If you're in my friends situation what will you do?
By ydnac22
@ydnac22 (802)
Philippines
February 28, 2007 1:50pm CST
My bestfriend Rose,has a foreigner boyfriend and his name is James.Its almost a year now since they met on net(yes they just met in YM).According to her james is so nice,hes not like anybody else who just play games on net,very respectful and full of humour.Thats the reason why she accidentally fall in love to James.They're now in thier 8 months relationship and they can say their love to each other is getting deeper and stronger.Now James is busy in his work in US thats why his plan of getting here last december was postponed. This april james is going to singapore and go staight to India for bussiness appointment Now, because of hectic schedule she asked Rose if she can go there in Singapore to met him and of course all the expenses will be shoudered by him.They're both excited on that plan but the problem is rose is afraid of so many things. First,shes afraid to travel alone cause it will be her first time to travel abroad,next her family will not allow him to go alone and they want her to bring friend along with her,and lastly shes afraid of the possiblity what if James will not come, where will she stay? or what if james will be late in the airport.
Yes shes inlove but the trust is not fully developed cause they just talked true phone and tru net.Although she can feel that james is sincere still she cant ease those worries.
The LAst time we talk,she's still confused of the decision.She has plan of telling her parents that shes going there with her friends but the truth is she will be going alone cause nobody wants to go with her.....
Me personally,im confused of what to advice her.So, if you're in her situation:
- Are you going to take the risk og going there in Singapore to met his Bf?
- or is it right to go there alone?
Hope you guys can help me what to advice here. Thanks so much.:)
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4 responses
@heartwick (26)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
no...if i were her.i won't meet him in singapore.if james is serous,he'll find ways to see her in her own country.how can you trust someone that you haven't meet in person yet?if it's what ifs,don't let your friend take the risk of meeting the guy in another place or country.it happened to my sister's friend before,she was asked to meet his bf in hk,the guy met the girl but he never paid her the money he spent on her trip...so the girl went home with a huge debts...so,no to james in singapore.if he loves the gf, james have to meet er no matter what...by hook or by crook.
@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
28 Feb 07
Tell her not to go....If i were her i'll prefer to wait and let him come visit me and know him better,and if she knows him well enough,then when he's far and want her to visit him,she can go without concerning about what will happen.
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@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
Such a tricky situation. But if you ask me no matter how much I want to go I won't. Always be on guard as this world is filled with conniving and evil scheming people. Please don't get me wrong that I am judging James...I just want Rose to be careful.
1. Singapore is a foreign country and she doesn't know anyone there, what if something happens to her (most especially she is not planning to tell her parents where she is going and she plans to go alone).
2. We should not always trust people we meet on the net as they could appear as gentleman or caring online but totally different in reality. I met my special someone through the net also and now we are together but on the first dates we had, I didn't trust him at all. This is what you call being responsible for oneself.
3. If James is really inlove with her he will understand her hesitation to come to Singapore. He should be able to cram a short visit to Rose's country because if he can travel a lot for business then why can't he spare a day or two to see Rose?
Wishing all the best of luck to you and your friend Rose ;)
@lhytzky (43)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
if i were in your friends situation, id rather not go! it's the guy who should go to your friends place. If he really loves her, he must find a way to go to her place to meet with her family.
There are really cases wherin, after the girl went to their meeting place, the guy abducted the girl or the guy didnt show up. Thats why, she must be extra careful in making decision. Probably, she must ask the guy if he really wanted to meet her in singapore, call her parents and ask permission to let her go with someone to accompany her at his expense, or let the guy come to their place and go to singapore together. In that way, her family will know the guy very well.
You just can't really trust a persons' sincerity through internet or chat alone, you must meet in person first, to know his behaviour, attitude and physical condition or if he's a GOD fearing person.
Finally, tell your friend not to worry, because if the guy really loves her, he will come to her place, what ever it takes! And please, tell her to tell everything to her parents, who knows, they've got the best answer to her problem? don't go aleng! hehehe u
