i m worried
By manjrekar
@manjrekar (25)
India
February 19, 2007 7:35am CST
I love my parents alot..but since my childhood I had a problem..I am never able to share any of my problems with them.And now when I am going through a bad phase of my life I am really feeling very lonely and insecure..I want to share everything with them but as I step inside their room I just smile and walk out with tears crashing down my eyes...
Can anyone suggest some means to start the discussion with them???
8 responses
@abi_irascible (16)
• India
21 Feb 07
Parents will always be on our side no matter what happens.first what you have to do is clear the distance between you and them,go to them and start speaking,no1 will give you better advices than your parents,so start speaking,goodluck......
@manjrekar (25)
• India
21 Feb 07
thanx..well i have a good news....i was able to have a talk with them and all your suggestions really worked..thanx loads loads too all of you friends.....
@sweetpunch (915)
• Pakistan
12 Mar 07
its really important that you should talk to them because they could give you a good suggestion,just have confidence in them and say that today i want to share sopmething with you i am sure they will be happy for you to share with them
@weemam (13372)
•
3 Mar 07
As a parent and One who has shared everything with my boys and my grandchildren , I would say to you , It is never too late to share with them , They will be honoured that you have felt you trusted them enough to share , Just simply say " I am really worried about something and I would appreciate your help" I can promise you that you will feel so much better just telling them , xx
@ddlaurie (132)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
You need to talk with yours parents and never seems to be a gppd time. If you share meals with yours parents. That is a perfect time to talk. Tell them how you feel. Start by saying mom dad I need some advice or can we talk about how I am feeling or doing. They can help you solve almost any problem you may be having. For they were once young to . Good luck If that don't work them ask us and maybe we can help.
@girlstudio (1)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I've gone through exactly the same problem with you years back when i was younger. I felt that they wouldn't understand my feelings and since they're both busy business persons, its hard to get the perfect time to sit down and chat. Plus the fact that I got into a relationship that really disappoint them and believe me, for years I have this rocky relationship with them! I go out late at night, I hate having lunch / dinner together with them, I dont wanna join them go out...and there have been moments just like you that i went to a bad phase in life, and you know its only your parents who will stick right with you... And this is what i found really effective way to open up myself to them. I wrote them a letter. I pour out everything on it, things that really surprise them not expecting that I do care how they feel, telling them I love them and I want to build the right connection with them... and from them on, our relationship has never been like before! Now, we can openly share things and I can approach them without hesitation and ask for advices. :)
@swetha2rani (341)
• India
21 Feb 07
Its being my experience too...as you feel I too did feel the same way. They have brought us up and I guess none would know or understand us much more better than parents. Just make one move from your side and see the way they care you and help you get off any problems you have. You don't even need to speak anything just lay down in their lap or on their shoulder you can feel their love and just that minute speak out whatever problem you have and you would surely get help.I do this with my parents & my husband and he understands that something is bothering me and slowly I speak out my mind.
@aRiSdGrEaT (621)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
Yep it very uncomfortable sharing problems to parents u used to ignore making some sad and moody problems. Yep its very good emotion when you they listen and give some advise from ur own parents. But if ur ver insecure to open up those problems, look around you have your so called trusted FRIENDS... You may include to that list if you want. :D
@ReshVal (24)
• India
19 Feb 07
Same has been the case with me. Till date I am not close to anyone and have never cried in anyone's arms.
What you could do is when you reach the peak moment when you know you are going to burst out just get into their room for something. Maybe like using their phone, or getting a pillow (get an excuse) and then when you turn away let your emotions flow and let it take control. I am sure they would come after you and console you. Good luck!