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It sounds like your husband needs some help and he could very well become abusiive if he doesn't get it. He is so insecure tha tyou cannot have the life of a healthy adult. Your relationship is not supposed to isolate you from others. IF you had certain friends before you married and you are notw expected to forgoe those friendships, he married you underfalse pretenses. Usually, if one has to ask if a behavior seems normal, then something is probably wrong. YOu need to give serious thought to your situation. YOu present yourself as an intelligent person. It would be a shame to have your life limited by someone who is this insecure.

Sorry to say, but your husband sounds totally controlling and is trying to detach you from your friends which is not a good thing. Alot of married women who have been abused, first start to experience this from their husbands. What is so wrong in wanting to see your friends and if you feel it is normal for him to go and see his friends without a thought for you then I would seriously start looking into your marriage. You only have one life and being married should be about mutual respect. If he can't give you this then there is something wrong with your marriage.

Sounds to me your husband is being very controlling and seems like he is very insecure.I really dont know if that is sign of abuse but im thinking it can lead to that.I think he very jealous.He needs to have trust.Tracking every mood you make is not kool at all.

yea sounds very jealous and mabey could get worse.. im married and well my relationship is not even close to this. its built on trust and love and friendship... I think you possible need to get help

That is abuse to me. It sounds like he thinks your his child rather than his wife. I have been through this too. I was married and he was 45 and I was 20. He treated me the same way. He really needs help. Sometimes I would think he treated me that way because of the age difference, I too have been treated like a child rather than a wife. I eventually left the relationship. Now he's in a relation and treats that young lady the same way. Try to get him some help, counseling would be great.

i think your husband is worry hard on you, maybe it because he think you are not protected your self well, and your husband seem worry because he think you are not woman enough and cant do and choose well, such as you are not reliable enough to do what you should do. my solution is, regarding friends, try to ask him to go with you and intraduce your friends to your husband. try having vacation with your friends and your husband and ask your husband friends to. maybe this way if he want some opinion from his friends he will get positif word. but if your husband keep acting like that, then you need to go to married consultant. oya, one more, try having a baby, baby sometimes, keep family together, try one, its work to some people. :)

Well, i think that this could definately be taken for a sign of abuse but not always as it may just be concern or even noisiness. I think that after reading the rest of your story now i think that this is definately a sign of early abuse and the two of you must sit down and talk about this. Seriously talk to him about the fact that you do not like his controlling ways and regardless of him saying that he is not being controlling he is! Tell him that if this does not stop now then it will eventually lead to you two getting a divorce and it is up to him to change this before it makes your relationship worse!

I hope that he doesn't become physically abusive since he is this insecure. No matter if you do everything that he does ask, he still will not be satisfied. Even if you stay home and remain in the same room with him at all times, he will still not be secure, so you can't really take any actions to make him more secure. I think you are going to have to find a way out of that relationship, or go see someone that can help you both out. It isn't going to improve with time. All of his expectations are extreme and not reasonalble. You don't want to live your life as a prisoner, and no one that loves you would want you to either. I hope you have some friends and family to help you get through this. You are going to need it. I can't really give any advice on how to end the marriage or get him to stop being extremely insecure. Maybe you should write Dr. Phil, LOL. I will pray that you get through this without getting hurt.

It's not abuse but it's not right. He should be able to trust you. And you should be able to be without him by your side. How was he like when you were dating? Didn't you see these behaviors before?

