I need some advice on how to handle my partner.

My advice to you is that you need to be able to sit down with your fiancee and have a really long heartfelt talk with each other , she needs to be able to understand that neither men or women are always right all of the time it don't work that way ... And no you should not have to go begging for her forgiveness exspecially when she offended you , asking for forgiveness is ok if you know that you done wrong but otherwise what do you have to be sorry about , she needs to know that we as people have to be able to accept responsibility for our own action even in a relationship , let her know that you really do love her but there are some problem areas that need some work ... these are the main keys to any relationship what I like to call TLC ... T= TRUST L= LOVE & LOYALTY C= COMMUNICATION & COMMITMENT all in all it sounds like you two really are in love and I wish you all the best in a long and happy life together but you two need better communication and for her to be able to admitt her wrongs and recognize your rights that will help the two of you to become stronger as a couple ...

No i wont say men are always wrong in relationships but you know women are little more possesive in relationships. They are more caring and expect the same. Love is in the nature of women. And they expect the same from man. There is really difference in the love by man and by woman. So all this is due to this only difference. There is nothing wrong if you are the one who always go back to her. As you are sure she still loves you thats why you always go back to her. And if she doesnt come thats doesnt mean she doesnt love you. Actually women are little less expressive than man. This is also one reason. But if she loves you she wont let you go. Thats her love too that enforce you to go back to her. Dont you think|?

Hello Docsammy, well to me no one is perfect,women cant always be right in a relationship...you could possibly have a point and sometimes you dont. I guess you need to check yourself out....if you are always the one wrong.But i dont want you to look down on yourself ok.Are you a Nigerian? cos am one...my name is Benedict and my number is 08056028808. See ya later Bro.

There was this article I read and I want to share it with you. It might enlighten you a bit. It was from the KFAM INSIDER. And it was written by Bro. Bo Sanchez. It was a conversation between the author and a Bishop. And it goes like this: Bishop: Bro Bo, the Bible says in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands love your wives, and wives submit to your husbands. Have you ever wondered why the Bible doesn't say, "Wives, love your husbands?" Bro. Bo: Why? Bishop: The responsibility to love the family rests on the husband's shoulder. The wife and the kids are only to respond to that love. In the same way that the Bible says in 1 John 4:9 "We love because He first loved us," we respond to God's love for us. Bishop: "Why did not God say, "Husbands, submit to your wife?" Bro. Bo: Why? Bishop: Once that love is there, submission is a natural response. I hope you got the message and I hope this helped you. I hope I am not biased in saying that maybe the way you express your love is different with what your girlfriends wants and that is why she gets frustrated and argues with you lot. Sometimes men tends to think that what they are doing for their partner is enough but what they always forget is to listen to what their partner really needs. You may be giving a lot but have you stop to think if your girlfriend really wants what you are giving? My ex was that way before, when we have a fight he would always tell me that he has done everything for me. But that is his opinion, he thinks that by being with me everyday and driving me around to places was enough to show his love. But the truth is I don't really want him to be around all the time. I need my space and I need my own friends but he could not understand that and he would argue with me when I tell him that.

No, Sammy, women are not always right. In your case if you are always the one coming back begging, you are not in a healthy relationship. I would be concerned. You should talk to her. You do not want to spend your life like that.

i beg to disagree that women are always the righteous in a relationship. i am a woman, but i don't agree with that. i think in every fight, both parties have their share on it. the cause should not be blamed solely to either one of the parties. I think most of the time, it is the guy who always makes the first move in fixing a fight. Maybe, that move could be mistakenly interpreted as admitting the fault which i think is not. I suggest that you and your fiancee should have a deep talk. Tell her all your concerns and be honest. But you should also give her the chance to speak for her side and take them. Talking is a good solution.

no, not at all time, i know that you are mature enough to understand what who is right and when you can ask and begg for the reconcillation, sometimes you must put a altimatum if you think you are right, there are things that needs common decide to settle.

well, nobody is perfect as we are just human beings... and human beings are prone to errors... so, it doesn't have to do with gender at all... whether a male or female can make mistakes... a relationship needs understanding, tolerance and accepting each other's differences which is not easy at all... it has to be mutual and work out by both parties... not only one side... otherwise, it will become unbalanced and the relationship won't work well... good luck...

