opinions on husband situation

Its really saddening to know about your husband and it must be a really hard time for you. I sincerely hope that things get better for you, him and your family. In my opinion i guess he should under go the procedure if its safe and if the doctors can gaurantee success then i see why he shouldnt undergo it and come out as a healthier person.

wow that's a tough one! Why do they have to go through the groin up? Can they not access it through a burr hole right into the skull? No matter which way they do it there are risks indeed. How big is it? What is the risk now of it rupturing? I mean is it near the rupture point? or still small? You said it was not growing? I think I would keep an active eye on it with regular checkups and wait it out - wait to see if it starts to grow or not. I know the risks of it rupturing, but it sounds like it is stable right now. How did they find it? Does it cause problems now? Sorry for all the questions, but it's hard to answer without knowing more info. Best of luck to you and your family.

My father just got out of the hospital last month for an aneurysm. He had a cold and was coughing real bad. When they gave him an mri for his back because of the pain, they found the aneurysm. The doctors said it could rupture at any time, or a chance that it might not rupture. They also told him because of his age (62) he might not make it thru surgery. But my dad decided to go thru with the surgery, and is doing great. He was scared, but he went ahead anyhow. So good luck, I think this is a decision your husband will have to make for himself. I think you can just tell him your point of view, and then he has to decide himself.

To be honest with you its great to get advice and all but in the end its you and your husbands decision. i have a son who needed a scull reconstruction as his fontonell (front of the scull) closed up when he was 4 months old and when it closed the 2 pieces overlapped eachother and it was at a point like the top of a triangle. He did not need the operation as when the brain grows so will the rest of the bones of the scull. But the doctors said it is our best interest to get it done as when he grows older it would be very noticeable. Its a major opperation and should of gone for 4-6 hours but went for 3 1/2 hrs. The cons of the opperation was too much blood loss and he would die, His body may reject the blood they put in, accidently slicing open the main part of the brain and lose sight, forget what his learnt so far as far as rolling over and speach. There were millions of risks involved and he survived it all and is fine and helthy. The sadest part was seeing him after the opperation with his head all bandaged up and eyes so swallen he couldnt open them, and then him trying to cry but could'nt it was too much for me and my partner to handle i didnt want to leave him but i had to. Seeing him in soo much pain it broke my heart. But as i was saying he is fine healthy and the third day when he could slightly open his eyes and see he grinned from ear to ear at us. Back to you if you think that there is a chance of him crashing in the car or it rupturing in the next couple of months then i would get it done if i were in your shoes but if you feel that it wont then just take it easy and decide in the next couple of months. This is what i feel anyway. Its is all up to you and your husband though in the end.

I am so sorry this is happening to You and Your Family. Please accept my prayers and good wishes as you all go through this together. I would have to take the surgery. Not doing anything is more risky. At least with the surgery he has the chance to lead a normal life after he recovers. All surgeries are a risk and scarey some more then others. The best thing is to sit down and talk to your husband about the pros and cons about doing th Surgery vs not doing it.

This would be a hard situation to deal with! I'm so sorry you have to. Personally, I would get it done ASAP just for the fact that any day could be his last. Even though it hasn't grown in 4 years, things can happen unexpectedly.

get it don wright now you are playing with fire by not geting it don as fart as you can do you want to be an widow with a little kid and have him grow up with out a dad

It needs to be his choice. If it were anyone else's and something went wrong, guilt would follow the person the rest of their lives.

In my opinion, I think the surgery should be done. Whenever I have a problem, I would always tackle it by cutting it from its root or cause, so that there would be more damage control or less problems that could be further created. Thus, before any more damage is done by putting others in danger (like your son) because of the situation, it's best to get the surgery done. Good thing it's an elective procedure and I would assume that the entry through the groin is less risky than having to go direct to the brain itself. I wish you all the best. Hope everything turns out fine.

first of all, i am sorry for what happened to your husband (*HUG*). My opinion is that he should get the operation done. I know it involves RISKS, but, by not doing so, he will surely get worse and...eventually, u know. So, what would you choose? A posibility? Or certitude? Besides, you should consider that (and i know it sounds macabre, but it's rational, too), if the operation fails (God forbid!), then, he would be the only victim, but, if things would be like you said (he driving with your son and boom!), then, it's ever worse. Anyway, i hope he gets better! And, please, DO NOT BE SAD ABOUT THIS! SUPPORT HIM WITH YOUR HEART, SOUL AND BODY CONSTANTLY! THAT MEANS A LOT! i wish you all the best!

