Would you get married in a graveyard?
By shywolf
@shywolf (4514)
United States
February 22, 2007 3:33pm CST
I'm betting that your answer is no *laugh* But my eye was just caught by a news story about a couple who are actually doing this here in Missouri, the state where I live, so I couldn't resist posting a topic about it! ^_^
I have to admit, after reading the full news story I do understand a bit better. After all, when the girl met her husband-to-be, he was driving a refurbished hearse. He also proposed to her by affixing a plate to the side of his 1965 refurbished hearse that simply said "Will you marry me?"
Also, the girl wanted to get married in a gazebo. The couple spotted one high on a hill that looked perfect. It just so happened to turn out that the gazebo is in a graveyard. It wasn't really their plan to get married there, but it seems to fit with the theme of their relationship, lol!
Their story really is intersting, don't you think? You can read all of it here, if you wish:
http://www.davesdaily.com/out.php?id=24789&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cbsnews.com%2Fstories%2F2007%2F02%2F19%2Fap%2Fstrange%2FmainD8NCLJFO0.shtml
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
22 Feb 07
I pondered over this before responding because I thought, being as wild as I was I just might have done it, and then when I thought more about it, I said definitely not. I think it would be very morbid seeing a load of headstones in my wedding album. It is an eerie thought.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
22 Feb 07
You know, I believe one of our local cemetaries was also used as a place for a wedding. They are quite beautiful, scenic and well kept. They have a serenity area with a gazebo and I don't believe any grave sites near it for a while. LOL Personally, it's not for me... but I can understand the beauty behind it I guess.
To be honest... perhaps I should have STARTED my marriage there.. cuz that's where it definitely ended! LOL
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@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
That is an interesting story, I guess once she had her heart stuck on that gazebo she wasn't gonna let a cemetary get in the way. I don't think that this is something I would've chosen to do on my wedding day, but I do admire the fact that they are being original and not letting the opinions of other people get in the way of things.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
22 Feb 07
That is interesting. I don't believe that I could get married in a graveyard though, I don't care what the reason behind it was. To me that is to crude (keep in mine that is just my opinion). But if they were comfortable with getting married there what the heck, different strokes for different folks.
@1983tyler (507)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I guess you could say that I got married in a graveyard. I got married in a chapel in a cemetary. The chapel was a wedding chapel and it was beautiful. The chapel was filled with stain glass windows, flowers, and even birds. The cemetary was filled with flush headstones, instead of the kind that stand up, so it was just like being in a park. It was a beautiful wedding.
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
LOL. This is kinda strange and I'm not sure I could do it myself to be honest.
But, couples have a right to decide where they want to get married, and of course these days, people are opting for more and more unusual settings. I think if the couple are both agreeable to it that there shouldn't be a problem with it.
Its their decision and as strange as it may be, it'll definitely make for some memories, not just them, but their guests too. I mean, how many people can say they've attended a wedding held in a cemetery? Lol, I think it's a cool idea.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Well, I wouldn't, but if it was what they wanted, I'm sure it was very romantic for them.
I'd be a bit uncomfortable though.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I love how your paraphrase your articles so if I am not in the mood to read the report, you give us the just of it! :)
I can't help but wonder with anyone visiting a loved one that pass on might have thought it disrespectful. Even though I am sure that they did not have the reception there. LOL I would think that a quiet ceremony would hopefully not disturb anyone else there.
I guess if it fir their relationship...that is all that matters. LOL
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@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I personally wouldn't..but that is only because it doesn't fit "us". I would say absolutley tho to this couple..why not? I could think of many other places to get married but hey, if hubby drove a hurst and we were interested in a graveyard wedding...sure!
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I sure wouldn't want to get married in a graveyard, but I suppose it really depnds on the people. I mean people have their own reasons for when and why the get married, and it is their day, so it should be special to them.
I know a lot of people whou wouldn't have wantd to get married where I got married, at a rec center, but to me it was more about the actual wedding, and beginning my married life with my husband, and not about the place we got married. We were on a limited budget, actaully that was by our choice. We chose to spend our money on the honeymoon and not the actaul wedding, so we scrimped wherever we could.
Like I said, it all depends on the couple and what they are actaully wanting, so if they wasnt to get married in a graveyard, then I say good for them, and good luck.
@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I didnt get married ina graveyard, but I ATTENDED one in a cemetary! I thought our gothic friends were nuts, but it was a glorious Spring day and except for the placemarkers and occasional tombstones, it was peaceful and nice - LOL! It was near dusk of course, but the setting sun was pretty. The reception was held in a "normal" reception hall (the bride's mother insisted).
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@moonandstar06 (99)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
I didn't marry you because you were perfect. I didn't even
marry you because I loved you. I married you because you
gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect
people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage.
And when our children were growing up, it wasn't a house that
protected them; and it wasn't our love that protected them - it was that
promise.
@babygurl03 (268)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Yeah definately not ... you're wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life ... why would you want to have it in a place that is soo sad like a grave yard .. why would someone want to do that.... it sounds depressing .. and kinda gross
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@dana87432 (5)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Personally, I would not care to get married in a graveyard, it is a little too morbid for me. I guess you could look at it as full circle kind of a thing because you are starting a new life and ending an old one. So in that way it could be seen as symbolic, although there are probably better ways to symbolize that, but different strokes for different folks. The hearse kind of reminds me of "Harold and Maude" do you suppose they like that movie?
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@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
23 Feb 07
I don't think that is a big deal at all and would marry anywhere if I was so inclined to marry. I don't think about such things as a cemetary marriage as anything weird.
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@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I personally wouldn't..but that is only because it doesn't fit "us". I would say absolutley tho to this couple..why not? I could think of many other places to get married but hey, if hubby drove a hurst and we were interested in a graveyard wedding...sure!
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@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I don't know, it sounds like the graveyard has been a theme in the relationship so perhaps it makes sense to them. I don't think that I would find the setting all that romantic! Think of all the uninvited guests that would be there! LOL. Ok, that was cheesy!
I think that it might make many of the guests uncomfortable. I can just hear what my grandma would say!
But, I also firmly believe that your wedding day has to be one of the most significant days in your life and that you should make it unique to your own tastes.
@shambuca (2524)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I love that story- and I love Halloween. My husband and i started dating on Halloween and for years had great costume parties. We ended up getting married the night before halloween and I would have had a creepy wedding but since my dad passed away 5 months after getting engaged - I kind of changed my mind- now I wish I had gone through with it. I love reading stories about extremely different weddings thanks for sharing that!
@miranda265 (125)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I personally wouldn't because for me it would be just too creepy. Getting married on a beach is more my style,but to each its own.
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