Having another child after 14 years!

HAHA, well this reminded me of my experience exactly...I was 20 at the time, I had a sister who was 15 and my mother called me(i was in college at the time) and she said she had big news for me... she was pregnant at the age of 43. I was really in shock and didnt know what to do, so I can imagine how you must be feelig...I can tell you my dad was in shock and really wasnt liking it too much at the time, but my baby sister and my dad are awsome together, they are watching a movie right now as I right this. But as far as my mom goes. she was in shock for about 2 weeks, family started to get excited, and my mom acctually got real excited over the weeks saying it was a blessing. It will get more exciting over the weeks, its just such a big shock you really cant take it in all at once....enjoy being young again

well first all congratulations. Just wait till you see that baby for the first time and all those mixed feelings will go away.

First off congrats! I've never been pregnant or in your position but I hope to be a mother some day. This isn't as uncommon as many think. My grandmother and mother know a woman who has a 17 year or so span between her children. It'll just take a while till the shock wears off. It helps that you have a lot of poeple to back you up. Time will help you and that's all I can think of to help you. Geez, I suck at giving advice. lol

I think you have to clear your guilt and think it in a way that how much does it make your hubby happy,,, i am sure you wanted to see him happy,,, also that a new child can be a real blessing in your life ,,, if you guys {specially your husband} are financially and mentally prepared for the child you should enjoy the moment Remember ... there is no real benefit in being nervous or even shocked,,, life will play its part and you have to play your part in life... life has limited number of years attached to it ... so look forward to enjoy from whatever you have and had instead of looking forward for those things that you dont have or dont want or either one;s enjoy your life with your wonderfull hubby and stop feeling guilty about it... you did not have any choice ever .. life just presents itself before you only way to live happily is by embracing it in your arms and loving it

oh, i understand your feelings perfectly. i had my first daughter at 19 years old and gave birth to another when she was 19. i never thought i'll have a kid again as i wanted no changes to my routine. my pregnancy was not easy and i gave birth to my daughter in december 2005. i can tell you that the moment i saw that small angel i was inlove. i'm so happy i have her now that i wonder why i was so worried in the first place! everything fell into place like driving a car after not driving for a long time. don't worry these little beings makes you feel on top of the world!

I too had this happen. I was protected I thought(haha) and the found out I was pregnant. The shock is big but it will leave.My older child (9) and my husband were very supportive. I was not even sure that my husband wanted any children and it took me a week to tell him.As the pregnancy advanced the shock abated and motherhood took over. It can throw some loops at you but that baby is now a pretty 24 year old young lady.

well, a child is actually a blessing from God... so, why you have to be guilty about??? i think you should feel very happy and enthusiatic about it... my husband also has a brother after he is already 14 years old... so i don't think there is something to be worried about... take care of your pregnancy and when the baby comes out you will feel very happy and blessed to be a mother again... good luck...

Congrats to you and your family. Mine came a year after 9/11. We call him the 9/11 surprise and my daughter who has been the baby of the family for the past 13 years all of a sudden she was about to have a baby sister/brother. She was in more shock then the rest of us. I hope all goes well with your pregnancy and delivery and the child should be happy and healthy.

I know how that feels. I had two children and wanted more when my son turned 2 we started trying again we were not successful. After many months i went to the Dr. He ran many test and found out there were a few problems complications from my son's c section being the worst. we tried for almost 3 years many surgeries we were told we could not have more. We gave all baby stuff away i didn't want the reminders laying around and just went on with life. 9 years later i was so sick i couldn't eat at Christmas I was not sure what was up. IN the new year I went to the DR. and he ran a pregnancy test and it was positive i couldn't believe it. I was happy but not we had gone on babies were not a part of our new life. That feeling went away quick the thought of having another one when my other kids were so grown was great. Life couldn't be better. She is 4 now and a gift for sure. Its her picture i use for my avatar. Don't feel guilty about how you feel give yourself a chance to adjust to the new situation. Good luck to you and congratulations.

