My soon to be 10 year old daughter told me yesterday....

Sounds like she needs to be taken down a peg. Tell her that since she insists on being an adult, she now has to earn any money she is given, and set her HARD chores to do. after doing her own laundry, washing a few floors, and cleaning a few bathrooms, she may just decide that being a kid is much better. Do not let her away with talking down to you like this, or it will escalate into outright rudeness. I suspect she is starting to hang around with a few bad, spoiled kids at school

do not worry too much, some child grow faster than the others, your daughter is normal, girls do grow faster and think more mature than boys their age. as long as you are there for her, give her your love and guidance, everything will turn out right.

well, i think not only your daughter... but many children nowadays are growing up too fast and not acting like kids at their age anymore as what i can see... this is really disturbing as they are losing their innocence and children times which is supposed to be a memorable one... i suggest that you have a serious chat with her and check out her friends that she is hanging out with... if she still insist that she is not a child anymore, then give her more responsibilities... tell her that as an adult, that means she has to earn her own money, support herself and have many other chores to do... i think she will think twice and reconsider her decision... good luck...

Technically I don't see her as a "child". She's a pre-teen, so that means more responsibility on her part. A "child" should have help with remembering to brush their teeth, bedtime stories, have someone help or make their bed for them. But pre-teens & teenages can & SHOULD do all these things and more. In today's fast-paced society independance is very important and what your daughter might be thinking of as normal growing-up stuff might have accidentally come across as wanting to BE grown up instead of wanting to start growING up. My advice talk to your daughter about what she MEANT, it may have been a simple case of miscommunication. I hope this helps & good luck. :)

Well actualy she only hit double digit, she isn't really preteen at least to my point of vue. Preteen is 12 years old :P when you reach the ages where the word teen is involved, you are then considered teen and not a child anymore. Some people say that 13-14-15 are still childish, and i can take that because i totally agree with it. I think 16 is the real age of not child-ish-ness. Well i can see that she does want to be more grown up, but i can say that 10 years old is wayy to young. I mean i can consider myself young... But only young ;) Anyways i would just accept that, and maybe give her a talk about the situation... Tell her wha tyou think about it.

Hi, I have a 15 year old daughter who did the very same thing. What you need to do is on a regular basis tell her how growing up too fast is not good, even if you dont see a change in her right away it will seep into her brain. unfortunately you cannot be with her 24 hours a day and she might get into trouble and that is gonna happen, but do as much as you can to preach to her on a daily basis how its bad to want to grow up too fast.. Unfortunatly females are worse than boys to deal with when comes to growing too fast...Take Care...

You know I really wouldn't worry too much about it - I can remember feeling hugely grown up when I turned 10 years old. I always thought I was far more mature than I actually was - it's only now I really am an adult (and often would quite like to go back to being 10 years old!) that I can look back at that time and cringe!! I also wouldn't react too much when she starts going on like that. If you think back to your own childhood - shocking, irritating or disturbing your parents was probably the main aim of making many a daft statement!

LOL, My best friend has an 11 year old daughter and her daughter told her that when she is 16 she will be "a grown up". We laughed about how when we were teenagers we thought we were all grown up, too. Every teenager thinks that. Then when you get older you realize how immature and childish you were when you were a teenager! It's all a part of growing up. They all want to grow up as fast as possible and be an adult.

I have a 10 yo daughter, and she thinks she is sooo big. In a lot of ways, she is very mature, but she is still a child, whether she likes it or not. Every child matures at their own pace, and as long as she is staying out of trouble and obeying you, I wouldn't worry too much. Most kids think they are mature, which usually is a sign they aren't (remeber being a teen). Just watch to make sure she doesn't start tying to sneak around your back, and she'll be fine.

ask her to do some real grown up jobs at home, give her some real tough work to do, before long she will give up trying to think she is mature

Well if she wants to be all independent let her have a taste of it. She should be told that if she has any problems she should be able to sort it out herself since she considers herself to be all grown up. I am sure that she will learn that there is a price to pay with being independent at such a young age and will prefer to be a little girl again atleast till she is 18. Cheers!!!

