Scary....
@lilttownmommie (1473)
United States
February 23, 2007 9:50pm CST
This is scary to me, being as I am pregnant. On New Year's Day my family was going to have 4 new blessings this year, My 2 sister in laws were both pregnant & due in September, my cousin was pregnant & due in August, & I am pregnant & due in June/July (my dr has changed my edd based on ultrasounds, but my lmp puts me due 2 weeks prior). Anyhow, 1 of my sister in laws miscarried at the beginning of this month, then my cousin's baby died & they had to do a D&C last week on her, then yesturday we found out that my other sister in law's baby died at 9 weeks gestation, as of today when they did her D&C she should have been 13 weeks (the baby had been dead inside her womb for almost a month). This all scares me because I am the only one left pregnant, I don't know if it's just paranoia now or what, but we have already had a scare that our baby may have down syndrome (the ultrasound came back that she doesn't & there was a higher risk to have an amnio to find out for sure) I am between 21-23 weeks pregnant, so I know I am at a lower risk for miscarriage, but I am still scared that something could happen, because all of the other babies that were supposed to be born this summer have been lost.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Oh honey...DON'T stress about this. I went through the same things with my pregnancies...Everytime I have had a child...I've lost someone close to me or one of my family members have lost their child while pregnant. I'm so sorry that they lost their babies, I really am...but PLEASE stop thinking about it. I know it's hard, but you stressing about it will only make it worse.
And Lord do I know that it will be really hard to take your healthy baby around those that have lost theirs and you have to understand that. My cousin lost her baby when I had mine and i had to stay away for a LONGGG time becuz it upset her so much, but I understood.
Just keep going like you have been, I'm sure your baby will be fine. Just be there as much as you can for them and try to understand what they are going through but don't take away from your own enjoyment and excitement about your baby.... You DESERVE that!!! And try not to worry. I'm here whenever you need to talk!!!!
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I really wish I could give you a big hug right now!!! Please try to stay calm!! :-)
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@lilttownmommie (1473)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I understand completely what they are going through. My husband and I lost our first, but I was only 6 weeks pregnant, so it wasn't as hard, but still hard, it was his first child ever, and our first together.
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@nicky35 (747)
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24 Feb 07
oh my god im soooooo sorry,you must have the unluckiest family in the world loosing all those babies,thats so sad.is there a genetic reason for this or is it just a terrible coincidence?i hope very much that you and your baby are both fine and looking into each others eyes this summer.i will be thinking of you and wishing you well.good luck
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@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
24 Feb 07
Sorry to hear news about the miscarried and the diseased little ones. But first of all , you have to be optimistic because as long as things go on as usual, there is hope that you baby may be born normally. A confident mother is the one having the best protection for her baby. So smile and have positive view of what's coming in the future. This may make the baby in the womb stronger to gain access to the new world around him or her.
@dreamingmyth (594)
• United States
24 Feb 07
ok first of all i suggest that you try not to worry about this at least as much as possible! stress will only make your pregnancy harder and thats something u really dont need right now!
keep focusing on the fact that you are not them! what happened to them is horrible but just because it happened to them does not mean it will happen to you as well. stay focused on the positive side of it.. and remember stress is bad!
best of luck to you!
@fianne (1057)
• United States
25 Feb 07
well es i understand your anxiety. but an advice for you... since you are pregnant, don't let any worries or anxieties lead you... it was found out in a research that when a mother is always worried, the baby might have problems psychologically when they are born and grown up. also, it does not matter that all the summer-due babies passed away, just do your best as a mom and take care of that precious thing inside you. also pray for his safety, i will, too.
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@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
25 Feb 07
that is awful to have lost all these babies.i think every pregnant women worries about something happening to their baby its completly normal.in your case i dont blame you for being scared your family has already lost 3 babies.but i would not worry about it to much instead look at the positive your having a baby and im sure everything will be okay.
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@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I am so sorry for all the losses in your family. I will cross my fingers that the rest of your pregnancy is uneventful except for the required kicking and such. I will pray for your sisters in law that they will not be bitter and resent you for having a healthy baby. I will hope that all three will have healthy normal pregnancies soon.
