My daughter is leaving

it's always hard for us to be left by people we love, however, there's always a time to say goodbye, it's just happening to you sooner than you expected. cheer up, it's a growing experience for both of you and your daughter. and remember, goodbyes are not forever. quit scaring her of getting everything away from her, that's not fair, and that's not doing both of you any good. just love her and set her free. you see, the more you grip, the more someone would like to get free. so let go, you can always love and support each other even when you're apart. be the mom she expects you to be - understanding, supportive, selfless, and loving. the emptiness you'd feel when she leaves will be temporary, pray and God will fill it up for you, and pray for her so she'd be guided and blessed.

It's difficult for any parent and especially a mother to let go of her daughter more than a son even considering differences in culture. But if she really wants to go and there is nothing you can stop her from why don't you just help her out figure out the best way for the both of you. Give her what she wants but at the same time let her know you'll always be there for her with open arms. Let her know what she will be facing and the skills to face the world without your presence. Give her the assurance and security that though you do not like the idea you will support her emotionally and mentally. That way she will always think twice before doing anything you would consider unsafe or wrong. She will have a running thought everytime she is faced with a decision of getting into wrong habits or other issues. Otherwise if you take everything from her and she just walks out, chances of her getting into deeper problems out there are far more dangerous as it would be a scapegoat from you. In other words, try being more of an adult with her and not much of a parent. Sounds difficult but its a good try. By the way how old is she?

If she is 18 there is not much a parent can do to stop their "child" from leaving the "nest". I know it's hard, but there is a point in which the parent needs to let their child "grow-up" and become an adult. Although I find it kind of sad that she is wanting out of the house so quickly. I went through much when leaving home, cause I am very close to my mother, but also realized that I needed to move out from under my mom's shadow so I could grow into the person I have become today. I wish you luck with your situation and my sympathies are with you.

What does she mean by 'home life is to hard and you need to be a mom'?Is there someone else involved who isn't her parent?How old is she....let me know....I can respond more but need more info....thanks

Why is she going to leave before graduation? Tell her that she can leave as soon as graduation. Tell her that you would like to spend time with her before she is gone. Tell her until you start paying the bills then you can add you two cents into it because you are doing everything for her. You brought her into this world and you can always take her out. Tell her how much you love her. Send her message and tell her no matter what she does or goes you will always be a part of her life.

I don't know what to say for sure but I left my parents house at 17 , I was still in my last year of high school but I was also pregnant as well ... My mom & dad didn't want me to leave either but like I told them I needed to , I wanted to be dependant and enter into the real world and see what I had waiting for me ahead ... My parents always taught me that nothing is ever handed to you that your life is what you make it , that's very true ... I love both of my parents with all of my heart and soul but I don't think that I would have become the type of person I am today if they wouldnt have let me leave ... I am a great mother , wife , friend and very self motivated , goal orrientated , hard worker , kind , honest , loving and warm hearted ... By me leaving home at an early age it was not because I had bad parents they were great , I just needed to create my own life a new begining ...

I'm only 21 and I know how hard it was for both my mother and I to accept the fact that it was time for me to go. Now when I look back on it, I think we both kept making excuses to prolong my stay at home which made it all the more harder for me to go! I can't imagine how hard it is for a parent to let their children go, but remember that she needs to grow up too and by making threats to her and trying to get her to stay, she might not be too impressed by that now or later on. It's not like she's leaving your life, you can still talk/see her and be apart of her life.

I am not going to give you any real advice... I just dont know how any child can do that. It sounds like you have given her everything. A car and a cell... She must not know that it is hard to make it out there on your own. She will learn hun. I know it is easier said then done but that is the truth. I know when I graduated I did not leave I stuck around. I also stayed and went to school that way. I love my family too much. I am living 1000 miles away now and it is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life... and I am 27.... giving birth was a slice compared to missing your fmaily. Good Luck!

This is very sad. Why does she so badly want to leave home? It could be that you will have to let her leave, and keep your peace with her.

It's always difficult when someone is leaving, but you need to understand her. She wants to feel an adult, and by leaving home it will make her feel like that. You can't make her stay even if you take every thing that belongs to her. I want to leave my family as well when I graduate this year, and I can't wait for this to happen. Let her try to handle by her self, and maybe she will come back home when she feel she can't do it, and maybe it's too early for her.

