"Tan his hide so he knows who is boss"

I'm a non spanking parent as well. My parents beat the crap out of me growing up. The only thing it taught me was not to inflict pain on others. It rattles my nerves when I hear people use this as the reason they hit their children. I have 5 children. All well behaved. My oldest son 20 years old. My other children are 18, 15, 12 and 2 years old. My two year old daughter is in the terrible 2 stage. My husband has no patience and he gets frustrated. I am sure a lot of parents do. I have found the easiest way to discipline my 2 year lately is by simply telling her NO we can't do that. Let's play with this instead. I may have to take a few minutes of my time (which I am willing to give) and get motivated into playing with something. I also include her in all my activities. Big mistake I made with my older children. LOL They give a whole new meaning to the word lazy. My daughter puts the silverware in the dishwasher, clothes in the dryer and anytime she sees me sweeping she fetches the dustpan. Sometimes, she even manages to empty my laundry basket..but she's so much cuter than dirty laundry..

It is important that children do know that their parents are the ones in charge. However, that time should come when the child is old enough to understand the consequences of his actions. An 18 month old does not have the capacity to understand that they are misbehaving. Children don't develop that sense until they are around two, two and a half. It is pointless to strike such a young child because they won't understand why you are hitting them. They'll just think that you're trying to inflict pain rather than teach a lesson. Growing up, my mother never hit us. We just respected her and feared her in a sense. She didn't have to hit us to command that kind of authority. So we "knew who was boss" without getting hit.

You can earn your sons respect and how him who is boss is many other ways than spanking him. I really dont understand how people now a days believe that this method works in disiplining our children. I think spanking only shows the child how to be aggressive and mean. Some may not agree....

My mom never spanked us at that age. She usually smacked our hands and said no or put our noses in the corner (that was the worst)... A spanking isn't beating your child. Beating your child is when you're hitting them so hard you leave bruises or your child need medical attention. I wasn't spanked until I was four and I think I'm more respectful of my parents because of it. Maybe these suggestions people are giving you are because your child is lacking in the control department. Also remember the age difference. Back when my grandparents were kids nobody thought twice about a child receiving several spankings from a "switch." Look in the world we live in now. California trying to pass the "no spanking' children law for all kids under the age of 18.

I also hear this alot. I always hear "if you don't stop I'm gonna take you out to the car" or people will hold their hand up like they are going to hit a child and say "if you don't quit". I think that many people use physical force to discipline their children because that is how they were brought up. I personally do not think that physical force is needed. If you teach your child to respect you from day one, then you should'nt have to fight with them too much. My husband tells me that his father spanked him a couple time (he only knows that because dad told him). He was taught at an early enough age that he started to respect his parents. Once he became of an age that he remembers, he said he was never spanked but was talked to about the situations. He was sat down and told why he cannot do something or why he is in time out.

I cannot believe that people are so short tempered with little children! At 18 months old a child doesn't know the difference between right and wrong and is far too young to learn from smacking. I think in general people are not patient enough and too quick to snap at the kids. Being a child should be fun, and shouting and smacking certainly doesn't show them that.

it mostly depends on the child sometimes. i would never hit a child just to show them who's in charge. i use spanking as punishment for doing something wrong. some kids, they respond nicely without spanking, some kids you just have to. it should mostly be used as a last resort for those children who do not listen to any other way of dicipline. its a pick a chose game for parents we have to find the way that most works best for both parties.

I personally don't think that either spanking or not spanking is what is going to make a kid behave or not. They need all sorts of displine and reasoning to why the displine in happening.

Who are these people and what rock did they crawl out from under? No one in their right mind would ever spank an 18 month of child. A child that young is too young to even understand that they have done something wrong. Don't get me wrong, I am pro-spanking, but I do not believe that you should ever spank a child before the age of 3, and even then you should use spanking as a last resort and extremely sparingly. I have a very high spirited little boy and at 18 months, I would tell him no no and then redirect his attention. I started using a time out corner when he was 2 and I would sit him in his time out chair for 2 minutes (1 minute for every year of age). That worked wonders until he was about 3 1/2. Then we had to resort to taking away priveleges. That works wonders. We have only had to spank him maybe 5 times total. I also use the 1,2,3 method. I will say "1, this is your first chance to correct your behavior before you lose (enter a privelege), 2 this is your second chance to correct your behavior before you lose..., 3 this is your last chance to correct your behavior before..." and then I will take something away. If the bad behavior continues, I count again only this time I tell him that he is going to get a spanking. I have almost never had to go beyond 2 with the spanking. The next time someone tells you to spank an 18 month old child, tell them to shove off!

