I am feeling guilty and sad. Please help

like charlene and sue has said, you are lucky to have a friend like her. try to think more first before saying something next time. so you won't hurt her again.

Yeah, I know she would forgive me, after so many resposnes I am feeling little a lot better. I really think it is all over. She will surely take it easy.

I think that you have been very lucky for her to forgive you, but how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? I always put myself in the position of the "other" person whilst considering what to do about anything that has happened. I lost a 14 year friendship as my friend told others my private business, I was devastated, hurt,felt used and abused too. I had forgiven her twice before, but the third time was just too much for me, the trust had gone. As a Disabled person, I still felt the need to "escort" her from my home, to make sure she had left, and I had put the rubbish out. It's fine saying I didn't know it was a secret, but as a person that it happened to, I can assure you that it feels terrible. Try to think very carefully before you say something about anyone, make sure its something that you wouldn't mind others knowing about you, if not, then probably they wouldn't want it spread around either. I do hope that you keep her friendship, work hard at it and find some way of proving to her that you won't do it again.

She is not angry. She is very soft at heart, she might be upset. I apologized to her. She said, she's over it. She is so kind to me even after that. That is why I feel even more guilty, that I did this to such a good person

You have really put the harsh reality in front of me. Yeah, I was gossiping. I am really feeling ashamed when I realize that. That for letting me know that.

I never knew it was a secret. I respect every secret of my friends, as much as I respect them. I am really in sixes and sevens now.

I had something similar so I learned - better don`t talk much about your friends especially about their private life, their feelings. You have to understand what you can say and what you must not say about your Friends. But seems like it's ok now, so just don`t repeat something like that.

Trust is the most important thing in any relationship so take care in future....

I don't think this would create gap, in our friendship, she is so good a friend for that to happen. But the thing is that, I am not able to keep my emotions at check for what I have done.

Actually another thing that works quite well. If a person gives you the heads up by saying something along the lines of, just between you & me or can you keep a secret? Say, sorry but no I can't, so please if you want to gossip or tell me something no one else should no, don't tell me. Than your off the hook.

You made a point there. I will remember that.

You got it wrong, there was no mistake from her side, it was my miscalculation. So I should repent, not her.

Yeah, I don't think I should go that far. She is not cross with me as I told you, she is just upset. She never showed me that.

I was wondering why you did not reply, yeah, i think she would be OK. But as I told, I felt bad when I saw the sense of shock in her face, it took time for me to pull myself together.

ok..looks like ur lookinn forward to my replies..dats cool..well..dont worry man..she just wasnt expecting it..but she obviously understood things..she's a gr8 friend after all..u can make it up 4 her in a different way!!

You put that right. I will die but not repeat this mistake again. This is a lesson which I would never forget in my life.

You put it exactly right. She had excellent common sense, so I am saved, if it was someone else, the story would have been different.

I really hope I get a chance to prove that I am in fact a very good friend and this was just an accident. I really wish,

It is good that you've realized your short-comings. May this be a reminder to everybody, that we are not to convey to others on the behaviour and attitude of a person that we know. Anybody. Just keep to yourself for it may embarass you or the person.

Yeah, I learnt my lesson for a hefty price. But, I know my mistakes now and will make amends for it. Our friendship is never in danger because of this, that is one relief.

yep. since all had been done already and you can't take back the time, babyreyn is right. make your bestfriend feel the sincerity of your words. i just hope she's not really hurt anymore and that she has totally forgiven you.

Thanks for your compliment, since I posted this response, I am feeling lot better. Thanks for all of your response.

It is not simple as you think. You can expect your friend to go on say this is a secret, this is not, etc. You got to understand, and I failed to do that. That is my mistake.