I think that this is hard on every mother once our children reach that age. I think that you will see that even when she is not at home you will still be seeing her alot and always talking on the phone with her. You two can still be close and this does not mean that she does not love you we always love our mothers even when w leave home! I think that maybe you should have a talk with her and remember keep an open mind when it comes to her descision as you would not want to push her away! Good Luck with this and God Bless!

I know that is the hardest thing to do, of letting go and let your children face the real world. I am dreading that day when it will be my time to make that decision. Don't despair though. I know you had taught your daughter enough how the world is and how to survive on her own. It will be scary for both of you but you will both grow in the process. You had instilled into her everything that you know and with your guidance from afar, definitely she could make it. Just support her (but never be an enabler), give her advice , let her know that you are just a call away and the moment she is out the door, just keep on praying. Hope everything will be allright.

Graduating from where? If you mean university then it's the right time for your daughter to make steps towards becoming independent. Don't make it harder for her, help her in any way you can and she'll always remember you as a help in the future instead of thinking "I did it by myself" or similar. If she has happy memories of you she will make sure she doesn't lose you, in that way you're sure not to lose her either. Let her know that she's loved and supported by you.

Because you love your daughter you don't want her to go but let her go...you raise your child because you want her to learn how to live on her own...because I believe parents are only there to guide and not to be the provider forever...Do you still remember when she was a baby?she can't walk and in order for you to give him the confidence to try you help him and be at her side if she falls..so why not give her the support she needs in order for her to learn how to be a good mother just like you :)

Is she your only child? If she is 18 there's nothing you can do...I also have a daughter and it's very hard to let go.

I think you are going about this the wrong way she is geting older and probally want to see adn discover things for herself taking away herstuff in the hope of keeping her may make her go farther away or she knows it is an empty threat. Mine are graduating in a few months adn they were talking of going away but now are thinking they will stay until they figuire out what they would like to do. Eventually all kids leave home fact of life we just have to hope we have armed them well enough to deal with things the right way when the time comes.

We all have to come to terms with the fact that our babies leave us at some point or other. As much as that can be hard to handle, we cannot hold them back. You've watched them grow up and helped them along the way, but when it's time for them to make their own way in the world you cannot stop them from doing that. Please don't try and scare your daughter into staying by threatening to take everything away from her. It'll only work for so long, as already proven when you say it's not working anymore. Let her know you love her and that you'll always be there for her should she need you. She's showing you that she needs to be independent and you have to respect that. She may be your baby still, but in the eyes of the law, she's now a young adult and if she wants to leave, you can't stop her. I wish you the very best of luck in sorting this out.

Whenever i think about leaving my daughter for her further studies,it does not bring any pleasure,but a ball of pain is felt in the throat.It is inevitable, that she will move away for her studies, but leaving her seems to be too impossible for us.She is in class X, persuing her board exam,but whenever the discussion comes,all of us invaribly lower our eyes,as if we do not face each of us.After a brief break,some other discussion brings the ease.All of us know the day is to come,in one year,two year or may be in 6 months,but pain is the crust of the situation,indded.

I know it's hard to let go, but it sounds like you need to for both of your sake. She's an adult now and needs to learn to go out there and make it on her own, and you need to let her have her own life. Believe me, the more freedom you give you kid, the more she will appreciate you and want to be part of your life. But emotional or financial blackmail isn't the way to go. It'll just cause resentment and rebellion. If you want to keep a close relationship with your daughter, let her go with your blessing and let her know you'll always be there for her. In the meantime, to handle this absence, it's time to do something great for you! Why not go back to school yourself or start traveling or take some cooking classes. Or if you miss being around kids or teenagers, why not volunteer at a community center or a halfway house for troubled teens? Whatever interests you. Also, if you still feel lost and anxious about this, maybe it would be good for you to talk to a professional about it and figure out why you are clinging to your daughter so much. Maybe there are other fears or problems you've been unwilling to address and you've been focusing on your daughter to avoid facing your own issues. Whatever the case, be strong and supportive. Whatever you give will be returned to you tenfold.

let her live her own life!!think of how selfish you are being.She is growing up and wants a bit of independance,you could learn a thing or two from her!!