Do you get nervous about sarting something new?
By rosie_123
@rosie_123 (6113)
February 18, 2007 12:43pm CST
As many of my friends here will know, tomorrow I am starting a new job. It is still within my original company, but is a 2-month contract, that will involve some very long hours and quite a lot of stress, and hassle, and hard work along the way. My partner's sister just rang up to wish me luck, and asked me if I was nervous............. and I had to admit that I am not at all! I can only work hard, and do my best - if I fail, I fail - life is too short to get stressed in my opinion. It uses up far too much negative energy.
But I know lots of people do get really anxious, and nervous before any big occasion. For them starting a new job, having an interview, taking their driving test, sitting an exam, or even walking into a conference or meeting alone, can be daunting.
So how do you feel in these situations? Do you get stressed, and anxious? If so, - how does it make you feel, and how do you try and overcome your fears.
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@alantae (243)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I get very anxious and nervous before starting something new. I remember being very nervous before moving into the dorms here and starting classes this year. Or something like starting a new job usually makes me nervous to. Mostly because I'm worried that I won't be able to handle the change. But things usually end up working out in the end.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
19 Feb 07
i remember, when i was first sent to a dormitory, too, i got really nervous since i am going to share a room with someone i haven't met yet. what if she won't like me? what if she'd hate me? too many things in mind. but i think that's just the normal "me". but just like you alantae, it all works out in the end and it always does.
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@shywolf (4514)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Being as painfully shy as I am, I can get nervous simply about going someplace that I've never been before, depending on what it is. I just have to try to work around my fear as best I can, when that happens. I don't really have any tried and true methods. I just don't go to the 'new' place unless I want to be there badly enough that my wanting to be there overrides my fear enough that I can at least give it a try.
Good luck on your new job! ^_^
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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18 Feb 07
It must be so sad to feel like that so often. I think you are very brave to deal with it as well as you do. Thanks for your answer.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb 07
Firstly good luck for tomorrow Rosie, you'll be fine, it happens to us all, it's fear of the unknown, you are stepping into the unknown and when we are going into something we need to be prepared for every eventuality and we need to know how we are going to be accepted and then you start worrying whether you will fit in, whether you like the job and making a good first impression. The worst experience for me was sitting my driving test, thankfully I passed before they introduced the theory test, but I was so nervous that is why I failed the first time round, second time around I was much better and knew what the score was and evidently I sailed through.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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18 Feb 07
I passed mine first time - though goodness knows why! I am actually not a good dryver, I admit - I don't enjoy driving - I do it out of necessity, not pleasure at all!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb 07
Yes I used to get very anxious about starting a new Job. But the last one I did I was more Anxious then ever as I was promoted to Manager. I got really stressed and worried and I was hoping that I would be able to do it. I did it I was with the Company for 8 Years, then I got an incurable Illness and the New Manager bullied me out of my Job.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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18 Feb 07
That is very sad - I am so sorry to hear it. Thanks for responding.
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@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
18 Feb 07
everyone does get nervous on starting something that is new especially when u do not have experience in that particlar field so yes surely i do get nervous on starting something new
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@ownado (1679)
• Portugal
18 Feb 07
As long as I'm shy I have real difficulties to get used to new places and new people so in the first month or something I try to get to know the people and them it gets better if you're not nervous about it I just can say that it's cool... sometimes nerves spoil the situation.
All I can say is good look for your new job :)
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
18 Feb 07
First of all I want to say Best of Luck for your new venture.
I am not that strong in the case of starting something new or getting an exam or go for an iterview. I feel very nervous for this things. If I know also I can do well, still I feel lots of stress. I fel horible before exam. My parnts and my huby always encourage me at that time. But I just never learn. I don't know why I feel so.
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@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
19 Feb 07
lol....yes,somebody will get nervous when starting the new things,me too.and it is a common matter.but i think that ,you can prevent from the nervous ,just to breath deeply and do them with confidence.bless you.
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I do get nervous, I don't even like going in a room with a lot of strangers, lol, but I do it anyway because I realize it's a fact of life. Whenever I start a new job, I just pray for the first three weeks to go by really quickly because by the end of that time period I figure I'll know the job well enough to be able to do it with very few errors. I take pride in a job well done and I always stress out that I won't be able to do it well enough. But I try to overcome these fears by continually doing it and not quitting.
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@michelledarcy (5220)
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18 Feb 07
Well done you for not getting nervous and I hope it goes really well for you.
I do get nervous about things like that. I calm myself by thinking about all the possible things that could go wrong and then thinking about what I can do to stop it happening and then that helps me feel better about the situation.
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@serialmommy (639)
• United States
19 Feb 07
First off, congrats on the new job. Secondly, yes, I do get nervous. I think it is part of human nature and our fear of the unknown. After all, it's not comfortable and the known, so how can we know if we'll succeed, or we'll be o.k. doing it, or even if we'll like it? Right now, my husband is looking in to a new job. It'd be a huge pay increase, it'd also be lots more hours. And it's a project that may or may not pan out for the long run. And it would require us to move an hour away from where we live now. Lots of changes for just a job. And is scares the bejeezus out of me. I know that most of the work involved in the move would be mine. From packing to finding a new dr. for the kids. Such a huge undertaking, especially for something that may not be a long term thing. But worth it. So I'm trying to swallow my hesitation and go at it full force with everything that I know I'm capable of.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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19 Feb 07
Thank you, and good luck with your move if it goes ahead. I am sure you will be fine:-))
@cool_rajchauhan (74)
• India
19 Feb 07
yeah its true and i also agree with this that it is a human nature if u r doing something new u r always going to face sme problem which r the major cause of the nervous wht as human being we shud nt fare it and yeah u might feel stress nad anxious wht my dear frd these r the part fo life ,
so other guys wht u thuink abt this
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
To feel anxious about something new is a very normal experience. The best thing to do is to imagine yourself in the situation that you are about to be in. Project yourself as a new employee in the cubicle. Visualize the people around you and greet them with your sweet smiles. Visualize your boss squarely observing you, but there be confident and try to act lightly. Take time to do this at night before you sleep. Then, look for something small like a coin or paper clip. Put it inside your pocket and when the time comes you're there. When you feel panicky or anxious hold on to that small thing and be busy with it using only your fingers. Stay focus, take relaxing breaths and proceed.
Act brave and courageos afterall they'll never know the difference between acting and the real feeling.
@mystikel (577)
• Australia
19 Feb 07
It is very daunting starting something new, going out of your comfort zone and doing something your not comfortable doing.
I am shy and get anxious and quite often wont do something just because its different to what I normally do
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Feb 07
everyone does i guess...well i was into that situation..and i cant sleep thinking about it..and very exited to be morning ..to be able to meet them my coworkers and the tasks ahead of me...not really fear but its what we call exitement for the new things i have to undergo in my life..
@220870 (249)
• India
19 Feb 07
I do get butterflies in my stomach when I take up something new. Keep talking to yourself, don't think of winning and failing. Your are prepared to work hard that is what matters. Hard work always paid. Remember, everything happens for the best. Good luck.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I always get nervous/anxious when I am about to start something new especially a new job. It's the thought of not really knowing what to expect on the first day. The first week is usually the hardest and then if things go ok, then I go about my new duties and try to establish a routine/shedule for the following weeks.
@diaoestgurl (31)
• Vietnam
19 Feb 07
Like most of you have responded here, i also get nervous and anxious whenever i take part in some big occasions. It's much worse before because i was a shy and slow girl. I still remember the day i entered high school, i was too nervous to remember where my hair clips were. It took me 15 minutes sweating to find them somewhere under my desk
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