Expressing Yourself

That is also what my boyfriend told me that I have to open up with him so that we will be able to have a fruitful, satisfying and lasting relationship ahead of us. He felt that I have so many secrets and that I am not really opening up with him. Based on my experience, I did not change a thing about me. I just let him discover the real and true me. In that way he will be able to see me in different perspective and that he will truly understand me and that he will know that there are actions of mine that directly telling him... "Hey, am opening up... am telling you somethin' that is just between us...then I smile....." 8)

No one can give any kind of suggestion to you how to open up to yours husband as you surely believe that you are opened up with him aleady, only thing thats annoying you is that you cant reason with , what he meant by opening up. Let me throw some light on what realy yours husband meant by asking you to open up, I believe that there in some corner he feels that he has yet to discover you in totalty and there is a shade of yours persoanlity or life which he thinks he has yet to reach it. He feels that there are some suppressed emotions or feelings which stil are hesitent to come out. He want to feel them and want to be comfertable with them. May be you dont have anything new to tell him but some how he is under the impression that you not giving him 100% of yourself. It seem more his problem than yours so tackle him by asking him what he wants or what he realy looking for. And may be in the end you will be surprised to know yours own husband opening up to you and to able to see him in all togather prespective.

Does he think you have secrets? Or maybe you do not speak enough :D , and he thinks you do not tell him your thoughts. I see there are some misunderstanding bettween you. Maybe he needs only the wife chattering...!!! Do smile and chatter to him. I am sure that after a while he will said: OK it is enough for now :) Discuss about each little thing that happened to you. Maybe you are only closed and silent a little. Aren't you? good luck to you

He wants you to relate with him the same way you would relate to one of your girlfriends. Hopefully he understands that there are some distinct differences between men and women that are inherent to us. One of them being that women use both sides of their brains simultaneously while we men only use one side at a time. Start a dicussion with him on this topic and go from there.

Maybe you can be you. Yup, just be yourself. And try to ask him. What the things which he want to know from you. The communication is very important. If you shy to talk maybe you can give him an email or SMS.

i'm single but i think what your husband is saying is say everything that is bothering you. he thinks that there is something thats wrong with you. or you have a heavy feeling insie your heart that you need tell him. just tell him whats in your mind about life, whats in your mind and heart. sometimes you think you've already said everything but the fact is that you've just said a little to say. some people might think that they've said it but its like that to other people. its okay to say whats in your head as long its okay and will make you feel better.

Why don't you ask him what he means, then? You need to be able to communicate with your husband. That might be part of it. Don't ask strangers what your husband is talking about, ask HIM!