You just take it easy and do what your doctor says and enjoy your new bundle of joy!
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@villageanne (8553)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I am so sorry that they lost their babies. Try not to worry because that will make it hard on you and the baby. Just because they lost theirs, does not mean you will yours. Stay strong and happy and you will be fine. If you are concerned, go to the dr and have him do an ulta sound to make sure the baby is ok. That should help. Good luck
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@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
A baby born between 21 - 23 weeks has a slim chance of survival. I think its around 3 - 5%, but it is still a chance.
I think you should discuss your concerns with your doctor. He can best advise you if there are any risk factors effecting your pregnancy, and anything that you can do to give it the best chance.
The most important thing, and I know its hard, is for you to relax. The baby can feel any stress or anything that you experience.
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@MrsSgtB (289)
• United States
25 Feb 07
It is completely normal to feel that way especially after having to see a few of your family memebers suffer from losing their child. You just gotta keep faith and have the mind set that if something happens it was meant to be that way. For one reason or another they lost their babies because something was not developing correctly. Hang in there and many hugs to you!
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@drsbanerji (16)
• India
25 Feb 07
It is normal to develop the doubts which you have about your pregnancy. The best course is to discuss your thoughts with your doctor and to follow prescriptions rigorously. Genetic disorders should have been ruled out conclusively before 10 weeks were complete. Miscarriage is most unlikely if you adhere to diet and exercise instructions. The unfortunate incidents in your family may be due to underlying medical disorders, which hopefully do not apply in your case.
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@cttjj2312 (69)
• United States
25 Feb 07
lilttownmommie-- Sorry your family has been put through the ringer this winter. I feel for your family as I have lost a child of my own. I also have been blessed with 3 other kids and one on the way! I never feel safe until I feel that little one kicking inside me. I am always worried until that point. Hope everything is ok with your baby, Good Luck.
@annettenasser (2992)
• Kuwait
24 Feb 07
yeah its scary, i think i am going to decide to be pregnant later, i am really afraid because my sister just got cesarian for her first baby,my sister in-law suffer from sever urinary track infection and baby got sick.
@GardenGerty (160996)
• United States
24 Feb 07
It is normal to be a litle fearful, even without all of these instances near you. I am so sorry for the loss in your family. I am praying for you right now, and at this point you are relatively safe. Is this your first child? Try to relax and center on calming thoughts as the fear is not good for your baby. Hugs to you.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
I understand that u are scared, it is just natural considering what has been going on around you lately. I do belive that u should go to the doctor again to have him/her reassure you that all is fine, wich it probably is!
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@kareng (62072)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Honey, I know this has you a bit freaked out but each case is different and you shouldn't look at it like you are next. Try to relax as upsetting as this is. I'm sorry your family has had such bad news but you will have a new bundle of joy soon!
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
This does not mean that this will have any effect on you whatsoever and you need to think positively here. When i say this i also mean this becuaee if you think negatively believe it or not this can have an effect on a pregnant woman at times. You are already way passed the time that you shol have to worry and i think that you are worrying for nothing! You have already had an ultrasund and you know your baby is fine you seen his or her heart beating and you know that this baby is here to stay so leave it at that and do not dwell on the misfortunes of others things happen. Do not be paranoid that it may happent o you because it will not! Also at the same time do not feel bad that you have not also miscarried rather be thankful and they will still all be equally happy for you!!
@sammantha (278)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I am sorry that this had to happened to your family. 2 yeaars ago I had twins and I was supossed to have triplts (3)I started to bleed when I found out the whole time they (the doctors) told that I was not pregnant. Then later I found that I was and that I had a miscarried one of triplest I found out I was pregnat at 23 weeks and deliverd at 25 weeks I was scard because my babies weight 1 pound 2 ounces and the other one was 2 pounds the one that weighted 1 pound 2 ounces didnt make it but he had alot of medical problems.You have to stay stroung and keep you head up and pray to God that everything will be okay I will week you in my prays.God bless you.
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