What would you have done?

I would like to think I would stop to offer help. About a year ago, I would've stopped, no questions asked. These days I think twice. I stopped to help a woman who had rolled her car, but instead of being grateful, she attached me and pelted my car with rocks. I later found out from police she was 3 times over the legal limit. I never received any compensation for my injuries, or the damage to my car. The attitude of some people makes it really hard for those of us who are doing the right thing. Good on you for stopping to help him!

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I would have done the same except probablly would have yelled back at the daughter for not caring for the elderly. If it wasn't for the elderly, we wouldn't be here. We all need to take time out for the ones who are older and say I love you from time to time.

hats off!! to you my friend, you did an excellent job by helping the old man.These days you won't find thank you from people, instead you ll recieve some unwanted looks...i really appreciate the way you came forward for the help....surely in that situation i would ve also helped the pld man but after getting such a response i would ve never had the courage to help someone...these days young feel embarassed to go out somewhere with the old, they forget that they were the one who bought up and helped them in every aspect of life but when its their time to do it they simply turn a deaf ear.... once again my friend ...an excellent job!!!!!!!!

we need to be more positive in our approach.we are helping not to see their outlook. it is in us that's why we are helping.if we keep on looking that our help is going waste then how would people in this world survive..

You done right ting. Every human being who are having conscience will do like this. Thanks for your help for the senior citizen. Be always like this manner.

U definetely did the right thing way to go, I would do the same thing just imagine what this poor old man goes through with these "two ladies" who are supposed to help him especially if they are his wife and daughter if we can't even be here for our loved ones then what's left of us, such a disgrace

I would have also stopped and helped the man to his feet and offered assistance. It is unfortunate that you had to witness such ill treatment of this elderly man, but you do not know where the possible daughter's anger and obvious resentment stems from. You don't know how the relationship was between her and her parents before they became aging and elderly. I work in the medical profession, and for several years I worked in geriatric care. The scene you witnessed I've scene on occasion. You have a child who has a life and then is often put-off by having to interact and even help care for aging parents. But I also found that in most cases there were reasons why. There was one daughter who use to come in to visit her father out of guilt I suspect, and yearning that their relationship could have been better before he got to this stage of life, yet her actions came across as bitter and cold and angry. It wasn't until her father passed away, that she felt she needed to tell some of us staff why she sometimes came across the way she did. It seemed when daddy was in his younger days and had a memory, he beat her mother and was very abusive to all his children. In the 3 years he was in the facility, she was the only child out of 5 that ever came to see him. See, sometimes we witness something like this and we are quick to make a snap judgement right away against the daughter. Sure, she was impatient, sure she had a misplaced tone about her, but she may also be very stressed by having to supervise and assist her parents, while also trying to juggle her own life and responsibilities. And then, you have no idea how the relationship was between her and her parents before she swapped roles with them and became the caregiver--something we identify as the role of a parent. This is why I always say, if you can't be 100% committed to giving 100% quality care to an aging and elderly parent, then you must look into alternatives like assisted living facilities, nursing homes, home care givers etc. Because if guilt is driving your decision to care for your elderly parents yourself--you could wind up acting just like this daughter you have described. Most people never consider what goes into giving quality of life care to an elderly person.

The smile and the words from the man gave you your answer. Yes, of course you should have helped. Yes, of course we should all stop to help in such cases. I would like to think that anyone would stop and help anyone who is in need, but I know this isn't always the case. There are so many instances of people ignoring fights, but an accident should gain everyone's attention. I suppose many people are in a rush, and some don't want to get involved, but we all have a moral duty to help. You did the right thing and possibly made the day much brighter for the man.

I would have done exactly what you did. A lot of people think old age is a disease without realizing that only our body ages not our mind. We still remain the same poeple with the same desire for company and people. Older people are often ignored when they deserve even more attention. If we would all just realize that we will be old one day too we would start treating old people much more gracefully.

i would have done the same thing. i prob. would have snapped at that lady who said thank you but we can manage just fine. i would have said if you could manage just fine why did he fall? Ugh! people like that make me sick!! good for you though you did the right thing!!

This is one of those times I wouldn't think twice about being confrontational. I would have told the women they'd better stop fighting and pay attention to their companion who just had a nasty fall. And as regards the comment: I knew this would happen, this is embarrassing... I'd tell them off, saying that maybe they should be a bit more patient, after all it isn't easy getting around when one is weak and elderly.

i think, as far as i m concerned, we dont help others so that to make them feel obliged and tank us for wat we have done. we follow our instincts. we do wat our heart is contended with and help others just because we cant see anybody suffering in front of us. we do it for our own satisfaction. try this, dont help a person one day when u feel he/she needs you, and then see whole day you will keep thinking wat might have happened to him. you will yourself feel bad about not helping him. you see it is human nature. i think you should do verything that your conscious allows you to do. even mind can think otherwise but your conscious can never be wrong.

for the good deed you have done to the old man i gave u a + =) if i was in that mall i would have also helped the man. all the daughter thinks about it the humilation she would get for going together with her dad or grandpa in the mall. it was rude of her to do that and i dont like her. you made the heart of that old man grow bigger. i think even thou he had a nasty time in the mall with his daughter he would have thought that there is always an angel around to help us and make us smile when everything else is black.

You did a great thing! I hope I would've done the same thing. So many people are so fast to turn the other way, and pretend they didn't see anything. A friend of mine got in an accident on a freeway in California and NOBODY stopped. That is just disgusting to me!

I think I would have done the same as you did. Tried to help the man. In this day and age, where everyone is "law suit" crazy, some people think twice about stopping to help someone. But how can you see an elderly person fall on his head, and not do something? His daughter might be stressed out by having to care for her ill father. I take care of my mother and get stressed also, but it's no excuse to treat someone like you said they treated him. He is human after all. Good for you that you helped him. I got teary eyed when you wrote about him turning back towards you and smiled at you. Thanks for sharing your story

Good for you! At least he knows someone out there cares. I am the same way and I make snap decisions to help people when they drop something or trip. It's just my nature even if they are with someone, if it happens right in front of me, it's not that hard to help.

I know I would have "interfered" and tried to help. I can't stand seeing someone have something happen and no one offering their aid. My husband is disabled in a wheelchair, and I know how difficult it is to navigate sometimes, and I always appreciate people opening doors for us and being accommodating when we're out somewhere. And I certainly ALWAYS thank them. You did the right thing, despite their rudeness.

I would have done exactly the same as you, but if the daughter showed the complete lack of respect to me I would have given her something to think about! So many people these days get irritated by those who aren't as able bodied as themselves and then when they try to rush those people, accidents happen. Working for a while in an elderly persons home gave me the patience and the ability to give these people the time they need. There's no point in trying to rush them because they'll get stressed out and of course, thats when things turn nasty. I understand that this mans daughter may not know any other way of handling her father, but she showed a complete lack of respect for her father not being able to walk faster and of course a complete lack of respect for shouting at her mother instead of helping him up. I couldn't stand by watching that and not said anything to her.

fair play to you,i think i would have donr the same thing but u can never tell until u r in the situation yourself