Have you ever been attacked/judged on mylot?
By fieryfrost
@fieryfrost (316)
Philippines
February 17, 2007 8:22pm CST
I have been a member of mylot for 2 months now and I have to say I enjoy posting, replying and making my own topics on here. I reply to topics based on my opinion and I respect all the posters' opinions. But how come there are people on here who actually judge you or attack you directly as a person rather than answering the topic at hand? I've noticed that there are some people who can't respect other's opinions and start to post nasty things about you just because you don't agree with what they're saying and the funny thing is that you're just expressing yourself on a single topic and they seem to "know" you based from that. Anyway, I've received a comment like this in one of my topics and read some from others' topics. I've never rated anybody a negative rating, but if people continue bashing on people and not answering the topics directly, I think I should re-think about that. Anyway, have you guys also encountered this on mylot, or maybe it's just me? Thanks for your reply.
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10 responses
@Jusred (1578)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Oh yeah!
I find that if you answer the 'touchy' topics, especially, and give your honest-to-God 2 cents worth, you will probably be 'attacked'...I always try to answer to the best of my integrity without breaking any of myLot's rules. And i find the contoversial discussions more of a challenge to answer. In my opinion, it is better to respond to these 'attacks' then to just simply report, ignore, or rate negative..Yet the key is to get your point across, changed if it be, without sinking to level of those who prefer to tick you off than beg to differ the topic at hand. And of course if someone is going to be obviously ignorant, i will also rate negatively and/or report depending upon how much i feel that other person has crossed whatever line..But not without standing up for myself..Just doing so in an 'adult' and unbiased manner~
Good Luck!
@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. It's nice to hear that there are still a lot of mature audiences and posters here on myspace who deal with these posters with such patience!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Hi. I have been a member almost a month now. I have been attacked only one time I believe. I don't post too many discussions here in mylot because of it. All of us have the right to voice our opinions on topics. I don't think it is right to be rude or nasty to anyone here. We are all supposed to be here to help each other out. I don't think I could be rude or hateful to any one here. I would simply skip out on responding to them instead. I rate everyone positively and if I do not think a reply is legit to what I asked for, then I just skip it instead of rating them negatively. I think mylot sees those responses and deducts from them any way. I don't think many people are doing the rating thing anymore, but I still am.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. That's a great way to put it. As they say if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything....it's just sad that there are still some people who would rather nasty things about the posters =(. I hope mylot takes note of those responses and protect us. Thanks again.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Yes, I have been judged and attacked on here in the past but I just ignore them and move on. I have had people call me a baby because they thought I was complaining about things in my posts. They also told me that my posts were stupid and were wasting peoples time on here. The best thing to do if something like this happens is to ignore them or give them a minus rating or report them as abuse if you feel they offended you or humiliated you in any way. Retaliating would do more harm than good.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. You're right, retaliating would do more harm than good and this statement is not only applicable here on myspace but everywhere else. Thanks for sharing this.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Oh yes that can happen. I have had a stalker who managed to drop my reputation percentage by 4% in a week. After have earned a 100 points you get a star with show your reputation. These a petty mean spirited individuals and all you can do is ignore them but if they actually post something rude or plain nasty you can report them.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. I will think about you're suggestion.
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
i have never encountered such a thing here but have seen a few. people should understand that this is a community of posting and discussing ideas. We should respect each other's point of view. We can also give a negative comment but we have to choose the right words that won't or can't hurt anybody. We should always be polite and think of their feelings. After all we all get a good knowledge here that can help us in everyday living. Let us not attack the person who started the discussion but let us attack the ideas of each one. Give comments and suggestions in your point of view not in general. This way you will be safe and be understood.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. I swear, I answer very politely. And if there are times I have to disagree with someone, I tell them that "I am sorry but I disagree with what you're saying" and I still do respect their opinion. I guess I am just being sensitive since it's the first time I've encountered somebody attacking me instead of attacking the topic. I am not used to that.
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@JulieSkyRock (401)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
Hi,
You shouldn't pay attention to people who injure you. I guess we can meet bad persons everywhere, including on My Lot. Just don't care, there will always be good people who will respect you. :)
@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. That's something to think about! It's soo true, very well said.
@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Oh, I'm always being attacked and judged on here. I'm very vocal about my opinions, and while I never try to bring anyone around to my own point of view, I express myself when the discussion calls for it. And that's usually enough to get people up in arms towards me. I've had people stalk my discussions and spam them with nasty responses, I've had people post entire discussions about how horrible I am, all kinds of things.
I don't let it bother me. Their lashing out and their resentment is their problem, not mine.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. That's a very nice way to deal with it...just let it go and true, it's their problem not ours. That's what I like with posters such as yourself because you/they can be honest with their views and opinions and makes sure that they respect others' as well.
@michelledarcy (5220)
•
18 Feb 07
I have found people like that. I think it isn't fair to judge a person just on one opinion that they have, but a lot of people do seem to do this. They can leave horrible comments and them give negative responses to every question and answer you have given which is really unfair.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Thanks for the response. I agree with you that it's unfair, because here we are, answering posts and topics with all honesty and here they are nothing better to do than bash others and disrespect others' opinions.
@TheOriginalRed1 (512)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I have to admit I have gotten a couple of off colored comments. I just try to over look them and move on. It's not easy to be personally attacked for an opinion or an idea but I guess you have to expect it with such a large and diverse group.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. You're right. We can't always please everybody here and expect them to have the same opinions as you also to expect respect from each and every member.
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@cool_ajay (35)
• India
19 Feb 07
Well, if i dont agree with someones' opinion then i would like better nt to post msg on his discussion or else try to make him know my view in a manner so that he can get my point right, b'coz this is way how can u think of making someone understand how does u feel abt his thinkings......
