no fat mom's at school please!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Please don't take this the wrong way as I don't know how you normally are at all, but maybe take a little more pride and care in the way you look and come across with more confidence. If you show you are happy the way you are the kids might not taunt your son about it. I know it is a problem though. One of my friends makes her partner take their girl to school as one of the kids calls her 'fat'. I think it is hard for her though as she is a size 22 but won't admit she has a weight problem.

This is really hard for you as you want the best for your son and for your son to be happy. Kids will often find a way to hurt another child, when mine were at school some kids actually started teasing my son because his grandma - my mum - had to use a wheelchair. I think if you have little bit of low self esteem it makes you think that these boys have a valid opinion and a right to make it - which they don't. It sounds like these boys might be bullying your son and just using you as a means to do it. You might want to think about having a quiet word with his teacher to see if this could be the case. Lots of mums are overweight, more than they are slim so you are not alone.

Some of the boys at my son's school were making comments on my weight. He told me about them, he was very upset. I told him that the comments didn't bother me at all, that nothing the boys could say would change who I am, or how I feel about myself or them. I told him kids just look for reasons to be mean, and I knew that, and it wouldn't hurt my feelings. I think it gave him a leg to stand on - he knew that nothing the boys said woudl hurt me, so they no longer hurt him. It's also a good time to talk about judging people for how they look, and how a lot of poeple in our society do that, and it takes courage to see the world differently. If you aren't ashamed of yourself, your son won't feel ashamed of you.

That is a hard thing to have to worry about. One of the things I want you to think about. Do you portray yourself with confidence around your boy. Children can read a person pretty well and can tell if you are unhappy with yourself. One of the things I would talk it out with him. I know it is very hard to lose weight but putting on the weight is extremely fast. Taking it off takes forever. Keep in mind that kids can be cruel and I would say he is being torn in two by the fact that the kids are making fun of you. While he loves you he probably is having a tough time standing up to these boys and telling them to knock it off. Peer pressure is a very strong thing when a child is in school. As far as the bypass goes that is a decision only you and a doctor can make. There is a lot of things that get taken in consideration when a bypass is brought up. Don't stop going to the school things you are going to. It sound like you are down in the dump and stopping going to those things will only make you feel worse. I will pray for you. There is no easy solution.