Fear and parenting

I think my biggest if not only fear is that they'll die far too soon...I've already lost one child, I couldnt handle losing another ya know...

biggest worry for me is the safesty of my daughter when she goes out? and secondly i don't know how she will grow up as an adult i just pray she grow up as a responsible adult

I am afraid of doing something to them and then they grow up to resent me, like I didn't give them enough opportunities, or play with them enough. I don't know...it is a huge fear that I will let them down in some way and not be a good Mom. I feel so overwhelmed sometimes like I don't know what do to with them, especially with discipline, I don't want my kids to act bratty but I don't like getting on to them all the time either.

My biggest fear for my children when they grow up would be they turned out to be disasters in life. I try my best to place and guide them on the right direction. Teahing them right from wrong so I do hope they grow up to be successful and happy adults. I do hope they don't do the same mistakes I did when I was younger and I do hope they reach their utmost dreams. When I had my kids I realized what unconditional love was all about. Automatically I gave all my time and devotion in raising them and be there everytime they would need my help. I really am so inlove with my kids and I think all of us parent's fear that they either be in danger or they grow up in the wrong direction.

I am a mom of a 6 months old som. Every time some fear comes to my mind, I'm doing my best to drive these thoughts away. Fears like what if he doesn't eat well, or his excrement will be not of the color they should be and things like that. I try not to think much about the future, I'm just sure that my boy is healthy, smart, kind, etc. and so he will be. :))

I agree to that! We fear we are going to screw up our kid with a thousand things that we do every day. Hmm, we left him in his exersaucer too long today, do you think it will make him too co-dependant? We haven't played with our son long enough today, is he going to grow up distant and not fun loving?? I think these are all fears that parents have, and they need to realize that parenting is the greatest job in the world, and a child looks up to no one more than their parents, at least until they are teens.

I think my fears will change as my child grows older, but right now I'll say that my greatest fear is that she will be kidnapped. Abduction happen left and right these days and sometimes right under a parent's nose. I worry that we will be out somewhere and I will lose sight of her and she will be taken from me. I would never forgive myself if that happened. I also worry about her getting hurt in a car accident. People drive like they are the only people on the planet who need to go somewhere.

My greatest fear is that my son will not be able to realize and use his potential to the fullest. I know he's smart but it will hurt me if he'll use his talents for bad or if he'll have low self-confidence.

lol, i too have similar kind of thoughts running across my mind. Well, actually i`m trying to plan in advance for facing such situations, eventhough i`m not made for that kind of life at present, since i`m just hardly out of college... i hope to remain a nice guy to my kids, if i have any ;-) :-).

My biggest fear is that I will push them away somehow or have them walk out of my life,just like I did to my parents. Although the situation was way different than how they are going up. I do want them to be successful adults who believe in God and except Jesus in their life.

We have taught our children about every good thing of life and even make them elert about bad things also.We, ourselves are good people.We should not worry about our children they are going to become very good citizens like us have faith in your children.They are not going to do some thing horrible.

yes it is definately true that this is the biggest fear for parenting & for me also that how will my children be wen they grow up.. will i be able to give them good values n the ability to take responsibility...

WEll..I am a single parent at this point with two boys aged 9 and 6. Its so difficult to control them as they dont have a father to guide them. Me, Im far too strict, that I am afraid they will stop loving me because of this. My greatest fear is that I may die before they settle down. It makes me shiver to think so.

I have three children and I would have to say that my biggest fear is something bad happening to them. Thats my biggest fear. I cant imagine my life without them so I just want to always keep them safe. ToniAnn

I am too young to be a mom right now, but if ever i would get the chance to be a mom i think the greatest fear i would have is: one: hindering them from their dreams, ambitions, and their happiness. two: not being able to guide them properly and in the end causing them to exercise wrong decisions. third: not loving them enough fourth: not providing them what they need. i am just too scared of what my child would say to me when he grows up. i just wann hear them say thank you mom you're the best and i love you something like that. the way my mom has been there for me and i would like to emulate her patience.

I have feared for their Lifes, their Education and also what kind of People they would turn into. I have brought them up to the best of my Ability and they are great Adults now. We have always had a special bond and we still have that now. They are responsible working Adults and I am very proud of my Children. I still have the fear that something might happen to them but I think that fear will always be there. I do not fear that I have stopped them doing anything as I have always let them do what they wanted to do.

My first fear is that I may never have children, that I may never meet someone to have children with. My second fear concerning parenting is that, whatever I may try to do, for the best of my children, may backfire in my face. For instance, I push a good, strong, education on them and they become neurotic, or as a form of rebellion turn away from academia and into a life of anarchy, crime, or hedonism. Those are my parenting fears. I especially liked your last sentence, though. "Screw them up for life." I think everyone has some kind of fear like that.

LOL ... I would have to say that my biggest fears for my children are not in the way i am raising. I hae bigger fears about society itself. YOu know like the teasing , bullying and fighting while growing up. Also stuff like global warming really puts fear in me as how will life be for our future generations? That is what scares me being a mother the most!

I have a lot, actually. I am afraid not to be able to give my kid the best future that she deserves. I am afraid that something might happen to her that I always pray for her safety and good health. I am afraid that when she grows up she picks the wrong man to love, getting hurt in the process. If only I could shield her from the injustices of the world and take all the pain, I would. But I would be hindering the natural process that made me the strong person that I am today, and I would want her to be a woman of strength and character.

my biggest fear when it comes to raising children is that when they grow and realize that they have not been educated properly ,for which they would blame me. for the things i did done during their growth into adolescence,they would invariably blame me..For the love i did not give them because i had been busy with something else..they would feel deprived of that love and they would go some where else and seek love with someone else...they would leave me alone as i did ignored them when they were in need of me ,when they were small ,helpless,and needed all the care,love and affection of their parent..