Human Nature is Stranger than ......

well, first of all you must think about if the person who is wrong is stating opinion or fact. If it is an opinion then of course there is going to be friction between two people or parties who believe that their own opinion is factual when indeed it is only based on how they feel about something. That I feel abortion should never be a means of birth control is my opinion, but that I know it is a woman's right to choose whether or not she will employ it as such is quite another thing all together. However, both sides of that coin has its own story, and who am I to judge someone for their right to choose, correct? I use this example because it is one where people have a lot of strong feelings about it. Many people feel that it is fine to terminate life for the sake of the mother having a life. Others feel that the mother should grow up and take responsibility for her actions and that is that. Either way, all the hub bub is based on feelings and not fact. The fact is that clinical procedures are very safe and the mother of the unborn is safe and fine to expect that due to these facts, her decision to terminate a pregnancy is medically okay to do. Morally, though, and unless there is absolute danger to the mother is where a lot of people cross the line of what is acceptable to agree or disagree on or not. But much of the debating these days in forums such as these are based mainly on how someone feels about a certain thing and not based on fact. Once people can face facts, accept them as truths, and realize that there are going to be people who disagree with them as much as there will be people who agree, that is when human nature will no longer be a factor in the idea that human nature calls on us to be offended when we are called on our "bads".

Perhaps it could be said that a mistake a day makes us human. And, there have been some days when I would been happy with just one mistake. No matter the frequency, we all make mistakes in both our personal and professional lives. In many instances, our first response when confronting a mistake is to deny it or make up an excuse. We don't want to seem stupid or ill informed. However, as leaders we must recognize the maxim that "to err is human." Accepting this, we must have the self-confidence and integrity to admit our mistakes. Only with such admission will we maintain the trust of those we lead. When I have made a mistake that has upset an individual, often I find that a simple apology goes a long way.

I agree with you for the most part, but there are times when we are arguing a point with someone and they prove us wrong or get us to think of things in a different way which challenges our beliefs and changes our opinions. It takes guts to admit that you are wrong, and that's where a lot of us fall short. Many will never admit defeat or error! When it comes to a matter of principles and beliefs that we feel strongly about, I believe that it is human nature to argue and debate our points to the bitter end. I know that I am like that. I try to be mature enough to "agree to disagree" rather than to respond emotionally and in a reactionary manner.

I have to say I am definetly like this .. I am very strong willed and I like to be the one who takes the first step . Thats one of my bad points ...lol my boyfriend is always telling me that I just can't say that I am wrong ...and its true... well ...I can someimes but not that often ... when I feel I am right thats the only answer there is in the world and no one can change my mind only me ... I don't feel this is a very good trait but for better or worse thats how I am ... :D

yes, there are some people who cant be honest to themselves, who cannot admit they are wrong, but only some, because i am brave enough to admit my own mistake to be corrected and to be a better person.knowing your fault and accepting it is one way of becoming a better person.

I think at times we continue to put up a brave face even with the knowledge that we have been proven wrong because we don't want to be humored for having passionately argued for a wrong cause.It would be so much easier to accept that we were wrong footed with a smile and move on but in the heat of the moment it's a distant thought.Personally speaking,if I realise I have made a mistake I make no bones about apologizing,if not instantly then at a later point when things have cooled down a bit.As long as the other person doesn't try to put me down I can live with admitting my fault and continue being friends.

thats true. every individual believe that wat every they think from their angle its right. I argue with people about wat i think , if they dont understand then i would just leave it. As we cannot force things on other, and if they are not willing to understand then who ever is wrong is going to face the consequences. thats it.

I do admit what ur saying is true...itjust depends upon the situation and circumstances around you....for example the person doing robbery for his family feel that he is right but for the police or others he is wrong...so what u say?? life has sevral facets and there are many issues which just cannot be decided by right or wrong...