I have heard similar things as well. It is very saddening. I believe people say these things because of social conditionings. Unfortunately such behavior is so backwards. There is so much evidence to show that physical force and shaming only harms children. I can't imagine anyone wanting to do so to an 18 month old!!! I have an 18 month old as well and I can't imagine the thought of harming him intentionally.

just displine the child for example if he does any thin bad no TV that day

no the fact is that do not punish the child for no reason but do so when he or she does wrong but not show him u are the boss he doest understand that

It all depends on how you do it. "Discipline" is entirely differnt than "showing a kid who's boss". One of the reasons that youth are out of control now are because so many people are against spanking. My parents spanked me and it did not have a negative effect on me. I could say the same for most of my friends. If a parent disciplines out of love, it's a lot different than doing it out of anger and "tanning his hide".

sometimes its ok to SPANK not Beat tha kid there is a difference. i have 2 kids and i don't beat them. they get the once in a while SWAT but those don't really hurt just use ur best judgment

If I were you, I would love boss's child, when he/she is grown up, he/she will do return to me. Do good get good. It is only said in the bible that we should respect the aldults or older.

All depends on the culture. If you love and respect the boss, you can love and take care of his child when he needs you, when he need some thing, if he is a good boss he will help you to do a return. People help each other. If you can't help and don't respect, but you keep inside, not to show your feeling out to your boss.

I would never beat a child ... but I think that some children respond to spankings while others respond to time outs, taking a toy away, or just a firm no! When given the choice as a child between getting a spanking or being grounded I would always choose a spanking! It was over quickly and only hurt for a short time. I was then off to do what I wanted with my friends. My sister on the other hand would choose to be grounded ... she was a homebody and it really didn't effect her life. My parents caught on and eventually they switched punishments for us!

LOL! This is indeed funny! No, you do not punish your kids just to show who is the boss. That amoutns to abuse! Respect is earned not expected. By physically abusing your beloved child, he/she would grow up to do the same to his younger sibblings, friends in school as well as off springs. So, how can you love yet abuse someone you love? My advice is punish only as a last resort. And if you do end up punishing your child, do follow up by sitting with them later on and explain to them that what they did was wrong and why they were punished for it. Children at young age are like young bamboo shoots. you can bend them to whatever shapes you want to. Once they reach a certain age, if you attempt to bend them, they would break. At that young age, they need all the care, love and proper guidance. Encourage them, sit and talk to them , play with them. If they are naughty, correct them, if they refuse to listen, then punish them. However, DO explain to them why they are punished later on. This way you would build a great relationship with them. They would learn to respect you and you in turn would earn their respect. Showing them who is the boss is as good at teaching them to be bullies. That is the exect opposite you want your children to be, right? I hope this helps in parenting. Oh btw, I am a father of 2 beautiful girls. At times they can be devils but most of the time, they are angels.. Thank god for that :)

First off greeeeat picture of the squirrel to cool,anyway sounds like these people came from the back woods or disfunctional family.how can anyone hit a baby,toddler whatever,see it's that backwoods mentality,those people yank my crank,besides it's illegal to hit a child.When i was in colorado a few years back my ex brother in-law swatted hit daughter who by the way is A BRAT,in a mall,the security guard saw it called the cops an hour later a was bailing him out.my kids were raised while i was in the marines and had manners and didn't interupt or run all over the place when we were out and i never laid a hand on them,it's the way YOU raise them,but there's never any need (altough you'd like to ) HIT THEM

If the parents punish their children just for letting them know who are the bosses, one day the children will let their parents know who are the bosses by rebelling against them.