What should we do with S.E.X offenders?
By SheraPop
@SheraPop (84)
February 28, 2007 5:26pm CST
As the mother of three, I am so concerned that another teenager has gone missing today, especially as he is from my home town...now he could have quite easily gone off of some adventure (I pray to God!) he is 16... problem is, with all of these weirdo's in society now, whenever you hear a kid has gone missing you automatically assume that they have been taken away by 'a dirty old man'... When I was at University, I was told paedophillia is noted as being incurable in the British medical journal (sic) so, if this is the case, how do we 'deal' with these people (animals rather) when they are caught. not a very nice subject, but maybe it's about time public opinion stood for something rather than judges and politicians deciding..... and another thing, how or rather what measures do we take to stop them taking our kids, I mean they are getting so clever what do we tell our kids to make sure they are safe without scaring them too much?
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
1 Mar 07
i am also a mother of 3 and worry all the time about people like this and if my kids are safe.my opinion not that any of our opinions matter but i think they should sit in jail the rest of their sick lifes. alot of those guys in jail don't like these sicko's. if they want to let them out put them all on there own little island that they have no way off and let them stay there. why put these sicko's back in to a town full of kids. i had looked on the net one time and could not believe the sicko's that was right around me. it makes me sick to think there could be one of these people walking down my street right now and i have no clue.
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@SheraPop (84)
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1 Mar 07
Hi aretha.. I love it, that you are always just coming online when I am off to bed; it's midnight here in England!! Lol
Anyway, just wanted to say yes that must have been scary when you saw how many you have living near you, but at least you know... here in england we aren't allowed to know!!!
I'm off to bed in a minute and will say a prayer for that missing boy (His name is Logan) and when I wake hopefully he will be safe and sound.... my point at the beginning of this discussion was not just what should we do with them but also isn't it sad that we automatically think of the worst whenever these stories hit the news.
Apparently we in the U.k have demographically more than anywhere else...
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@prakashrishu (147)
• India
1 Mar 07
sORRY TO SAY mATE, BUT U'R BEING TOO SHORT SIGHTED. Thats not gonna solve anything.
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I'd rather see inocent victims doing a search hunt gathering them up against a wall and shooting every last one. But we live in a society that is impossible to have such drastic measures taken. So we are all helpless and have to teach our kids to be more cautious if and when they do go out on there own.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
1 Mar 07
first of all you must not worry so much..but i don't think you'll follow this sentence..you are a mother after all..
i think many teenagers are missing from their homes for a day or 2 ..it's a rebellion kind of thing..and there is nothing you can do..it is a part of adulesense..you can tell the teen to call or tell you if he is not sleeping home..but i can't gurantee that it will work..
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@muppetsnap (229)
• Canada
28 Feb 07
You ask a lot of questions. Firstly I think that the less public opinion involved in complex issues like this, the better! Best we elect and appoint the good and the wise to deal with them for us, without the mob mentality.
But as for what to do? It's an interesting item that the vast majority of child offenders were in some way abused as children. So while some may just be evil, many may just have been broken and messed up by the very people they relied upon to protect them.
I have no doubt that were anyone to harm mine, then I would feel very differently about that person. Hence there needing to be people who can at least try and look at these issues dispassionately. (I'm not going to suggest the people in power at the moment always fit the bill!).
@SheraPop (84)
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28 Feb 07
Hmmmm quite a few fair points there, but I have to disagree with your view that public opion should be ignored... not talking about troops of people banging down suspects doors etc, more of a public vito on what types of punishments should be handed to those commiting these horrible acts... after all those 'wise and good' people in charge seem to have their priorities mixed up with many of the sentences they hand out... furthermore, whilst I can appreciate many may have been abused and screwed up, everyone knows it is wrong and just because you have had something done to you, even when it enters your psyche, it doesn't mean you have to follow suit. I mean, without getting too personal, my mother broke my nose when I was two with my shoe and i continued to be in and out of social care until I was 16 because she couldnt handle her temper, but to this day I have never laid a hand in temper upon my kids... believe me, it's there but I know not to do it because I remember the pain and anguish it caused me.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
1 Mar 07
It's unbelievable to me that some judges have actually given out probation for child rape. There's a push on to have minimums in sentencing for such things, and yes it takes into account teenagers dating, and the new sentencing is for rapes and molestations of children (those under 13, I believe it is) by adults.
There are also cases where the child rapist, yes rapist, got less years than the number of years he raped the child!
My biggest concern - is the children. Life in prison, to me, is a just sentence for raping a child. The child, I'm sure is affected for life by it. I'm not for drawing and quartering or any type of torture or even public humiliation.. just get them off the streets, so children can once again play outside, or wander into another aisle at the store without being in grave danger. Or at least we could lessen the danger for them some. [I don't remember the statistics, how many kids go missing, but it's a shocker.]
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Yes, the sentences should be very stiff. Keep them in jail and off the streets, away from the children. Children are very vulnerable and if we don't look out for them who will? Some judges will give probation for the offense of molestation, even child rape. This is a fact! Can you believe it? There are even people out on the streets who have abducted and killed a child. How is it possible they ever walk the streets again? Rape a child, and they should be in jail forever.. They made their choice and the child's life is affected forever. I've heard of some sentences also which were less time than the child had to endure their molestations or rapings.. It's outrageous. Yes, I worry so much about the children too. No longer can they play freely outside in their towns without someone worrying..
We really do have to warn the children about these things. It's unfortunate. There is a good tape or dvd out but I forget the name! They do a good job of telling the kids how to scream, bite, drop all their weight to the floor.. tips like that, but they use kid language and some humor, to make it less scarey and still get the message across. Some of this is working as I've heard one or two reports of kids getting away! Whereas it was unheard of before (getting away that is). Some people think society is "progressing" but as far as I'm concerned, it's falling apart. I hope that 16 year old boy is ok...
@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
as a parent we have to be extra careful about our kids, we should know what is their whereabouts everytime they are outside the house.
and little kids should be accompanied by parents or relatives if going out or playing outside.
and do not allow our kids to talk to strangers.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
I worry about that a lot myself, too. I have always reminded my kids that they should avoid, first, getting into places where they are not familiar with, unless they are with us or anybody from the family. Second, I constantly tell them that strangers cannot be trusted at all. So if a stranger approaches them for any reason at all, they always have to be constantly cautious so as not to get themselves into any kind of trouble. As the children are growing up, we cannot be right beside them all the time, wherever they go. So the only way we can keep on protecting them while they are out on their own is to communicate with them all the time, talk to them and remind them to take good care of themselves.
@lithmus (52)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
If they can't be cured better lock them up for life.
If they still can be rehabilated give them the maximum sentence and serve it. After serving it and gets out, just hope and pray he learn from his mistake and be a better person.
@uspasstime (155)
• United States
1 Mar 07
ya but as parets we have to take care of our childrens........
@Mattali (15)
• Australia
1 Mar 07
they should rot in jail, have their privates removed and if they are release in to society again then the people in the communities should be informed. They gave up their rights to privacy the day they took or abuse our children.
I know this may seem harsh but i am frightened for my children. I have two nieces that were abused by their grandfather and he got of scott free. At least if the penalties are tougher then most of them will see the inside of a jail cell for a minimum sentence instead of their lounge rooms.
Education is the key to helping our children stay safe and if you have to scare the living day lights out of them, then so be it to keep them safe.