When Life Keeps Kicking You

I don't know their religious beliefs but perhaps a local church can step in with some assistance. I know that many local churches in my area step in and help families in need. The way I deal with bad things happening is to pray, I'm not a church goer but I have my faith, no my prayers are not always answered the way that I want them answered, but I still take comfort that they are being heard. When things are bad I often tell myself that which doesn't kill me makes me stronger. I often repeat this to myself. :) I will be praying for your family that they make it through this difficult time and get back on their feet quickly. :)

I am sorry to hear of your sister's difficulties. It is so heartless to treat people who are raising children so harshly, things are difficult enough for them. Does she have a computer? If she lives near you, can she use yours some? There may be ways she could start earning a little extra money but I know that won't help as quite as quickly as she needs, but it might help with other things later.

well life i s always like th buddy... it is plain mean!! sometimes u cans ee it being so good people who dont even deserve it! i know of my pal who never had to knwo any hardships in her life coz her parents were rich and so she doesnt know ho it would feel to live without having stuff tht u really want! me on the other hand am not well-off and i feel tht sting! i know how much it hurts to never have what u want... whats worse is that not only do u not get what u want,but also life just doesnt give u anything at all!! i can totally understand!

Your sister painted herself a corner. But your sister isn't the only one risking an eviction. There are so many other people who just content themselves sleeping in a cold and hard sidewalk to keep the gnawing hunger at bay. She's still lucky. But I suggest your sister find a way to put things back together again after she and you pay her house. This isn't uncommon but it shouldn't happen again.

yeah when my sis with four kids went through that i gave her every penny i had..and i had just separated from my ex..so it was my money to move into a flat..in the end i had to go to a friend's house and pay her rent and had to help my sis out..i know what you mean..what about doing a car boot sale? i always did car boots when i was in s... condition ..is that what you are planning to do? ask her to clear out all her junk and old kids clothes and toys..get it all together and do car boot..it helps boost morale aswell..

Ive also been in this situation before the best thing to do is to go in the internet and find out about websites that have jobs that u can apply for a website such as (snagajob.com) and apply if that doesn't work ill go out to the streets myself in search for jobs. another way that u can help your loved once is by giving them good advices of how to save their money and only use it for things that they really need and not wasting it away. but one of the best thing that u can do is give them a shoulder that they can cry on, lean on be their for that loved on.

i think helplessness is the worst feeling that exists. sadness or loneliness are both bad, but helplessness is usually what makes the other two worse! therefore when something bad is happening to someone other than yourself, you can`t always avoid the feeling of helplessness. it is often out of your hands. when the problem is personal, you can either deal with it or not deal with it, depending on your own personal circumstances. but when it`s not YOU you want to help, that is the hardest. because you can`t. (i`m talking about the cases where it`s beyond your control) the best you can do is to offer moral support. when i`ve been down on my luck or having hard times, the best feeling i got was from people out to just pick up my mood, not necessarily offer money, solutions, etc. just a smile or kind words that you know are heartfelt. example, a friend of mine once came over to prepare homemade chinese dumplings because i had just been dumped, and couldn`t see to prepare my own food (eye-related health conditions occuring at the same time as being dumped). she really didn`t have to do this, but it DID make me feel like someone cared what i was going through. try to keep your sister in good spirits just by letting her know you are there for her, even if you feel you can`t DO anything officially.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it is so hard when we feel we can't do anything to help our loved ones, I know as I've been there. All we can do is try our best to be as much help as we can. I do hope you are able to raise the money for your sister and her family. It feels awful to stand by and watch while our loved ones are suffering but the best thing we can do is try to be there for them in every way and you are clearly doing this. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you and yours.

I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. I know what it's like to have to stand by and watch bad things happen to people you love. Go to this website---www.modestneeds.org and read what they do. Maybe they could help your sister with her problem. They are a great charity, and I know from personal experience that they are authentic. (They paid a mortgage payment for my husband and I when I was off work a lot during one of his MS relapses). And anyone reading this, please check them out and donate, if you can.

You are very nice to try to help out. I, too, sometimes feel that I keep getting the short end of the stick. My husband and I have always been quick to help our friends and family. But somehow when we need help, these people vanish. I just keep praying that we will overcome our problems (especiallly financial) and things will get better. When I get down in the dumps is usually when I will see or hear of someone who really has problems, then I realize I could have it a lot worse. That's when I thank God.

