Which one is better?

This problem is part of every relationship. We are often confused as to what is the best method to keep the relationship going in a healthy way. But i dont think that there is one fast and strict rule for all the relationships encountering this kind of a problem. While a solution may work to be fine in some relationships, it may prove to be disastrous in others. So i think it is the individual alone who is there in the relationship has a perfect idea about what should be done. But if i were there in your position,i would follow all the three steps that you have mentioned in the same order. I will be very patient and understanding in the first place, then try giving her advice so that the relationship is smooth and running and if nothing else works simply let go the relationship. Afterall there are more people worthy the patience i have and i do not want to spend all my life with a person who does not make an effort to correct himself/herself.

if u feel it is ok then it is fine

go for a) option.Friendship is everything dude

If both of you have similar attitude, you are friends. If Both of You have disimilar attitude, then your marriage can be arranged through your parent. If both of you are friends and decides to marry, then marriage will happen without the concent of your parent. if your parent do not like it. Thanks lovein

Try this, or can I say please thing like that: if she acting like, she don't need you then why U need her?? After a little time, she realise if you friendsip is wort the efort or not, I thing that is the simply way, to find if she cheris your friendsip.

a true friend is the one who tells you your mistakes and is like a mirror to you not the one who flatters you, so always try to tell your friends the truth of themselves and never flatter them.

I suggest you the letter B. You should tell her what you do not want from her, so that she knew and she could adjust for the sake of your friendship, but if she did'nt change, let her go out of your life.

Talk to your best friend first in a nice and proper way, let her realize what seems to be the problem with her. HElp her realize that friendship is not one way around, it is a combinabination of giving and receiving.

hi! you just have to be true..if you really are a friend to her..tell her everything that you want to tell her. being her bestfriend, you should tell everything that would make her better no matter how bad or good the situation is. because in the long run, somehow i'm sure she'll understand because you are bestfriends. i have a bestfriend too..since highschool. and we are very open no matter how tough our situation. we argue most of the time and sometimes fight but we still end up to be together. so, you should talk to her...be real and be honest to her..in that way your relationship as bestfriend will get more stronger and last for a long time. good luck to you, girl!!

I had the same experienced before. This despite we having been a friend since 12 yrs old. I had dilemma of course. I had fear too of losing one of my best friend. But eventually, after thinking hard, I rather lost this kind of friendship then being a hipocrates myself. If you find its hard to talk, the least you can do is write her a letter. Express your true feeling about your friendship, how you treasure and enjoy them. Tell her that lately, you found her to be not being herself. And you felt sad over this. Do not explain why in the letter. Let her open the discussion with you. Then you can share your "headache" with her. If she couldn't take it, it too bad. You have to let this kind of friend go. No point keeping this type of friend who make your life miserable. You can always find other friends. I did that! I find more friends now and felt better. No need to fear of losing her as she don't feed you or sponsor your life. Be strong and open your mind that there are so many people outside can be your friend like us in myLot.

You must to understand her co'z it is your best friend and if you are really a real best friend you must accept her who she was and what she was. That's why you called a best friend co'z best friend can tell of what a mistakes of her friend no hiding of what you feel but you must say it what the truth..............what you want and what you did not want....bestfriend is forever not for a shortime..........

I need to know more about it and what she has done.

hello hun have been in similar situations myself communication is definetly important and I think if it was me that would be my first step step talk to her let her know how you are feeling she cannot fix anything within herself if she doesnt know these things are issues for you secondly give her time and if things dont improve then I would think seriously how important her friendship is if being friends with her causes more stress then joy it isnt worth making yourself sick over definetly dont suggest you just walk away though if she truly is a good friend you will only regret walking away good luck hope you can work it out

I think that you need to tell your friend how you feel, because a real friend would listen to you and not just get offended right away. You should be able to be open and share your feelings and if you aren't able to do so, then maybe the friendship isn't worth keeping alive.

I think that you should always be able to talk to your friend if they are doing something that bothers you. I would say you have to watch what you say and how you say it. You don't want to come off like you are her parent or anything like that. If they are a true friend they may get upset at first but alot of times they will come back once they have had a chance to process what you have told them. If not they are not worth having as a friend. Just my opionion.

i always value honesty and i think there should be an openess between friends... so, i will definitely have a chat with her and let her know how i feel... i will not just tolerate it and let it go like that...try to have a chat with her and see her reaction... if she can't take it and she gets angry with you, may be i can say the relationship is not worth keeping on... sorry to say this... but this is my opinion...

Unfaithful to you? Was she not allowed, by your standards, to have other friends? Did she say bad things behind your back and if so, why would she have that reason to? The way I am reading your post is that you are the one who has given all she could to the friendship and that the friend of whom you speak ill is somehow akin to satan. By what do you mean "rebuke" her, because as far as I can recall, people who rebuke other people are ministers and spiritualists. If she is worth having to post a question here, then obviously she is worth keeping around. If not, then it would be telling of your heart and soul and what you really expected out of her. She's your friend, sweetie, not your dog

The truth versus the "white lie" is a difficult decision as one does now want to hurt the feelings of another. I seem to be going through this a lot myself lately - your friend did something that wasn't right or made a mistake that inadvertantly left a bad taste in your mouth that won't go away. I think first of all, it depends on how well you know the friend. If it was someone I just met, I may kind of let it roll right off as best I could. It sounds like you've known this person for a long time, however, so you should probably tell her how you feel and sort of temper your thoughts just a little bit. You should probably approach in a non-judgmental sort of way though such as explaining to her that you understand what her intentions were and respect her point of view but what she did hit you in an offensive way. If she's a real friend and someone who is truly committed to your friendship as you are, she'll understand. If not, then you might or might not re-consider. If you come to the conclusion that this friendship isn't going to work out, remember a falling-out is never easy but it does teach you who your real friends are and will be by helping you to remember that when it comes down to being dishonest to be friendly or being honest, just be honest. A real friend is one who will love you for who you are and you won't get that when you aren't honest with your friends.

I don't think you have to understand her in spite of her being, as you say, unfaithful, but at the same time, you don't need to just walk away. I would say talk to her, don't rebuke her as such but explain how her behavior makes you feel and see if you can come up with a solution. If she feels that she's doing nothing wrong, then you have to decide whether to allow her to keep abusing your friendship, or whether to cut your losses and let the friendship go. She simply might not realize that she's doing anything to upset you.

If she is a true friend you should be able to talk to her and give her your feelings. I have a best friend and the reason we have been is because we can talk to each other and when one of us is making a mistake we tell each other. Some times it causes us to get mad at each other, but we get over it because we both know we care about each other. You just have to know that everyone makes mistakes and not to rebuke so much as to just say you know this isn't going to come out good.