i get ABUSED at home...what should i do?

Honey, if you love your mum you ought to tell her what the mans she's with is REALLY like. She has a right to know. And men who abuse typically do so as a pattern of behavior. If he's abusing you now, chances are pretty good he'll start abusing her in the future, if he hasn't already. I know it's really hard, but your mom loves someone who's lying to her about the kind of person he is, and that's something she doesn't deserve, either. You also need to get out of your situation. There are all kinds of resources for women and kids who are being abused- there may be a help line or a center for abuse victims that can offer you shelter, counseling, and other resources. You don't deserve to be treated the way you're being treated. You do deserve to help yourself. Please don't try to go this alone.

That is sad. If you are under 18 I would call a child abuse hotline to report him. It looks like your mom would kick him out. I am sorry this is happing. I will keep ,you in my prayers

You need to report him, he should not be allowed to get away with this. Just think, prior to you he probably abused other children as well, and got away with it. I realize your mother may love him, but he definitely is not worth you being abused. Call 911 and report it asap. Go to a friends or relatives house immediately and report it. I will keep you in my prayers... also let us know how you are doing.

Grow up, take responsibility, tell the jerk not to touch you. Tell your mom he's doing this, then leave the home and get on with your life. Your life is far more important to you and you should be living it, not subjecting yourself to the punishment. Simple as that.

Nest time he hits you, simply pick up the phone and call 911 or 999, whichever your country uses. The police will put a stop to him by throwing him in jail. Andtell your mum, she wants better for you than to be beat. Most mothers would choose their children over a boyfriend any day, and it could be that she is looking for a good reason to dump him.

It's really very rude of him. You should tell your mom. This is the best way. And if you cannot tell her then try to discuss this with your school friends. But I don't think any problem to discuss this with your mom.

You have to tell your mom, I am so sorry for you. Good luck honey, no one should have to put up with anyone hitting them. Tell him the next time he hits you, you will call the police on him. Then do it!! Don't ever put up with anyone abusing you. You can always show your mom this discussion, have her read it and tell her you wrote it.

Ehy PiperCharmed, what you say is really DISGUSTING. I hate cowards, I hate people who beat the persons who can't defend. I undertand your dilemma, your trouble, you love your mother and you don't want that she could feel a great grief if she knew the truth, but you? You are important or not? You have the right to live in YOUR house without being scared of anything. That's your house, you have to live there and to sleep in your bed, in your bedroom without fearing that this b*stard could enter and beat you. To me you should speak with your mother. Also your mother has the right to know with what a kind of man is living. You deserve RESPECT. Respect. Respect. Respect.

I think you should tell your mom right away. I know you love and her she loves her boyfriend, but this is got to stop. You should not have to go through this abuse - if you want it to stop, you have to do something about it, even if it may risk your relationship with your mother. What if he turns to her and starts beating up your mother? what then? is he also beating up on your brothers? If your mother doesn't do anything about it, then get on a phone and call the police and report him. This will lead to more serious problems if you don't do something about it now. Sorry if i sound harsh, but i cannot stand men who beat up on women just for the hell of it!

sorry to hear this. u need to tell somebody as this is serious, i hope you will tell your mum and hope she will understand that u r her daughter and you should come first i know if this happened with my mum's boyfriend i would tell her straight away and she would be there for me i hope your mum will be, good luck

You need to put a stop to it now. I would tell you mother what he is doing and throw him out. He has no right to lay a hand on you. I am sure your mother would stick up for you.

Yes it will upset your Mum but will upset her more knowing that you couldnt bare to tell her for so long. If he hits you who knows if he hits your brothers too. She wouldnt love him so much if she knew what he was really like. Worst case scenario is once you are out of the picture he turns the violence on your Mum! You have to tell her.

I think you should seek the help of a professional. Get immediate counseling from a social worker. These things cannot continue. Because you don't know that it might not be only suffering from this abuse. This man deserves to go to jail because he can abuse more people. The fact the he knows he can get away from it by doing it to you, it will boast his ego and that he will soon again do it to other people. I used to study the different characters of an abuser. First, an abuser will try to overcome himself by by convincing himself that he can do it. Once this is done, he will try to eye to a person weaker than himself. After that, he will plan his attack and how he can keep himself from not being caught (usually using threatening words or actions) then he will continue to make sure that his victim will not talk by keeping his victim always afraid, thus increase the pain that is being inflicted to his victim. And the same process will happen to another victim and another victim. You must stop this cycle of abuse. Let your counselor know your fears of hurting your mum so that your counselor can think and prepare properly to talk to your mom.

well you need to tell you mom. i'm hoping she would choose you over him. but if she does not do anything call the cops. how old are you? if you are 18 you should try to find your own place to live. but if i was you i would tell your mother and the next time he hits you call the cops and if they dont do anything. call social services. call an abuse hotline call whoever.. cuz sumtimes the cops wont do a thing in abuse cases even if there is proof or not. i'll pray for you hun. and good luck

If it's true that you love your Mom then you need to tell her. I know you're trying to protect her from getting hurt feelings, but if he hits you, he will more than likely start hitting her when you are gone. Your Mother loves you and she would not want anyone hurting you. It's more important to a mother to protect her children than it is to have a boyfriend. She can always find a boyfriend who really does love her and her children but she won't get another you! You aren't doing her any favors by not telling her. You aren't doing yourself any favors either. You should feel safe in your own home.That guy has got to go! By the way... I have three children and if I found out that a man was hitting one of my daughters, NO woman would ever have to worry about him again!

I feel bad for you, but at the same time dont understand, why do you allow him to beat or abuse you. Whatz that you do to annoy him? Does he have any malicious intentions? Since you love your mother and also dont want to hurt her, then avoid doing things that annoy him or be bold and let your mother know about him. If she loves him, that doesnt mean she tolerate all that he does. So decide the way you wanna tread

Really sorry to hear that.Wish people like that could simply die.I think you better inform your mama about it.cuz it really might affect you alot.

Right now i am sure that your situation is going to be like that light house in the middle of the rocks, your mother is going to be more broken hearted if something goes drastically wrong (god forbid) and finds out through investigation that you kept it hidden. your allowing this creep to take advantage, and if he knows he can continue to get away with it, what else will he try? I am sure your mother does not love this man More than she loves you, and my fear is that once your gone, have you considered the welfare of your two brothers? i am seeing all sorts of scenarios and none of them any good. but let me put it like this what if he starts hitting your mother? my advice is find quality time, away from the home organize an evening out with her or go shopping without planning it, but find time to break it to her sooner rather than later. you say your not bruised which tells me this is not an act that is alien to this character. you have choices so make them there is none when it comes to violence. list it, document it, ask the police to even record it. if you have any true friends get one of them to set up a web cam or camera in the place or places that this usually takes place. it will be your word against his otherwise and wherever you go, the one thing your gonna need is evidence. think of it this way, if you talk to your mother and she doesn't take it on board, show her the film and get her to take action. if that doesn't work I suggest you start university tomorrow

ur mom loves him but she loves u as mauch too. so u can tell her. u r her daughter and u have more possesion over her than her boyfriend. u came first in her life. u can also tell her boyfriend that u r not telling ur mom anything cuz u love her or else its easy for u to create a void between them. and tell him keep his hands off u. it will be better for him. be brave.

Hey Pipercharmed how are you doing? Do you have any friends or family that would allow you to stay with them? I know you love your mom but has he ever hit her. You need to get out of it now and go tell the authorities because if he is doing it to you then who else will he do it too. Take pictures of all the bruise so that he cant prove that he didnt do anything to you for it. I have been in abusive relationship and I had to get out of it. So u have to stand up for yourself.