A person that want s to know your every move is just that controlling. As a human being you are entitled to having some space, just because you are married does not mean that he gets to control your movements, friends or anything else for that matter. Does he tell you where he is going every time he leaves the house? I am going to guess no on this one. I f you were to ask him where he was going and who he was with chances are he would say it was none of your business. Men who control feed off your fear, and your need and want to please them. It looks like he is trying to break you down, I am guessing that he was not like this before you got married and really these things are very large warning signs of bad things to come what is happening in your home looks like classic signs of abuse. Very often men who want to control all start out being very loving and gentle, but after getting married things start to change. it is no longer acceptable for you to associate with the same people, most often you are isolated from your family and he starts to put you down, you know tell you are no a good wife, that you are too fat too skinny. All of those things are so that he can make you feel bad, worthless, and to make you think that he is the best you will ever find. Well this is simply not true, there is nothing in this world that you can do to make him happy. Everyday he will find one more thing, he will find one more little thing to pick at. Once he has broken you down, he may start to beat you, or cheat on you or both. Your husband seems to be a very controlling man and i would be very careful and aware of everything going on around you. Don't let him take your friends and family away. I would make sure to talk to them tell your friends and family that you think he is trying to control everything you are doing. If you are afraid even just a little trust that. Trust the voice inside that says this is right... that voice is rarely wrong. There are a great many woman who go through this on a daily basis and really there is nothing good that will come of this kind of behavior. Leaving is always hard even when someone is very mean to you, but if things progress and he starts to become physically violent then you could loose your life.

i think it's okay though a bit weird. maybe he loves you a lot. or maybe ebcause the relationship is still new. ususally if youre newly-married, the guy is so concerned, but as the year goes-on, it eventually fades. so just enjoy it.

I was married to a man when I was young and stupid. It did not even last 6 months, he was a total control freak. He once riped the phone out of the wall when my friend called me. One time he attacked the mailman for looking at me. I got out of this early I knew it was not normal behavior and no one was going to control my life. I would even call his friends to take him out and he would not go it was like he had to be with me every minute, this is not a good situation.

I dont think it is proper on the part of your husband to try to know everything you do. There should a fair amountt of freedom to both as individuals. You can have your personal matters which you wont like your husband know. Nothing wrong in keeping a few secrets close to your chest. When you want everything to be known by him, you are inviting trouble.

WOW girl i was in ur same situation well not exactally i mean by being with a older man when i was younger and the way this sound's is either A)he totally is scared to loose u because ur younger B)he does these thing's to show u he know's better because ur younger and he's older C)He is mentally abusive ,actually there can be so many reason's of this and he will make it sound like he's doing it for ur own benifit, just because ur married doesn't mean u need to give up life!!! If i where u i would think twice about staying in this marriage..Your a growen women and don't need ur hand held to cross the road.. All the best to u

Your husband is very controlling, and that is not healthy. What he is doing is a type of psychological abuse in itsself. He is keeping you in invisible mental and emotional chains, and don't let him tell you he's not! That is a very dangerous type of relationship. I would not be surprised if he became physically abusive some time down the road.

I think because of the age gap your husband is very protective of you..Why don't you talk to him and let him know how you feel..Tell him your marriage wont work if he doesn't trust you enough. Introduce her to your friends and sometimes go out with him and your friends together so he'll feel comfortable. If he doesn't want you to go out in the store when you buy well then tell him to buy it for you..We should always tell our husband or wife where we are going so they won' get worried..and they'll know where to get us when something happens.

Considering your difference age which pretty far apart, I can see fear and insecurity in him. I saw this situation with my sister and brother in law that 20 years apart. evry time she moves, it has to be clear where she goes and who her friends are and if she wants to go to shop, it's better the goes than she goes. It's probably, that your husband, at first, concerns about you but then becomes over concern that can lead to paranoid. It's better for you to seek counselling and sort it out what to do before it's too late.

im not in no way trying to scare you. i just want to tell you thats how my ex acted. we were together for 11 yrs and he also had to know where i was or who i was with. it ended up leading to be very verbally abusive and very controlling. he had me so scared for years is the only thing that kept me from leaving sooner. sounds like yall could really use some counseling before things really do get out of hand. i wish you all the best and hope that every thing turns out to be just fine......good luck

Any relationship needs to be built on trust. If he won't even let you go to the store by yourself, then it sounds to me like there is a serious lack of trust! And my preventing you from going to friends houses, he is cutting you off from the outside world. That's not right. How would he like it if you never let him leave the house, or go out with friends, or whatever? There needs to be some give and take in a relationship, and it doesn't seem to be going both ways in your case!

I am on my second marriage and I am 28 years old.My husband wants to know what I am doing because he had his ex girlfriend cheated on him so now he wants to know if I am cheating on him.