step families oh the stess

I am so sorry to hear your situation. My boyfriend and i have an 18 month old together and I have a 14yr old and 6yr old. I know that it was very tough for him (boyfriend) at first to adjust to the kids. I think they seem to all get along pretty well now though. I cannot imagine the pain you must feel and your kids too. I hope that your wife does not openly tell the children this. I also hope that she makes the attemp to rectify the situation as well. you are a family and should all continue to work towards harmony. She is the adult here and should realize that the effort should mainly be on her part too. good luck.

My husbands son doesn't like me. He lived with us for about a year after we got married and he was impossible to get along with. He just decided that he didn't want to listen to anything we had to say. He was 23 at the time but very immature. We put up with this for about a year and it got so bad that we had to have him go and live with his mother. So of course he now blames for all of his problems. One day he will probably figure it out, but the the meantime as long as my husband and him have a relationship that is all that matters.

I have never gone through this. I have a lot of friends who have though. I knew when I divorced I would never re-marry until my son was grown. I knew no one could LOVE him like me, he is a by product of me and my ex. No one would have understood him like I did. It is hard being a step mother and it was just something I did not want to tackle. Girls are tough even with their own Mothers, so don't fret one day she will be grown and all will be well.

i have been in this situation but not as a parent my mom married my x-step-dad and he had 2 kids and she had me, my 2 brothers and my sister for a total of 6 it went fine for a year or so but as the tention built betwen us and my step-dad and my step brother and sister and my mom thing got crazy we were the worst kids i could ever imagin and eventualy my step dad began to hate us and although it was never said out loud everyone knew it and they never addresed the problem so we just began to hate him more than he hated us and the more hatred in the air the worse we were and my step dad and mom couldnt take it long story short they are no longer together so what im trying to say is either find a good way to address the problem or be prepared to go through lots of arguing and tention until the littlest is grown up and then they'll be out the house and thing will cool down as they will relize it was stupid.

The word Step has a Psychological impact of anger & frustration both with men & women alike including the children. Step Families survival i s grace of its members otherwise it is usually a lot of backstabbers & grudges. If you can think humanly & incultivate humanity in your attitudes towards such step relationships then that is the maximum which can be done. And do not proceed further than that because no one can straighten a dog's tail. Very few are blessed to enjoy a good step relationship though, but usually it does not happen by rule.

Talk about similar storylines except I'm the wife. My kids and I came from an abusive relationship into my current one. Its with the greatest guy I could ever want and yes we share 1 child. He went through alot initially but I thought he coped well, always positive always supportive. Problem is our relationship has hit the rocks because we know we hate each others kids. He says mine are brats and until they sort themselves out hes no longer going to give them the time of day. His kids use to come every fortnightly weekend but now refuse to, so he goes elsewhere with them for this period. They never interacted with mine in the first place even though mine tried hard to get them to like them. I actually only started to hate them when they refused to come after all that, siting that they don't like my kids. I believe too that this was when we hit the rocks, creating my hatred and probably his too. I love my man so much but I don't know what I'm suppose to do. I thought your love for 1 another was suppose to span to include the children? And just because your children don't get on does'nt mean you start hating the other set and eventually each other. Unlike you, my partner now treats me like he does my kids. I on the otherhand still love him deeply but am unsure as to whether I'm suppose to. Chin up, at least your prob is only 1 sided lol. My one and only help to you is to say that she must compromise with you somewhere along the line for things to work out. Remember you were'nt the only 1 with baggage. Good luck!