Spouses and their Emails

Yes, I check my husbands emails because our financial information, softball information and school information for our daughter goes to his account verses mine. My account gets tones of junk mail daily. He has complete access to my emails, like I to his. We trust each other and we share anything that comes in that is disturbing or warrants the other knowledge, such as old boyfriends/girlfriends, notice of a bill going up, failing grades or emails from teachers. It is open information for either of us. The fact that you don't have each others passwords, is a tad scary. What are you or him hiding from each other. Don't you read about spouses that lead double lives and the spouse doesn't find out until something grave happens.

My ex boyfriend was weird about emails and myspace stuff like that, he just HAD to know my password. He always accused me of cheating if I didn't give him my password, which was ridiculous. My current boyfriend doesn't care at all, I don't know his passwords and he doesn't know mine. Its just a level of privacy we have with each other that we don't cross, because we do trust each other. If he wanted to see something on my email I would give it to him but he wouldn't go check it all the time just to snoop.

Emails are private, respect to privacy is also a respect to your being, So if you trust each other then there is no question even you do not give your email password to him and vice versa. If you choose to give your password to him and he does not then, you should respect that also.

WE often check each other emails. Some things that concern us both go to his email more than mine because I belong to quite a few groups and receive lots of emails each day. Many times my husband calls me and asks me to go to his email and check if a specific message came. Likewise, sometimes my husband goes into my email which is the one my daughter uses more often. Having access to each others emails or not, i don't even see it as an issue. That said, I don't see why both passwords and emails should be hidden from each other ... the explanation that there is trust just works in favor of sharing those passwords with each other. Not for them to go and check but because there's nothing to hide. I understand privacy and agree with it. Even couples should have some, but hiding something implies that there is something to hide, no? So, no, it's not completely necessary to share emails or passwords, but,it's not completely necessary not to either.

My husband and I have each others passwords for everything. We do trust each other 100%. We believe that if your you and your spouse don't trust each other than that is when you don't share your passwords. You may have something to hide and do not want them to see. That is just our opinion and I know that there are many people out there that believe that there is no need to have access to each others things.

In my relationship... we trust each other... we dont share our emails... but we read our emails together. Consent is important in a relationship.

Actually I don't have that problem as my husband does not use the computer, although he is welcome to read anything that I receive. In fact, I will often print something off that I have received to show to him and I don't have any concerns about him reading what I receive. The interesting thing here is that our son has my passwords to my accounts and I know his. There is a reason for that though in that he set up my original email account and knows the other things that I use. It also means that if for some reason I am not able to check my emails, then he can do it for me. At the same time, he has been travelling on and off for a number of years, so I have his passwords for his various accounts. This means that if he is busy working or something, then I can just sign in, delete what I know to be junk and let him know who has been in contact with him. I think it comes down to trust as to whether or not your partner, or someone special, has your passwords and can access your accounts. If you trust the person, then it shouldn't matter at all and if you don't trust the other person, then you shouldn't be together. :) Also I would think that if anyone was going to stray or do anything that they knew the other would approve of, would they be stupid enough to use their normal email address for those contacts. I agree that some people are not the brightest, but surely there cannot be many who are just plain dumb enough to do something so stupid.

yes LET EACH OTHER ACCESS OUR EMAILS AND WE KNOW EACH OTHER PASSWORDS AS FAR OFFICIAL EMAIL ADD IS CONCERN. apart FROM ABOUT WE DO HAVE OTHER EMAIL ACCOUNT AND THEY ARE PURPOSE OF CHATTING AND OTHER NET ACTIVITIES. WE DONT PREY ON THAT AND WE BOTH KNOW WE ARE HAVING OTEHR EMAIL ADD AND THATS FINE WITH US.

My boyfriend and I have incredible trust with each other. I know his email and passwords and he knows mine, but I have no reason to go there unless he asks me too. Neither one of us has anything to hide so it wouldn't matter to me if he checked mine.

For me and my husband there are no things which we keep separetly. We are like very good friends, so share everything like best friend. We know each other's email id and pasword. It is not like tahat we do it intantionaly that we have to know those things, but at some moment if someone need to acces email ids of each other's we do.

With my last live in relationship. We pretty much could open each other's emails but we didn't. Only if I wanted him to email someone for me would he do it.

I don't think it is a question of privacy. Spouses shouldn't have anything to hide from each other. They should be transparent to each other. I and my husband share the same e-mail account we have nothing to hide from each other. If it is that big a deal one has to wonder what you don't want the other to see.

Either party should be open to any inquery that their spouse should have, but in my opinion you should never pry to far into your spouses really private aspects. Everybody needs that little 1 percent of their lives that is theirs only and that nobody not even their spouses can see.

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My husband's the IT guy, so he has my passwords. I have his too, in fact I manage most of his accounts, but when it comes to email... I don't read his, and I'd be surprised to find him reading mine.

I know the passwords to all my husbands' emails and everything and he knows all the passwords to mine as well. A few of them are the same. :) That doesn't mean that we check each others' stuff, though. It's nice to know what it is, though, in case one of us is expecting something, the other can check to see if it's there. Or like our paypal account is under his name and goes to one of his email addresses. But I check it more often than he does because I want to see what's gone through. Our ebay account is hooked to one of my email addresses and he checks it a lot, too. I don't think that him knowing my passwords means he is snooping around trying to find everything. And even if he is, I don't really mind. I don't hide anything from him. He doesn't hide stuff from me.

We have separate emails...I like it that way and so does he....there is a point where you are entitled to your privacy...anywhere...anytime....right...? (I like mine)

I think that what relationships are about. Trust. You should not expect to read every single thing your partner gets. That is the foundation of a relationship. There should be the trust factor in the relationship.

yes why not! we trust each other completely.we cannot stay without sharing anything,infact we make it a point to share the days experience every day before going to sleep.i understand that some people need their own private space ,but that is not the case with us

This is a very subjective issue. I allow my spouse to know all my emails. In the event of any happening, the other party would know what to do. Besides, it is a sign of trust between couples.