Should we emmigrate to help my autistic son ?
By GODROX
@GODROX (45)
February 25, 2007 5:12am CST
Im looking for good advice here as im at the stage were I just dont know anymore.I have four kids, the eldest has autism.They are all young the oldest being only 10 years. Heres my dilemma...We are in a suburban estate with not bad housing and local services etc there is no community spirit and its NOT were I want my autistic son to call home for the rest of his days. Why not move? Well his brothers and sister all know this as home and go to school here etc.
Yet I have identified a quiet autistic friendly place abroad which im prepared to move too.
Is it fair for me to move abroad to safeguard one childs future , uprooting the rest of the family?
Will his brothers and sister one day resent him and me for taking them from their homeland?
I just dont know...what do you think?
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@weemam (13372)
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26 Feb 07
I know how hard this must be for you my friend , My son has Cerebral Palsy ( you read my discussion) He is also an elder in our church , You will have to discus this as a family and take a vote on it , I have a friend with 2 autistic teenagers one at each end of the spectrum , and I know how al the family is affected by this , She has Ben given funds and has a special reinforced room for him ( I mean plastic windows and safe items) it makes life easier when he has (meltdowns) only you can make that decision , She has a wonderful website ( I am a member) when we all leave posts with our worries and all reply to help each other . Please take a look at it and I pray you will find some help there post this discussion and you will get some good replies , I promise you ,
http://s9.invisionfree.com/Side_by_Side/index.php?&act=Search&CODE=getnew
@GODROX (45)
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28 Feb 07
THANX weemam, your words really helped me and i managed to check the website THANK YOU. 3 of my four kids are at different ends of the spectrum and my question was about our oldest as he is the most affected.
Sometimes I forget that we are not alone in these situations. I do need to think about their future. Abroad seems such a jump but I cant take forever to decide.
Take care.
@michelledarcy (5220)
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25 Feb 07
I think that is a very difficult decision. For me though I think I probably would move. Your other kdis sound like they have lots of friends and so should be able to make more easily if you move.
However the best thing is to talk it through as a family and see what everyone thinks about the idea.
