Unfortunately I'm getting divorced...

@AGNJoe (97)
United States
February 19, 2007 2:15pm CST
Right now, I'm fairly devastated by this but I know I have to move on with my life. My worst concern are my two children who are both very young at 4 and 16 months. I don't even know where to begin but I'm mostly at fault with this. I don't want to get into the details, but irregardless, my wife has contacted a lawyer and will be serving me papers. I need some advice on how to proceed with this because I'm not sure what happens from here. How do I talk to my 4 year old on this? How do I tell her that it's not her fault but mine and her mothers and that we don't love each other and mommy and daddy can't be together ever again? I just hurt so bad right now and the pain is terrible!
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michelledarcy
@michelledarcy (5220)
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19 Feb 07
I split with my partner 7 months ago. My daughter was 4 at the time. She was a bit upset obviously but we told her it was because we couldn't get on with each other living together any more but she could see her Dad whenever she wanted. Now the girls see him a couple of nights in the week usually and stay over at his place on a Saturday night. We also have times spent as a family still for their sake. They still get a little upset when having to leave either of us to go to the other, but my daughter has less nightmares now than when we were together so I think they can sense how much happier we are and it is a better life for them as a result.
AGNJoe
@AGNJoe (97)
• United States
19 Feb 07
You have my sincerest condolences. Right now the pain is so fresh at the moment because we just decided this. I sincerely want to believe you, I honestly do. But I'm so torn up at the moment as the tears are streaming down my face at the moment. My wife doesn't think I'm a good parent at the moment and she wants to have custody with supervised visits. She did say I could see them whenever I wanted, but still... I won't be able to hear my 16 month old son call me daddy for the first time, and knowing I'm going to miss so much of their lives because we couldn't get along, the pain is brutal. Thank you though. I have to believe it has to get better. It has to.