Loser boyfriend- I'm gonna pull my hair out!!!
By sarahtroyboy
@sarahtroyboy (10)
United States
March 1, 2007 1:34pm CST
I've been with my sons father for 7 years now. He just got out of jail last week after being in there for 4 months for eluding an officer. He claims that everything will be better now and that he is on the right track. I've given him plenty of chances because I saw first hand how he has been handed a lot of crap in his life. At the moment I live with my mom and he stays with his aunt- we are apartment hunting to start are family again, but while I am busy hunting he is partying. A few days ago I gave him $300 to pay the mechanic for fixing his car- he spent $100 out of it partying with his friend Larry. I let it slide and told him NO MORE. Yesterday I gave him $350 to pay a fee to start a class to get his license back. I called his aunts house today to see if everything went ok- and apparently he left last night and never came home. I called Larry's house and Larry is sleeping- It's 1:30 in the afternoon so I would think they were up late again. I swear he better of not spent that $.
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@rosettaresearch (1285)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Of course he spent the money. You tell him never again, and then give him money again. I know it is hard and he is the father of your child, but you need some help getting him out of your life. Since you don't live with him, you can go online and find the nearest woman's shelter. No, you don't need the shelter, but they have counselors there that can help you do what you need to do to get away from this guy. If you think he checks your computer, use the phone book and a phone that does not record outgoing call numbers. Good luck.
@rosettaresearch (1285)
• United States
2 Mar 07
If he has addictions and you cannot trust him with money, he is not a great father. A great father is just that -- with no saying "other than ...."
Contact a women's shelter, hotline, etc. and find out what you need to do for yourself to get away from this guy. Stop making excuses for HIM and help YOURSELF. That is the best thing you can do for your son. You want your son to learn this is not good behavior. The only way he will learn that is if you show him.
@sarahtroyboy (10)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I dont need a womans shelter- I have family thank god. I just dont know if I should give up or try to help him
@rosettaresearch (1285)
• United States
2 Mar 07
My advice -- give up. He doesn't want your help. You are just an ATM to him. Sorry to be blunt. I am sure you are a very nice person who deserves much better. He is not going to change, especially as long as you keep taking him back.
A women's shelter will have counselors who can tell you exactly what to do to get him out of your life and keep you from taking him back every time he says he is sorry. I don't know anywhere else that would have that kind of resouces.
@CraftyCorner (5600)
• United States
9 Mar 07
i know you love him, but he isn't the type to settle down and rear a family. he's stuck in adolecence and chances are he won't change. men seldom do.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
3 Mar 07
OMG..that sounds like one of my issues...my ex (yeah I got rid of him) decided to get a new car..I was ok with that because he didn't have one throughout our relationship..however, he came over and decided to check my bank balance while I was in the shower and when I got out, he asked to borrow 60.00..I listened to this long drawn-out story on why he needed it and being the person I am always wanting to help someone, I gave it to him..the next day, he decided he NEEDS another 80.00 but this time he tells me I am getting it back on a thursday..that day came and I never got my cash back..he even hung up the phone when I called him to find out what the problem was..my point to you, my friends told me and so did my mother..you never give a man money..I wanted to help..you were trying to do what you were supposed to do as a grown woman..he is your son's dad, however you didn't have him..when he wants to go out, he should make sure he has the money he worked for..and if he wants to piss that away, he better see to it that your son is taken care of first..it just sucks how men can do things to the people they claim they care about/love and don't seem to care when things go wrong..do you think this fool cared that the money he got me for was my rent money? of course not..as far as your man goes, he is only going to do what you let him do..the next time something has to be paid, and it has something to do with you, YOU go pay it..he is clearly not able to be trusted with any cash and doesn't seem to have a concept of doing the right thing..