I've been reading this thread with interest. You seem to be a very caring person who is truly trying to help your sister. I saw on one of the posts that a fellow Mylotter offered to lend you $100 interest free. What a kind person that is! I am wondering if you can update us all. Did you come up with the money? If not, perhaps the landlord could work something out with your sister if she only needs $100. That's really not very much money. Would the landlord be willing to let them pay a bit extra per month until it's paid up? It would be easier for the landlord to do that than to evict them. ~~Best of luck to you!

For me, I use relaxation techniques when life is stressing me out. Exercising is a big one. It makes you feel better both physically and mentally. A warm bubble bath will also do the trick. Or baking some cookies. Just taking a quick nap or laying down and watching a movie is also a form of relaxation. I have been under a lot of stress because both my husband and I work two jobs and are both going to school to finish up our degrees. Money is tight and so is time. it is difficult to find time to spend with each other and also to do our homework and just have fun. But I will be so glad once I am graduated. I use these relaxation techniques every day, I don't know what I would do if I didn't have some way to relax.

I have learned that charity starts at home. You have to make sure you are ok before you try to reach out to someone else. I have learned that the hard way. Trying to battle with your self over someone else's problem to me only makes yours worse. I have been there and done that. My sister in law and her kids had nothing, nothing at all. I gave and gave and gave then realized I had put myself in jepardy because I lost track of me and my responsibilities and bills and my own kids. I had got so wrapped up in worring over them, my home was falling apart literally. It is hard but you have to look out for you first. I was really surprised how I left the whole situation alone to fix mine, and everything worked out for her. It is hard I know that especially when there are kids involved.

Life is so hard sometimes. Erma Bombeck was known for saying "when life hands you lemons, make lemonade" - which sounds like what you are doing - maybe you could plan other fund raisers as well - get the community together - have a block yard sale, a dance, a bake sale - whatever - and that may help. Also, some landlords may be willing to accept a little over a long term. It never hurts to ask. Also, pray. God never closes a door without a least racking a window!

Unfortunately, I'm in the same situation as your sister. Our landlord had just given my husband notice that he wants us together with my two grown kids and 4 year old out by March 1 not because we are behind in the rent because we were contimplating on buying the place back from him and backed down at his ridiculous price that he is asking. Even after he renevates this place, its not worth paying what he wants. He came down a bit and its still not worth it. We are awaiting for some huge amount of money to kick in from various sorts and in the meantime we are hanging. I'm in the process of selling my car. I can't drive due to the fact I just had my licence revolked by another State. I have been on the phone all morning contacting legal aide who said the landlord has to give us 15 days written notice if he wants us out. I also told my daughter to see who she could stay by as she can't leave here til her probation is up which will be sometime next month. As for my 20 year old, I asked the Rabbi of my congregation if you could stay by him. My husband along with me and our 4 year old will either be at a temple that has living facilities or by my folks who live 4 hours from me til our paper work goes through and we are finally on our way to Israel.

up until about 5 months ago when i fell ill i would constantly worry. worry about bills, my son, my husband, my family, my husbands family, but i forgot about someone. ME i now try and take it day by day. we are not poor but we are not rich and we can make it with out me working but my money is for fun and lesiure things for the family. I make sure every bill is paid and there is food on the table for the kids . we fall behind and who doesnt but in time things work out and I am working on believing that. one day at a time. best wishes and i hope things work out for you and your family and friend..

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Sometimes..when that happens, it's hard not to wallow. At least for me it is, it just seems like I can do nothing so part of me tells me "Give up." and then tells me a whole bunch of things which aren't true to try to make me give up..but I've learned whenever life kicks you, stabs you, throws crap at you the best thing to do is do the same back to it. To never give up fighting it. Never giving up thinking about what you could do.. When I reach the point where I know what all I can do, I do it, feel rotten because I can't outright save who I care about..and pray. I'll mope THEN, rather than during the helping process. I'll beat the crap out of myself later if I just make it worse, but until then I usually refuse to give up. Like I'm always saying, there's ALWAYS a way out of a bad situation. I like to hope there's several ways out..but there's always, always, ALWAYS at least one. So I just..don't give up, I persue the problem doggedly until I figure out how to whup it butt lol.

just fight back,,,,,,,,,thats wat we shud do,,,,,its always two way game,,,,,,,,dont loose just try untill u win,,,,,,,as if u stop u will be stagnant and get rotten so fight back give ur best shot and see it will settle down the way u want.

It does suck...alot. but you have to be able to stop focusing on the problem and focus on a solution. I find that if I don't do this then all of my energy goes towards the problem...and it ends up sucking more and making me feel worse...