Is it weird to only want one child??

I'm jus 19 and I might be the very wrong person to comment about this but still I feel its one choice. The only thing is that you should be able to afford that luxury. As for me if God allows I would love to have 10 kids

NO it's good to have another child, so i want you to reconsider again on this decision. Please be the savior of your child & tell me why does everyone keep asking you when u will have next one? This is ridiculous to think like this. listen to me it is not at all weird to have one more child.

Well i think it is not weird that you just wnat one child but i think it is good to give birth to only as my children whome you can bring up nicely. That is the main thing you should thing of

Having only one child can be disadvantageous and can be a challenge later on in life, both for you and for the child. For one, being an only child can be lonesome, even have an unhealthy existence because he/she will tend to be introvert, selfish and even arrogant, depending on how he is brought up and how his/her parents react to his wants and the necessary discipline. Life is better when a son has a brother or a daughter has a sister, so that there is interaction and the children are taught that they are not the only ones existent in the family and the world, as compared to a single child. Yes, parents do adore their children, but when the entire adoration is centred on one child, it becomes unhealthy as the child may not be able to cope with situations that require interaction with others. I understand your feelings and after all, it is your choice as to how many children you prefer to have. Just bringing you a thought you might want to consider. Also, when you grow old, having more children could mean the difference between facing neglect and enjoying care and love from your children and grandchildren. When you are old, you will long for company and the more the merrier. When you get sick, your child won't have to face the burden of having to choose between you and his/her immediate family's needs as the only one. When you have only one child, you will find you lose out in every decision your child makes when it stands between you and his/her family. Think of the many neglected old folks that have no children or only one.

Who gives a monkeys about what other people say?? What is important is what YOU want. It's down to yourself and your partner to make that decision, not everyone around you who has their own opinions on whats right or wrong. Mom always said that I should have another baby so my daughter would grow up with someone to play with. She was pleased as anything when I told her I was expecting for the second time, yet she went off the deep end when I told her I was expecting for the third time. Family and friends always mean well, but sometimes their interfering gets to be just too much. It's not wrong to want just one child, nor will it ever be. Ignore those would be baby admirers and get on with your life. I wish you all the very best :)

My husband was an only child and when we had children he didn't want to have an only child which is why we had 2. He didn't like having no brothers or sisters and he found it lonely. I would have liked 3, I am one of 5, but he didn't. A friend of mine was so traumatised by the birth of her first child that she only had one, the same with my eldest sister. She only had one because the delivery of my nephew was so traumatic - he is nearly 40 now and has 2 daughters and is a lovely guy. Don't be afraid that you could only love one child as I know sometimes people love their first so much they think it wouldn't be fair to have another as they wouldn't love that one as much. But in fact you love both of them or as many as you have - the love is limitless. Also, but I know this is not nice to think about, one day you will be old or gone and your child will have no close family to share this with. But only you can make the decision, it maybe that when your son is a bit older that you find yourself broody again and wanting more children. Don't be worrying about his education just yet, he might not want to go to university.

I don't see anything wrong with only having one child. I have a daughter, and thought that I wanted more than just one child. But now I am divorced, and I think that I may not end up having any others. I am content with just one child at this point in my life. That is my personal choice, and everyone is entitled to their own life & opinions. Don't worry about what others think or say.

I think it sounds like you know what you want. We have two kids and even though my second was planned i had a lot of guilt while i was pregnant because i hated the idea of having to split my attention between the two of them but its worked out ok the point being i know how you feel and even though in some ways i would like more theres no way i would want to split my attention away from the two i have and adore. Dont worry about what other people think, it sounds like your willing to give your child the attention he needs so that he wont be lonely so i wouldnt worry about that and your right that raising kids is expensive and the more you have the less you can do for each of them financially.

Of course it's not weird. As long as you are not fanatic about it. If you THINK you can't raise another... that's not a reason to give up. I think that you should have as many kids as you want, not as many as you can handle. I remember recently on the news I saw a woman with... 12 KIDS! And she wasn't even a middle level citizen. She was on social... ;)

Raising a child or children is a big responsibility and therefore requires a lot of thinking and reflections as to one's capacity to raise him/her/them. Raising a child does not only mean providing material things or providing a good eduction, rather, it also requires a lot of attention, comforting and advices, in order to make sure that the child/children will have good values in life. Therefore, it is not weird to want or desire of having only a child, since this is based on your assessment as to your capacity to become a good parent.

