Gap Between Parents and Children
@salmanfarooq87 (154)
Pakistan
February 20, 2007 6:35am CST
some parents are very friendly while other are very strict.
i think chlidren feel gap with parents if parents are very stict to them. thay feel hesitation to discuss there matters and wishes, how to over come this gap? iz it realy coz of parents stictness or some other causes?
give ur comments on this.....
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@lullabell (436)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't think strictness is the only factor here. I am strict with my 14 year old and it's funny she just came home from spending the night at a friend's house who's mom allows swearing and alot of other things i do not approve of. She said to me that she is glad that we do not live that way. I was so shocked to here that she was happy that i am strict. (an exact quote).
I think it has alot to do with how and why you are strict. If you tell your children from the get go why your limits are where they are oon questionable subjets like curfews or telephone use. (things other kids can do more of) they tend to understand.. It's important to let them know you love them and want to trust them and that thier actions now will effect their future. I think making punishments relate directly to thier actions also helps to reinforce that THEY are the one who lead themselves into trouble not just you being unreasonable.
@salmanfarooq87 (154)
• Pakistan
20 Feb 07
you are right that parents should do strictness, but at some extend. i was talking about those parents who are realy very strict, who objects all matter of there child and even dont try to realise that why this deed there child had done.... all thay do is order there child in negative. for example, if child as them that he want to go at his friend's home for night stay. then his parents answer hashly that no need to go there, sit at home and do you study, i think this is not the right way, his parents should ask him about why he want to go there and who is his friend and there family, then after judgin thay shoud think and give some time to child and then give answer, wot ever it is.
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