Wow, what a choice! My heart goes out to you and my prayers will definitely be with you as well!

Looking at your story I would deffinatly say have the surgery, at least it gives him a fighting chance. We are going through simular with my brother only 39 yrs of age fighting a brain tumour. I can understand how agonising things must be for you at this time. We wil be praying for a miracle here for you and your family Lynn-Marie

sorry to hear about that sarah.. the procedure is risky..that's not the safest thing to do but maybe for now, its the best solution for it.. unruptured aneurysm is a silent killer too,, we wouldnt know when wil it hapen.. if u wudnt go for the procedure now, ull be under a dark cloud everyday that ur husband's aneurysm wil rupture anytime. it would just bother u everyday... and if he undergo the procedure, yes, u have faced the risk of him being paralyzed, and all. do what u think what is best for him.. God loves us.. if HE brought you to it, HE will brng you Through it.. have faith ms. sarah! :)

Oh My God! I certainly would suggest doing it if there is a risk of your child getting hurt in a car accident. I wish you guys the best of luck!

Because symptoms often do not appear until bleeding occurs, a ruptured cerebral aneurysm is an emergency condition when it is discovered. The goal of treatment is to control symptoms and prevent further bleeding. Lowering blood pressure can reduce the risk of further bleeding. Neurosurgery is the primary treatment for cerebral/brain aneurysm. The base of the aneurysm is closed off with camps, sutures, or other methods that prevent blood flow through the aneurysm. In many cases, special coils can be placed into the aneurysm through the arteries. This causes a clot to form in the aneurysm and prevents further bleeding. This is considered a less invasive approach than brain surgery, and in the appropriate circumstances, it is regarded as the best form of treatment. If surgery is not feasible because of the location or size of the aneurysm or the condition of the person, medical treatment is similar to treatment for subarachnoid haemorrhage. This may include restricting activity (often complete bedrest is advised), treating symptoms such as headache, controlling blood pressure, and prescribing preventive use of antiseizure medications. Once the aneurysm is repaired, prevention of stroke due to blood vessel spasm due to irritation by degrading blood products on arteries may be necessary. This may include intravenous fluids, certain medications, and actually letting one's blood pressure run high. The outcome varies. The best indicator for prognosis is the patient's status after the aneurysm ruptures. Patients who are deeply comatose after an aneurysm rupture generally do not do as well as those with minimal symptoms. A cerebral aneurysm that does not rupture may not cause any symptoms. If one is discovered which has not ruptured, treatment must be considered carefully. The risks related to brain surgery are high and attempting to prevent the aneurysm from rupturing by operating on it may actually cause rupture and all the potential problems that can result. However, about 25% of ruptured cerebral aneurysms are fatal within 24 hours. Approximately another 25% are fatal within about 3 months. Of the remaining people with ruptured cerebral aneurysm, more than one-half will have some sort of permanent disability.

I would tell you to do it. Yes..there could be complications..but really what other choice is there? You don't want something terrible to happen and it just burst out of no where like you said..that could be horrible. At least this way they can go in and fix the problem and hopefully things will be fine...good luck..and best wishes to your husband...I am sure things will work out fine.

I'm terribly sorry for you and your family. I would say that I most definately would have the procedure done. But I can't say that if it was me or my husband that I would say the same thing if faced with the situation. This is you and your husbands decision to make. It is a very hard one to make. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

husband is leader in the family, ugly good of family future, the husband also having role, and so it is with development of children, in consequence, a husband in standing a problem should be able to be wise, that can in received by all member of family

Make sure you check the surgeon's track record before the procedure is done. For my kids, I'd risk it because I would not want them to be hurt.

I am so very sorry to hear that this has happened to him . I wish you luck in your choice .