I dont think its wrong to want one. I might just have one if I hate being pregnant (week stomach and all) and then adopt another one or more. I originally wanted 4 but who knows. However, I know when it comes down to it I will have at least 2. I HATE odd numbers, so I want at least 2 kids. Plus I want my child to have someone to play with that is in the family. I love the fact I have my sister. She is 3 yrs younger but we are the best of pals and hang out ALL the time. I always missed her when she left. We fought growing up but now its like shes the best! I knew a girl in school who's parents were UNABLE to have more than one. She was a very spoiled girl. But she didnt seem to mind it. So back to this. I think having one kid is fine for you. I wouldnt let others thoughts bother you. Its your life, your kid. If you want just one dont worry about it. And for college I had to get help cause my parents have never had enough money for anything and defently not college.

i think its fine having only one child if that is where you are comfortable the most. it is in fact more practical to have only one child because you can give all his needs and wants without sacrificing other children. you can not also play favoritism because he is alone, undivided attention as you have said. when it comes to playmates, he'd meet some along the way. or if he has close cousins near his age, they can also be his siblings in some ways. you don't have to please other people if you are the one to sacrifice.

Well I guess if it's weird to only want one child then I'm definately a weirdo. I only wanted one and that's what I had. I do think you're awful young to make that your final discussion, but I did the same thing. My daughter tells me at times it did suck not having a brother or sister but she also said it rocks at Birthdays and Christmas time. LOL I think you're being very responsible reguarding finances. If I had to wait till I could afford a baby I'd have never had my daughter, but with that said it's good management to think ahead. You are absolutely right the cost of education is on the rise and it won't get cheaper. Follow your heart. Take Care

I don't think it's weird. I never wanted kids. Then when I was about 20 I changed my mind. I decided I wanted one. Just one little girl. Well to my surprise when I was 21 I got pregnant. I now have TWIN BOYS. The total opposite! I couldn't be happier with them, they're my whole life. However, now I don't have my little girl, so we MIGHT try again, in a few years...maybe. So I might end up with 3! or *gasp* another set of twins. It's scary to think of 4 boys! Ahhhh!

That is not weird. You are the one who will carry the child in your womb and raise him/her. So the number of kids that you will have should be decided only by you and your husband. And besides, you are actually just being practical and fair to your child. It would be very unfair for your kids if you bring them to this world and then deprive them of their basic needs like food, shelter, clothing, and education.

PLease excuse me for saying it but I believe it is wrong to have only one child. There are things that are more important than your wants and needs and at the moment it is the emotional well being of your child. I grew up not having any brothers or sisters around me and I was lonely. Your child will grow up lonely too. There are more important things in life than having a university education.

I think your opinion is the only one that matters. You need to know what you want out of life and if you are happy with just one baby then so be it. I have known many people that grew up only children and they manage to survive and thrive just as well as any other child from a multiple kid family. My husband and I were sure that we only wanted one child, however, things changed and we decided to have one more. There are ten years apart in our children. Life changes you never really know what the future holds. Think of it like this if you were the opposite and kept having children then people would be like so when are going to stop having children.

I don't find it weird to want only one child and your reasons for wanting only one child is very much valid. Though I am one of those who originally planned to have 5 children, but as it came out I only have two and maybe if my financial capacity would improve, I may deem to add one more. You are very wise for planning and ensuring that your child gets the best care and education and there is nothing bad about that. It is gross irresponsibility on the other hand, having many children when in reality one cannot really to good care of them and provide them the education that they need.

It's really your choice if you want to have one child. I only have the one child (4 year old son) and have not been blessed with another. I am ok with that too, and i get told all the time that i should have another (especially by my in-laws). I always say if its meant to be its meant to be, if not, then thats ok too. As long as my son is happy, and he gets all the attention he needs then I'm fine with that too. :)

i stopped worrying about the financial aspect when we had our son who was a "surprise"! we weren't "ready" financially, but we pulled it together and doing fine. the next one will be planned, but i just think that we have such a great little family and my husband and i are such caring and giving parents that i can't imagine NOT sharing that with more kids. i'd like to have 1 or 2 more, he'd like just one more,but we'll see what happens. it's a personal choice,though. you have to do what's right for you and tell anyone who disagrees to "stick it!" take care:) p.s. your family doesn't have to be like your family growing up...you have the power to do anything you want and you can change your life so you and your family are happy. you really can.