Do you think much criticism can ruin a relationship?

Philippines
February 19, 2007 12:43am CST
I found myself to be too critical about my nephew. I think he doesn't like the way I am treating him. We have more fights than happy moments. But when we play jokes we seem to have good laughs.
9 responses
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
Constructive Criticism is good for the relationship, any relationship. This may not be appreciated now. but sooner, the person will look back and then realize its value. I always believe relationship is ruined when youre not honest and trusting. To criticize the wrong deeds is honestly and trust at work. It is just important to reinforce the criticism with a positive explanation. And to the one giving it, dont expect that you'll be followed right there and then. Give it time to settle. And always remember to appreciate also the good things.
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
Yes, it is true. I should be more constructive. Maybe the choice of words should be well said. It is really hard to tell a child to adopt good habits.
@kimwong (51)
• France
2 Mar 07
criticism is always a problem because it says as much about the person criticising as the person being criticised. Far to often we criticise someone else because that person is not behaving according to our standards, but rarely do we ask ourselves if those standards are correct. As a rule of thumb I would always think the less criticism is better, but it does depend on what kind of relationship you have with your nephew and why you feel you need to be so critical of him
@ikinta (1236)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 07
Critics can bring positive and negative effects. Its just how we say it. People would block themselves. This is a natural reaction toward a critic. Maybe you can give your perspective (critics) to him between your laughs.:)
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
Constructive criticism is healthy for all types of relationship, mainly you observe what he's doing wrong and help him improve himself. Destructive criticism is very bad is happens when the other person do nothing but criticize another just for the fun of it or simply to annoy. Kids are very much sensitive that we perceive them to be so be careful when you criticize him because he might lose his confidence.
@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 07
i believe so, as critism can damage a relationship, do not critise alot as too much will cause akwardness. but if the bond of the relationship is strong then you do not have to worry too much, as critism is for them to listen if its not then the critism will be for them to heed and they will feel annoyed seem to me, you critise your nephew too much, maybe you should let loose a bit for now? if he doesnt like the way you are treating him then ask him or try another way yourself
@Rana_2007 (235)
• Bangladesh
21 Feb 07
Its deppend on situation. Much criticism can destroy the moral and influence on attitude. Its create negative impression.
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
well,you should be aware of criticizing kids, as they will remember that till they grow up, constructive criticism is okey but do it in a nice and gentle way...
• India
21 Feb 07
i feel that one should be open to criticsm n react positively but exvess of everythng is bad so may be too much critism lead to a bad relationship
• South Africa
21 Feb 07
When you criticizing some1, i think it also depends on your body language, if you criticize someone with a smile on your face then they won't take it that bad, but try and criticize someone with a serious face and see what happens..................