Hey mansha, you've raised any interesting thought here. but I don't agree with all of it. I know if I am right about something then I will stand my ground BUT if someones shows me that I am wrong then I will back down and accept what they say. mind you it does depend on what we are arguing about. Anyway I'm always right so that doesn't happen very often haha!

yes it is the most embarrasing thing to admit that we have made a mistake and that we are wrong..i am glad in my marriage that if we both are at afault we always admit it and try to improve and move on..i think it is the cornerstone ov being civilised to admit fault and try to progreaa and do better..i am not speaking technologically but character wise..thankyou for such a good discussion..btw i will try to update my blog lol and get you the info you asked for..i am so lazy..

I think ,Every one is not think same so that this is human nature of thinking. Because men's five finger are not same than How can all men will same . So that every on can not think same live same.

I think there are some people who can't accept the fact that they are wrong and there are others to willing to listen and know what their mistakes are. There are just some viewpoints that we strongly believe on that can't be changed by anybody.

I agree. We often take a lot of time to understand, that we were wrong. this is truely a very strange and disgusting part of human psychology. Buit I believe I at least try to be different. I take certain measures to find out my mistakes. I talk a lot to myself. Every night, before sleeping I pray to God, and then I ask God, to give me strength to choose between the good and bad, so that I can take correct decisions in life. Then, I think about my whole day's deeds. If sometimes I have a fight or dispute with someone, I always think that whose folly had started the fight. And, I never give away the possibility, that I may also be wrong.

yes, human nature is wierd.. its this nature which tends to make a person look bad. what do u say ppl

I suppose we are but then again saying that if I am wrong I will admit to the fact that I am wrong It might take a while to realize lol but when I do I will admit to it.

hello mansha, it's been a while since i last responded in one of your topics...or is it the other way around. anyway... your topic title caught my attention today :) Precisely what is happening here at myLot. We post a topic, then we wait for others to discuss with us or with each other, and oftentimes, especially if the topic is controversial.. there we receive so many opinions that more of ten than not, some tend to build grudges to people who disagree with them. I have witnessed some of these in here and in other sites. Well, for me it would really depend on the manner by which people air their disagreement. I would gladly accept any opinion, wise or otherwise, if i find their points valid and that they respond objectively and professionally.

Yes, you are right, but to me it isn't only a question of Nature, but of Education. The problem is that parents should teach their children that the world around us is never black or white, but full of different shades of grey. Think to the "Tao" symbol, it's a circle divided in two colors: black and white, but in the black area there is a little white dot and in the white area there is a little black dot. This is our human condition: you can't divide the bad from the good, in every person there are shadows and lights, so when we speak with people, we should consider the fact that they could be wrong but right on certain things or they could be right and - at the same time - wrong on others. I don't know if you can understand me, but what I want to say to you is that we must not have a binary vision of life. Life is much more complex than the binary vision.

I do the best I can to agree to disagree. I'm always trying to be wrong about a lot of things. Like what my purpose is in life? Why am I still here? Convincing myself that i could be is nothing great when other tell me that I'm always right about everything. I have always have had this problem. Well it may not seem like a problem for you but, for me it is. I'd like for one or a few moment that I could be wrong. Math and other things like this are not apart of my complaints. Just understanding morals and ethics are my strongest suit. I've never understood it like I had lived another life and my mind completely remembers everything I've gone through in my past life. I find this to be bizarre.

thats a wonderful topic, really!! yes i often think it that way... and also try to analyse human behavior in general ... everyone wants to be in a winning situation... or to put it in a better way no one wants to be in a losing situation... normally i try to put myself in the opposite person's shoes and then try to evaluate his behavior being justified or not... and the strange fact i mostly find it justifiable... only in some very strange circumstances do i find others wrong... thats a fact... i empathize a lot but dont sympathize cuz i think it really doesnt help any one including myself///

Where is the mistake hpnin? Everyone on this earth feels the same way.The thing is that the height of madness of this quality varies from peson to person. Personally I think" IF EVERYBODY SEES HIMSELF ,EVERY NOW AND THEN, AS A THIRD PERSON HE'LL COME TO KNOW OF HIS MISTAKES AND GOOD DEEDS. MONITER URSELF EVERUDAY BEFORE GOIN TO SLEEP HOW U BHAVED WITH THAT PERSON, THIS GUY ,GAL....... HONESTLY . KNOW WAT IS WRONG AND RIGHT.. THEN THERE WON'T BE ANY PROBLEM