? Perhaps the strength to enjoy simple things or to act without expecting rewards or even appreciation.

i think evryone has the feeling of jealoursy sometimes.the thing is how do you deal with the feeling.keep the feeling in your mind allday ,then you'll spoil your life.and you can make the feeling to encourge yourself.why i can't be beetr? i'll try my best!

Jealousy as well as other defects are natural flaws of the human nature.You just have to understand that all people are jealous of something or some one.Think about it like this:your friends may be jealous of something you have.It can be anything.You don't have to look only on the empty side of the glass,think that someday you will have a nice apartment and you will afford to go on wonderful vacations.You say you are a student...so there is plenty of time for you to buy your dream house and do the things you like.

theirs nothing to envy about starline you have your husband that loves you very much, you have nice family. You have your own way to live, and so to others.. maybe you have to keep yourself busy to avoid seeing others success and to be envy.