Ok mom-- Take a deep breath! Kids are growing up faster these days. They are being pushed harder in school- learning lessons at earlier ages. My daughter is 10 (she'll be 11 in Sept.).. She acts much older than I did at 10... But she still is a kid. It's a hard age. My daughter has chores to do, and does extra ones when she wants extra items. If your daughter wants to be an adult- I hardly call 10 an adult.. "not a child anymore" then give her more responsibilities. Make her want to be a child again. Give her house work-- Like our work- Can't play or take leisure time until it's all done. Play games with her-- kid games.. do kid things with her to show her how much fun it is.. Parenting is so much fun! I'm thankful that my daughter still wants to be a kid!

I can understand your worry. It seems that so many children these days don't want to be children, they just want to be like the adults around them. I believe that she is considered a tween, now, until she becomes a teenager. So, you can tell her that, perhaps, that will slow down her need to feel older and be more mature. She practically belongs to the store, The Limited Too...that is for tweens in general. So, perhaps, if she goes shopping with you there, and sees girls around that are tweens like her, she will not want to rush. I don't know why children want to grow up so fast, we would give anything to be kids again, lol...

hehe, its not a big problem

it is my personal advise that to consult physician or psychiatrist to resolve your child's problem if she says that she is young even if she did not attend the age 18. please talk with her child more and more in a positive manner and do not need to worry or afraid about her childish behaviour or do not take any stern action towards her. handle this issue very politly hope you will get recovered soon.

tell her that she needs to be a kid as long as she can cause she will never get it back. i had to grown up at the age of 6 when my dad left us and my mom had to work 2 jobs to support me and my two younger sisters. i became mom #2. i had to make sure my sisters where in bed before my mom came home, ate dinner, did there homework, clean the house, ect.... it got harder as i grew up. i never got a childhood. tell her she really needs to enjoy this time, she doesnt have to play with barbies, but she can act like a kid. ride a bike, have sleep overs with her girl-friends, jump rope, watch cartoons on a Sat. morning, go to the mall with her friends and have a good time. she doesnt need to grow up right now. i really wish my childhood wasnt taken away but i really had no choice. my mom couldnt afford daycare or a babysitter. she had a neighbor below us check on us every once in a while and sometimes we would stay with my grandma, but it was mostly up to me to take care of my little sisters. even though it does have its plus sides. i know how to be a great mom and i have lots of pactiance with my son.

good to see that ur gal is becoming mature it is found that such children becomes extraordinary in the coming days

Wow at 10 she is all grown up? Thats amazing! At 10 I got my first CRUSH but never felt more like a kid. I think I felt like a more grown up age at 13. But 10 is a bit too young to be a not kid. I think teen is closer. Tech you are a kid till 18. But you dont feel much like it past 16 or earlier if you ask me...

hi!!!!!!!!!! first of all dnt get scared by knowing my name feeling tht this is a guy on next side. m a girl crossed 20 of age. So dnt get embarrased. Nw i wud like 2 say tht dnt stress on saying ur daughter tht she is yet a child else it may show wrong results.It may effect her mental growth. Wat u need is 2 give her full time personally.Dnt threat her rather explain her tht yes she has grown up.Bt every situation demands its own age. 4 sum situations u r highly grown up like u need nt 2 have spoon feeding nw.Bt 4 sumthing u still need 2 have experience like marriage.U have nt yet grown up 4 this.So in short, age matters acc. 2 situation. i hope m able 2 make u understand wat i wanted to.plz do reply me bout ur step n my decision as well.

Its nothing of a concern. Its the age of adolscence approaching. I must Congratulate you that you have a daughter who is maturing & wants to be responsible. Everyone matures - yes it is time to gear yourself up & further the maturing process of your daughter properly so that she really becomes a good girl. And remember, it is the mother responsibility that counts on such accounts. So go ahead with joy & encouragement.