How Do you know if a man is Cheating?

United States
March 1, 2007 9:49am CST
Hi, I don't suspect that my husband is cheating, I do trust him for the most part, He never gave me a reason ever to think he is being unfaithful. BUT what if I am being naive. What are signs that a man is cheating??
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@wendy82 (437)
• United States
1 Mar 07
There is a lot of signs that you can be seeing in a man if he is cheating. A couple of them could be that he is calling you saying he is going to be late due to the fact that he is working late. But the only way you can found out is if you call him and they answer and say he left like a hour ago. Or if he is out with friends and he tells you the location and you show up there and either he is not there or he is there and he has the female with him. If he isnt calling you the nickname like baby or sweetheart or honey. If he isnt saying the words I love you. If you smell perfumes that isnt yours. If you see lipstick on his collar that is not yours. If you make plans and he cancels out on you. Or he comes up with another excuse. If he isnt calling you or keeping to his promise. If he is getting late calls and you ask him about it and he doesnt tell you the truth. If he is hiding his email or letter or message on his phone. Maybe it is a surprise and maybe he does not want you to know about or he is afraid that he gets caught that you are going to leave him and take everything. So I would say if you trust him then he is not going to cheat on you.
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@anonymili (3138)
1 Mar 07
I agree with the above response pretty much, if you don't know your husband then who would? The thing that concerns me about this post (apart from you saying "I do trust him for the most part") is that if you feel the need to ask this question (unless, I sincerely hope, it's just hypothethical) there is already something bugging you which you maybe can't quite put your finger on, am I right? (I hope I'm not!) Men are weird and wonderful creatures, they say that most men would cheat in a minute if they were 100% guaranteed that their wives wouldn't find out. I don't how far I believe that but at the end of the day a good marriage is based on trust and mutual respect. If my husband wanted to cheat on me, so be it, I would let him go. If a man is going to cheat, there is nothing we can do to stop them. If I found out he was cheating, it would mean the end for me, no arguments, just finished. Two things I would not put up with - cheating and violence. This might not be as helpful as you were hoping but I can't think of anything more useful to say. I do hope that your niggles are unfounded :)
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@simran1430 (1790)
• India
4 Mar 07
Unless there is another cause of stress (i.e., difficult assignment at work), then a sudden loss of interest in s ex may indicate your loved one is getting it elsewhere.
@Piratesware (2888)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 07
well see from his eye and attitude even looks like normal but weird, there two think if it's happen problem with his work or he is cheating
@mgtextek (109)
• India
1 Mar 07
Yes, of coures "CONTULETZ"2007 is correct. why are you giving more stress on this aspect? relax your self,keep continue your trust on him, if he is unfaithful,or cheating definetly one day he will come and realise! don,t show any negative attitude towards him! when he is not giving you a chance to think negative about him..... why you....be happy...enjoy your life..
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• Romania
1 Mar 07
come on... i mean if YOU don't know what would be the signs that prove YOUR husband cheats on you then who would? anyway, there are not any specific signs that show the fidelity of a man... in fact this applies to everyone... he simply changes his way of acting, his approach towards you. if you live with the idea that you trust him "for the most of time" although he never gave you any reasons to believe he is being unfaithful then the problem is yours, not his. i don't blame you for anything but try not to be so stressed out because of this aspect. you married him because you love him, because you felt he is the right guy,right? then why hurt yourself with thoughts like these? try and relax and have more trust in him!