First off, Let me say Congratulations to you... I understand what you mean...I have a 12 year old and the thought of having another child scares me silly. Or to hear "you are pregnant"...I believe in time it will come to you and everything you are feeling now is mixed emotions..I bet when you start showing or feeling the baby move your whole heart will change...I believe what you are going through is natural and the joy will come with time.. I too, thought about having another, but I think about diapers and starting over again...I know selfish, but that's my thought...I know the joy of bringing another life in the world is a beautiful thing..I know the emotions you have now will soon fade... Again Congratulations..

First off-- Congratulations! You;re only 32-- so you are young still... It is quite a shock I imagine.. I have 1 ten year old daughter-- I had a scare a couple of months ago-- You get set in your ways.. Independence-- Your teenagers don't need you for everything.. and then Boom-- you're having a baby... You'll do wonderful! And think about your sig. other-- His first biological child- Sure he has your other 2 kids too... but this is great for him too.. It might take a bit to wear off--- Don't feel bad! I'm sure many many new expectant moms feel the exact way you do.. How did you feel with your first 2... When this baby comes-- Happiness will take over and you won't be scared anymore- Congrats again!!!

I think as you start to get over the intial shock the happiness will come. On the plus side you and the father love each other and will make a happy environment for the baby and that is really what counts. As my grandma has always said when someone turns up preg. and says I don't know what I am going to do she replies 'You are going to love them and put shoes on them' My children are 10 years apart and everything is working out just fine.

It's normal for someone who has 2 teeners already to feel shock about having a new baby. The shock factor is overwhelming you at the moment, but I'm sure deep inside you're happy. Try to celebrate and start planning! This is something to be excited about. Share your husband's happiness. The fact that this is your first child together is a blessing to your 10 year marriage. This pregnancy also came naturally without medical intervention whatsoever, so God must have really wanted you to have the baby at this stage of your life. Pray that the feelings you're having right now will be replaced with what an expectant mom should feel, and that's baby bliss! :)

Congratulations! My sister and I have a 12 year gap. I know how shocked you are. but remember, God will not give you something you cannot handle. He has plans for you. That baby is a blessing. Try to get rid of the guilt you feel and start enjoying your pregnancy. Goodluck and I hope you have a smooth pregnancy.

Wow! I'd be in shock too! lol! My girls are 13 and 16 and I can't even imagine having another one right now... You may not be happy right now, but you've got some time to adjust... I bet you anything that by the time it's "time" for the little one to come into the world, you'll be ready ;) And, I bet you'll be more excited than you could ever imagine! Good luck to you!

Congradualtions....I understand your shock and you may never get over it. LOL I had my daughter 2 years ago. I went to the doctor because I had a really bad cold and felt real run down. I walked out of the doctor's office learning that I had Pneumonia and I was pregnant. It is funny now...but when I was in the doctor's office I kept saying there must be some mistake. I have Pneumonia, I think you are in the wrong room. My older kids were 18, 17, 13 and 10. My son graduated a few months after my daughter was born. I still can't believe I have her. Some how it doesn't seem real..I think I am still in shock.

First of all congratulation. It won't sink in all of the sudden, and, I think it's fair enough after 14 years, you would have shocked. :) Just make sure you keep that happy thoughts for one wouldn't want to have any miscarriage. (knocked the wood) You'll do find. My mom found out she was pregnant after 10 years, and at the end of the day, she said she's so lucky that she had another one while everyone's already leave the house. At first, it was a shock for her, too. And my sister (the last baby in the family) was being treated so spoiled by my parents now. lol

Congratulations! My first two chidlren are 17 years apart. Once you get over the initial shock, you will love it! Starting over...it keeps you young! I had my first child very young and my last child on the older side (at age 38). I can definitely tell you it is better and easier (not physically, but in other ways) to have kids a little later. I was definitely more ready.

It must be quite a shock finding out your pregnant after so long.Hopefully you will get excited as it is a blessing.one good aspect to it is at least you'll have plenty of help from your children and partner.Many people have children and do it alone.Enjoy all the aspects of the pregnancy.I am sure once you see the baby on the ultra sound or feel him/her kick the excitement will kick in.

Firstly lucie, your reaction to the unexpected news is perfectly rational and normal, so stop berating yourself or feeling guilty about it. Allow the news to sink in, completely and then see how you feel about it. Trust your gut feeling about it and don't let yourself be forced into any decision that you might regret later on. Take your time and allow your mind to relax. Hopefully, you will have your answers soon. All the very best to you!