Co Workers who Invade Your Personal Space
By onabreak2
@onabreak2 (1161)
United States
February 16, 2007 9:37am CST
We have a new gal here who has upset quite a few of her co-workers. She doesn't really bother me . She is kind of short (real short), but when she comes up to talk to someone she gets up real close to them. Some people dont like that.
So the co workers have been staying away from her.
She is very friendly and just wants to get along with everyone.Do you think there is a nice way for them to tell her they dont like it when she gets that close to them?
I am afraid of hurting her feelings by telling her that is why they dont include her. She also pokes her nose into every conversation everyone has around her.
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4 responses
@not4me (1711)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I would try out my own body language like engage her in conversation but back up and look just uncomfortable enough for her to get the hint. If she is too dense to take a hint maybe just go on a break with her and be honest about the situation. Make sure she knows you are looking out for her best interest and she shouldn't be too upset.
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I will try that. She is really short though. Kind of almost a midget. So that might have something to do with it. Thank you for your comment.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
5 Mar 07
No unfortunately, she has gotten much worse and now is aggravating the people that were trying real hard to make piece. She butts in to every ones conversations and is on of those touchy feelie people. Oh well.
@mishelletheavonlady (19)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I feel bad for your new friend. She just wants to be in with some friends. You could tell her on the sly that someone she works with ( you can't say who!) has a mental disorder and if you get to close to that person , they will flip out and grab you by the throat and choke you, So to be careful just stand back when you are in a confersation and wait a few minutes to start in any conversation. Yes it is a little white lie, but it wont hurt her feelings and she will appreciate it , thinking you are saving her life possibly....Mishelle
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
17 Feb 07
She isnt my new friend. I really dont have to deal with her a lot. She butts in to conversations though. I just dont like people to be treated like an outsider when they are new on a job. I think it is mean.
That is a good idea though.
Thanks for your comment.
@michelledarcy (5220)
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16 Feb 07
I think the best thing to do is to be honest. Make sure you are alone when you tell her so you don't make her really embaressed and then ask her if she has heard of personnal space, and explain what the problem is.
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I dont feel comfortable saying anything to her right now. The person who was mean about it was chastised about it
so she has backed off on making her feel uncomfortable.
But I know someone who is closer to her now and I will suggest it to her. In the meantime I think she is going to stay away from the one girl who is basically ugly to everyone. She has issues.
@bowtieguy (5915)
• United States
29 Aug 07
There is a guy that I work with that boast a lot and likes to get in people faces when he dose, especially mine. We like to one up each other, but it seems that he is doing most of the one uping. These two other guys do it as weel when he is around, they seem to find a need to constantly impress him, I guess they are just using him to help climb that corperate ladder. I find it intemidating, not to mention his breat is kind of foul and it hurts to breath sometimes lol.
