What are some of the worst things a mother-in-law has done to you?
By lpetges
@lpetges (3036)
United States
February 25, 2007 10:53am CST
im a new mother in law, and i want to be a good mother in law. its not as easy as i thought it would be! i used to think, "i'm going to be so great" because i am such a nice person, and i love my son...but boy i think maybe i must not be so nice, and my son who i love so much, loves his wife more of course,,,so boy its tough.. i just want to know what makes you a bad motherinlaw???
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@lexieburgess (57)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I am an old mother-in-law. If you are still trying to arrange your son's life I think that is bad. If you are trying to arrange his wife that is worse. If you expect him to come to your house all the time to do things for you that is not good either. If you are all the time giving opinions on how to do things I think that it just create enmity. The best things you can do are give them space and their own time. Also ask them both at the same time about needing help do not just tell them
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@momathome (474)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I totally agree with this. My inlaws try to do this alot which is why I stay away from there as much as possible. I love my inlaws they are good people but everything you said in your statement is absolutely right!! I'm not a MIL yet but i sure do have one!!
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
25 Feb 07
i am so not trying to do anything. Its just different now., and i want to stay on the good side so i'm not the motherinlaw from hell! i basically know now that you can't say "I would", or "You should" or "I could" to start any sentence with those 2 words is a bad thing! I don't expect him home.. its hard to see the other parents being so involved and cared about-it hurts.
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@joshal (22)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Hi dear,
I am very happy to see people like you .Who want to be a good mother-in-law.Why don't you let him go because he would love you no matter what?Think of one thing dear you have your husband but your daughter -in-law only has her husband. So she will try to have him all for herself.Like you did when you were married.So plz dont try to ill treat her thinking you can get her son back.It would turn out bad in either way.If your son listen to you he would let go of his wife and stay with you forever .you can never find him being happy because no matter how you select a girl she will always try to have him for herself or in the other case if he listens to his wife he would try to avoid you.So dont be pushy just let them enjoy their life.If your daughter-in-law knows that you are not going to come between them she would automatically try t love you and respect you
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Believe me when i say "i do not want my son back"!! Its a great feeling to know that someone else gets him, and takes care of him when he is sick,, and hopefully loves him unconditionally and forever. its the best part of being a mom.. I did my job with him, and gave him all of my life the things that he needed to grow up with. (like respect, motivation to do well, and mostly love). So it makes me proud that someone else feels that way about him. So, i have no interest in wanting him to myself. I'm totally at peace with his life, and love to watch how happy he is..
@momathome (474)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I'm not a mother in law but I do have one. And my advice to you is don't try to pry in there life. Especially if they have kids. My MIL tries to do that sometimes and i'd like to tell her where to go!!
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@jbrowsin66 (1321)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Remember this is not all one sided - the son-in-laws and -daughter-in-laws have to be respectful of you also. They have a 50% responsibility for the relationship!
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@ceciliamilgate (157)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
You will be bad mother in law if you interfare in everything, like bad comment's about anything about arrangement in the house. depise her cooking, telling your son don't eat them. then u have cold war..just give them visit and try to be nice first them slowly give advice in a manner like just telling stories.Be friends and you will get her affection. What do you think?
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