What is the 1 most important thing you've learned from past/present relationship

I have learnt that compromise is key to a successful relationship. It's so easy to point out the faults in others but what about our faults? I realize that nobody is perfect and that we should try to reconcile our differences and if not, then go our separate ways-in peace!

i have learned that i have to take care of myself because eventually everyone will either take advantage of you and/or leave you. I feel this is imprtant because more then once i was left with nothing or screwed out of thousands of money that i didn't have, so i will never again be left like that again.

I love how each relationship I have been with has taught me some very valuable lessons. Lessons that I can carry on to the next relationship I may be decide to be in. I think relationships are a healthy way of learning new things not only about your partner, but mostly about yourself. As I think learning more about yourself is very important. It's difficult for me to choose just one important thing that I have learned from my past relationships. So I may need to point out one or two things as I find.. By me learning these things it has really helped me to learn things about myself that I never knew once before. Or it had also helped me to grow in to a better person in general. Some of the things that I have learned are.. To set standards when it comes to what you want in a relationship. And to not settle for second best as you may end up regretting it later on in life. Even if it did end up being a learning experience afterwards... Also if you just settle I have found personally that you may end up being in a relationship for years from now where you are very unhappy. I know that I will honestly admit that I have allowed myself to settle for second best or someone in general who just wasn't good or right for me. I ended up staying in the relationship & just being absolutely miserable for years. And I wish I wouldn't have allowed myself to do so. As I suffered & allowed someone to mistreat me when it just shouldn't have even happened. Though at the same time even if it is painful to look back at it now.. I am glad I had gone through this or I wouldn't have learned what I had. Which is to not settle for second best, but to settle instead for someone who compliments you or is right for you in general. Another thing I have learned, as I cannot just mention one like I had stated above.. Is to know your worth when it comes to any relationship. Especially a committed relationship. To know that you are worthy of love. And are worthy enough to have someone treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Instead of allowing someone to walk all over you. I think if you lose this in a relationship you begin to lose yourself. It's important to know your worth in my opinion. Because knowing that you are worth so much is so very important I believe.. Especially when it comes to love.. Another important thing I have learned is to be honest with your partner. Honesty in my opinion is the best policy! A relationship shouldn't have to many secrets, if any secrets at all. Hiding something that may hurt your partner just ends up hurting the relationship later on. It's best to be honest to your partner instead of telling them a lie. Having to come up with a new lie to cover up the lie you told before.. Just ends up getting you in to even more hot water.. But you also then begin to be known as a dishonest person.. And dishonesty can really eat away at a relationship. I've learned this from lying to people in my past or having people lie to me in the relationship as well. I think a lie can really destroy a good thing. Especially if you have to lie about everything when it comes to communicating with your partner. Or with anyone in a relationship in general. I've learned to be honest with the person whom I love & that I have decided to commit to. I know that I would much rather be known as an honest person, compared to a dishonest person. In conclusion.. These are some important, yet valuable things or lessons if you will.. That I have learned from my previous relationships.. I feel all of these things that I have learned have helped me to be a better partner for the person I am with today. I think it also has helped me to grow as a person by learning the things that I have or had from those relationships. I feel I have learned quite a few important things along the way from my previous relationships. But if I was to name them all I would be here for a long period of time. All I can say is I am more than happy that I have learned these things as it has helped me to better myself for the next person or people I have a relationship with! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx

For me I tried to be super woamn work ,clean house watch 4 kids and cook too every night with out help ...I soon found out that i couldn't handle doing it all evey night by myself and I needed help ...I was glad i realized that he would and enjoyed helping out . After we talked about me trying to do it all and being in a very bad mood because i couldn't hwe decided that who ever got home first would cook and then the kids would start to help preparing and cleaning up after dinner ...so for me the most important thing that i learned is to talk to your partner and let them know hwta you can handle ...most of the time they are willing to accept some responiblity too ..

Well my first husband was very abusive. He had me so brain washed. I thought all men would beat women. Well my x almost killed me. After he went to prison I got a divorce and swore never to get envolved with men again. Well I lived with my parents about a year after my divorce. When I got my first apartment, my dad had cable tv put in for me for Christmas. Well making a long story short, I married the cable man. He has his ways, but he does not believe in haying a hand on women. It took me a long time to relise that. I really put him through alot but he says it was worth it. We have been married 15 years now.

I have learned to be more accepting of others and how it is ok that the two of you have different ways of dealing with things. I know this is an odd thing to address as important but it is what ruined my relationship between my husband and I 10 years ago. We had a daughter that was very ill and in the hospital every month. My husband drew away and handled it one way and I threw myself into her getting well completely. There really was no way of curing her and it ended up causing major problems in our marriage. We ended up divorced and angry. Each of us was mad at the other for doing things their own way. 8 years later we started talking and now we are back together as a family working together to solve issues. We still both have our own ways of dealing with crisis but we accept that and continue to build on what we have. We are to be getting married again in September.

I would say the number one most important thing is that you are number one with your significant other.

That I really, really have to stop dating women who suffer from borderline personality disorder. And I also know that sometimes you never appreciate your last relationship until you are in a new one. Below is the damaged relationships poster. See if yours qualified!

Communication and trust are the most important things in a realationship. There is always someone that will try to lie to you or about you. You must trust your spouse at all times. communication is vidal in any marriage. you must be able to communicate with them openly.

Well I dt have a present relationship..but from the most major one from my past I learned that one person can't carry the load of two people when in a relationship. That if the to don't somehow learn to have a balance with eachother..it just won't work. It's sad it took me a failed relationship to see it..but I guess the best thing is that now I do see it.

The importance of honesty. Without it there is no relationship.

From my present relationship with my husband I've learnt the first and foremost thing - we should live NOW, at present and be TOLERANT to our partners. To all other people too, by the way.

to change your partner sometimes can be a worst situation for u and ur partner, but if it is for the good then change is worth a try. love, trust and loyalty is also important in a relationship.

trust, understanding and patience; no relationship would work with out those, knowing what u want and going beyond what u already possess will definitely help. for it to be successfull both of u should grow as well as ur relationship, change is given but for the better not for the worse... acceptance and care and being selfless when it comes to decisions, but ofcourse not most of the time its not bad to think of your own happiness first...

patience - we are all only human and sometimes it takes a while to understand.

I have learned to not invest my entire heart or get my hopes up of there being more. Because I will just be disappointed and heart broken. Sorry, but it is true.

There should be faith/trust between both the partners. dont share ur very personal and secret matters at all. dont rely on any person.