The dreaded.."Honey, we have to talk."

I got "I have something important to discuss with you when I get home" from my boyfriend while he was overseas, and it stared the crud out of me!! He didn't think it was bad, how he said it, and he thought I overreacted. It turned out I DID overreact, and that it was REALLY GOOD NEWS, but the WAY he said it.... it scared the crud out of me!

If I ever hear this then my heart usually sinks because you know it's either going to be a deep and meaningful conversation or it's bad news. I can't recall any horror or funny stories at this moment in time but you usually find the conversation isn't what you want to hear!

Being female I am not sure about what happens with others. If I say, Honey we have to talk, then I am most likely to get his attention and we can work something out together. We tend to do our own thing and meet up when we have to. Some men I guess would have fear strike their hearts when she would begin to speak. Will be neat to see what others have to say about this.

The last time I used this line "Honey, we have to talk" was last week. My partner when very quiet and very pale, obviously dreading the conversation to come. He went and made me a cup of tea, and washed up the dinner plates too. He came back into the lounge and sat down beside me and said "Is it something I've done?" I couldn't help but smile at him then replied "Honey, we have to talk about where we want to go on holiday" He looked so relieved but I had to laugh a little, having seen him look so worried before.

well 2day itself one of my friend says to me or rather asks me Why we do something .. I found the question quite incomplete.. or infact too much a philosphical to be answered by someone as ignorant as me .. hee eh .. But I do managed to give a simple answer .. Beacuse we like it we do it .. Then he asked --Is it means we hate everything we do not do .. .discussion kept going for hours ..and do not know what was the conclusion and indeed it was quite disturbing