Are Happy Marriages A Thing Of The Past?
By dsstepp
@dsstepp (28)
United States
February 27, 2007 8:55pm CST
Are long, happy marriages a thing of the past? I certainly hope not! My husband and I have been married for over 13 years. We got married young (20) and had kids right away. Boy, was that rough! Putting it bluntly, we were young, broke, and in love. The question is, were we the exception?
Now that I have kids of my own and they are getting into their teen years, I have changed my tune. When I was young, I thought that love was all it took. Boy, was I naive. I am not saying that love is not important. It certainly is. What I am saying is that it can be very rough going to school, working, and raising a family. Perhaps waiting until I had finished college to either get married or have kids would have been easier.
If my son wanted to drop out of college at 18 or 19 and get married, I don't know what I would say. I want him to be happy but in today's age, college is so important. I want what is best for him. What is best? I am not sure!!
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2 responses
@Piratesware (2888)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 07
well it's good for u married in young age and has good relationship with u'r husband, cause some time married in young is separated
@dsstepp (28)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I know that it seems as though most people that get married young end up in divorce. That is sad but true. I am not saying that people can't make it, but life can come at you hard. When your are young, broke, married, and the bills keep coming in, life can get stressful. Thanks for your comment!
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
28 Feb 07
It does take an education and a plan to avoid poverty and to always meet the needs of yourselves and family. I think you have to decide when the time is right together. It should be a mutual decision and one that you both feel comfortable with. When a child becomes an adult, you can only give your best advice and then you have to respect the decisions that they make. I would be honest about the consequences.
@dsstepp (28)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I agree about the education part. Without it, it can be a hard world. When the time comes, I will just be honest with my son. I will tell him that marriage takes a lot of work. Add the stress of school, work, and kids, and it becomes even harder. Marriage is a wonderful thing but the timing must be right. It would be nice if he gives his marriage the best chance of success by being ready for it. By saving money and finishing school, he will give himself, and his future wife, a head start.
