Leaving home.. Grim but happy feeling =)

Joey i have never left a very far distance from my parents. But i do know that making a move to be on your own with just your wife and kids is a great way to be more close to your own family and you and your wife will enjoy your time together alone more. Hopefully i have not misunderstood what you are trying to say and i hope i've responded right. I got a little confussed sorry.

That is so sweet. Your parents are so lucky to have such a thoughtful son. Although it will be daunting for you it will also be exhilarating. I remember when my partner and I moved into our home it was so exciting. The fun in decorating how you want it, having your own space and feeling really independent and grown-up. It will be the start of a new life for you and your family and a good one. Are you caring for your mum?

Well I think any big move can be difficult. However...your wife and children and you need to make a fresh start and have your own space. I am sure things will work out and you will be happy you did it...You can always stay in touch with your family and perhaps have them visit you in your new place...Good luck...

moving out is not easy if you get used to living in one roof with your family, but you and your wife needs space too, and i know everyone feel that way too. good for you, do not panic, everything will be okey, good day

I can totaly understand how are you feeling. I left my parents when I got married. But I always wanted to being with them. I really love them and can't stay long away from them. But my husband had to move because of his career, so I moved with my hubby. But I feel very bad sometime that I am far away from them.

i was quite happy to leave home as i like my own space and to be able to do what i want. i have been away from home for 5 years now and i am enjoying it

joey, i think i have the same feeling like you when i left my parent's house for the first time to study overseas... i feel nervous and panic... but after sometime, i managed to get over it... just relax and take it easy... and enjoy your time with your family... i'm sure you will be able to get rid of the panic feeling... good luck...

same here joey_matthews,I've never been away from my parents too until my husband and me decided to live separately,at first,its hurt and lonely but I do visit them most of the time so now I am enjoying my private time with my husband...its good to live on our own so we can have a privacy....

Well I left home at 18, when I went to University, and I was so excited about it! Of course, I adored my parents, and I went home to visit regularly, but to me it was just the start of one big adventire. I was a typical child of the 70's - looking forward to the fredom for lots of late nights, parties, and boyfriends - LOL! I wasn't nervous at all to be hnest - just so excited! Good luck with everything in your move.

I left my house in a hurry, it was a greta relief get get rid of all the stress in my life. But there was also sadness leaving behind my parents and my siblings. But like you said you need the space for Jake and you will visit everyday. It's just part of growing up and moving on. Good luck with moving. Hope you find a place big enough for Jake.

I'm not sure how it all works in your country. Are you living with your parents now? You have to wait for housing - is this for financial assistance? or is there a shortage of places to rent? If you are not waiting - then what are you doing? lol Sorry - just trying to understand the situation. I left home for college when I was 17 -- I spend the summer just traveling before starting college in the fall. I was excited and happy - scared too, but I have never had the fear of leaving and moving on to better things. How far are you planning on moving from your parents? Best of luck in your decisions! I'm sure once you are out and away you'll enjoy your new-found independance.

i have a similar feeling...as you know i am looking for my own place at the moment, im not rushing into it though, as im living on my university loans at the moment...either way i am in two minds about the whole thing... ...i really want to leave home and have my own space, but then i think of how my family will react when i tell them, the bills and how it will impact upon my university studies with the move etc...but i would say that you have Kate and Jake, and i know you have been waiting for the council to sort everything out for a while, and they are taking the mickey to be honest...id personally make myself abit of a pain (calling loads etc to hurry them along) aswell as possibly making a complain or at least threatening too...i mean where do you get in life if you dont make yourself a nusance to other people...i know from my experiance that if you keep pestering places like the council and hospitals then you do eventually get somewhere, as they want you to leave them alone... ...either way i wish you look, and you know me and william will always help you guys out with anything, looking for places or the eventual move.

Please don't panic. I was kicked out of my parents home when I was 16 years old and it was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. It taught me to stand on my own two feet and face responsibility for my own actions instead of hiding behind their apron strings all the time. It got me out and I discovered what delights the world had to offer me beyond the horizons of my mom and dads safety net. I had the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted and how I wanted without fear of reprisal from my parents. In short, it was great. I could never live with my parents again. It would kill me lol. My mother and I are like chalk and cheese. We love each other dearly, but we can't live together.

moving out is not easy

You are going to love having your own place. Its a wonderful feeling. Just think, your own rules, you can do anything you want. It will be wonderful for your family too. You and your honey can have privacy. Good luck.

I moved away from my parents when i went to another country for further studies. It was difficult at first (in the 1st year especially) but with time it gets better. I also felt closer to them after this seperation as you begin to value each other as well as your independence more. I think you are doing the right thing - all the best!

Yes it is very hard when we first leave home and have to go and find your own home but you will feel very happy in your own home and you can do what you want to do and not have to worry about others, you can always visit your mother like you said, every day which is no problem for you and I would not be waiting around for council housing as they just take far too long.

I think being married, it will be GOOD for your relationship with your wife to be INDEPENDENT from your parents. I moved out when I was 18 and never looked back. ANd I'll never go back. I can't imagine for the life of me having a good relationship with my husband if I was under the same roof as my parents OR his parents. I think it's part of building your own life and your own family is breaking away from your own parents.

Before settling down with my husband, the first thing I did was to look for a place that's near my father's house. It was a very difficult adjustment for me too. This may sound incredulous to you, but my father have 3 maids to run his house while I have none. So I was left alone to do all the household chores. I had to admit that I also had this fears of being away from my father. I was so used to having him around. But you know what Joey, I learned how to be independent. I learned that couples need space or privacy too. Knowing how devoted you are to your family, I'm sure you will have the strength to do so. Good luck!

Hi Joey, As a parent of a grown child who is newly wed i've been in your shoes, and now the shoes of the parent that is left. My daughter recently moved out and is living a good stretch from me, we are very close and the move was hard on us both. It was also a very exciting time for her and I have fully supported her decision. It is overwhelming suddenly having the entire responsibility of your own household but it is also very stimulating. I think you and your wife will experience a new excitement of having a place to call your own. It will be wonderful to be able to visit your parents then go home to the place you and your wife create as your own loving environment. Congratulations and don't worry, panic is perfectly normal and will subside.