To what extent a couple should be intimate before marriage???

I think you should fully know what you're getting into before you get married.... if you catch my drift....

in my country it depend on the woman if she like to have an intimate realtionship with a guy actually..and sometimes beliefs of individuals counts a lot too..

You are right in India couple are put some restriction before married, but what I found out that with the modern changing world this code are broken many times. Some are meeting there partner for more than 3 to 6 month after they are engaged to each other and many a time they do come in contact sexually with each other as they think why not try it out or by accident also.

In a pretense world it would excellent if everyone started with marriage first but human instincts drives us to be intimate long before traditions were even started. It would be a good idea to follow traditions for discipline and saving yourself the embarassment of being intimate with a person who really doesn't deserve you. I for one would prefer my child to follow traditions and make it a point to be really cautious with this matter. If people would have followed really this tradition then we could maybe have less womn who were left pregnant by their men and even unwanted pregnancies. But I guess we are just all plain human beings who's nature is to usually follow what are needs and wants are.

Marriage is God's instition and it should be treated respect and held sacred. It is not only abnormal to have intimate relationship before marriagem but it is a sin unto God, and it is a sin against your own body. Tha's the only sin we commit inside the body. Apart from that, socially, is like putting the cart before the horse. It leads to many relationship breaking before maturity, because the lady has already offered her most priced asset, free of charge.

Well, I think it depends on how comfortable the couple is with that subject. I personally don't think it should be set by society or other things. If the couple is comfortable with it then I dont see a problem. If they are not comfortable thats fine too. I just dont see any point in people basing there actions on what other people think.

I personally think it is a good idea to try a trial marriage as it is such a big thing to put the rest of your life into something you are going into blind...everyone does a test drive for a car and that is something so trivial....

I think it should remain entirely up to the couple. All else aside no one should be able to dictate to two people how intimate they should be with each other. A relationship is between those two people and no one else need be involved. Let them decide for themselves , after all it is their personal relationship isnt it.

I am agree with you that response to your discuss vary from country to country, but still people get intimidated then and now no matter which country they live in. If we talk about basic thing about intimacy before relationship it would be TRUST, the trust builds relationship and trust intimates people too many a times, if couples have faith in their love and they trust each other and spend more time together it is obvious that they get intimidated before marriage easily.

If a couple are equal on their views on this issue, and they are sure there will be no regrets later, then I don't see any problem before marriage. As long as BOTH are comfortable with their decisions. If their decision is going to conflict with their families and communities moral values, then the couple need to take this seriously into their decision.

Getting intimate isn't the question, but the consequences they should be able to face. And how can someone or how can lovers hold themselves if they have so much love for each other? It's already 2007, no need for inhibitions just as long as you know your limitations. Right?

I do not mind what goes on before marriage. If thats what you both want, then have it. THANKS!

I think couples should have an open talk with each other before getting married. this will help both of them to have good understanding. But I dont believe in dating and all. there should be a bar int their relation before getting married. that is good for both.

This all depends. I personally think it is okay to be intimate before marriage. I believe it can work out well in the end either way, or either way there could wind up being complications in the end. I guess it all just depends on the circumstances in each situation.

Well my husband and I were indeed intimate before we were married as we have a child who was born befor we were married. We had been together for 4 years before we were married and had an intimate relationship most of that time. I do not regret a bit of it. I think you should know that the person is special to you before becoming intimate but it is ok before marriage.