you dont need to do that begging her just to stay with her. i know that you love her.and i know why we still comeback for them its because its just a normal fight.and we need to move on but in your side that is not normal.you dont to much martir! you should talk to your wife solemly that you dont want a fight anymore and you want a peaceful family! and if doesnt work for her. ok make a move. dont be foolish in one woman.find a girl that makes you happy forever. hope youre okay right now. this is your friend criz

A lot of times when my boyfriend and I get into it, one of us is right, one of us is wrong, and the fight is caused because the one party has been to harsh when trying to make the point. I've always said that I don't have to be right all the time, but when I'm 100% sure I am right, I'm going to "fight for it." I don't mean fight with verbal violence, I mean I'm going to stick to my convictions, and if I know I am right, I'm not going to back down. Of course we both feel that he should do the same thing. Problem is when we let frustration get into it. As humans we don't always realize that "too much emotion" can be expressed through anger too. When I know I'm right I do my darndest not to express my point WHILE FRUSTRATED, or not to let my frustration come through while I'm trying to express my point, if it just can't wait for me to cool down. When he lets frustration get in the way, expressing his point, I cal lhim on it, as I would expect him to do to me!!! My motto is "control yourself, and you will feel no need to control the rest of the world," or "if you don't stay in control of yourself someone else will be more than happy to control you. Don't let that happen!"

No, women are not always right, and neither are men. A relationship takes a lot of hard work, understanding, getting to know each other, and compromise. It sounds as if your fiance is not willing to discuss issues and resolve them by compromise. That is a problem for you now, and it will only get worse unless you can talk with her and get her to realize the importance of this to your relationship. You should not have to feel as if you are always wrong, and you should certainly not have to come "begging" for her to forgive her, especially if she was hurtful and offended you. Before you take this relationship any further, you should sit down with her and have a real serious heart-to-heart discussion about your feelings and issues with this. Be prepared to give her some specific examples. Make it clear that arguing is not an effective way to communicate in a relationship and that the two of you need to learn to discuss situations, respect each other's opinions and needs, and come to a compromise that is OK for both of you. You both need to work at this and work at pleasing the other one, but don't lose yourself or your own happiness in this relationship. Good Luck!

Right after breaking up with my husband, a friend's mom talked to me about staying in a loving relationship. Although it was a little too late, her words stuck with me and when I get the chance I share this piece of wisdom with others. She told me that in a relationship, if 99% of it isn't working, concentrate on the 1% that's working and focus on that. Because concentrating on the negative only fuels it some more. But if you work on the 1% and build that to become the major part of your relatiosnhip, then it's easier to handle the storms that will come both your ways. Think not of where you or your partner went wrong but think of where you can go right. Think not of what you or your partner shouldn't have done but think of what you can do to make it better. And talk always when your calmer, it's less hurting and much, much easier to see reason. Hope this helps you build a better relationship with your fiancee. Good luck!

From a woman's point of view, no women are not always right. There are times in every relationship when things seem more stressful, due to circumstances or outside stresses, or sometimes as a relationships gets closer or deeper, we will either start to take things for granted or take the poeple in our lives for granted. It is possible that the fights are not about the fights at all but about something underneath. It could be that something was bothering you something you may not even realize yourself has been bothering you and because you are "ignoring" this, it festers until every little thing becomes a big deal and more annoying than ever. It could be that this is happening to you, it could be that this is happening to her. It seems to me both of you need to sit down and talk calmly with out placing blame for the arguements, and find out what maybe behind them. Some times how we say things is vital. For example, if you said "why do you always have to fight" it is an accusation, it is fighting words, it is saying that you blame that person for something, in this case causing the fight. If you perhaps said, "That lately at times it seems like you are edgy and almost as if you are ready to fight, and this causes me to be edgy and fight, and maybe we need to talk about what might be bothering you, remember I said it seems like not that you are looking for a fight all the time just that it seems that way a lot, can we talk about this" That shows that you are percieving the situation in a certain way but since you said it seems like you are not making an accusation that they are doing this, you are willing to listen to see what they really mean that you are willing to admit that while it seems one way to you, you are open to the idea that the situation is not as it may seem. This can be done for anything, fighting, accusations, being critical. You said that "...men are always wrong even when they offend us..." You didn't give specifics, perhaps she is not aware that she is being offensive, it is possible that what is innocent to her, is offensive to you. I know that there was a way of saying things I had when I first got invoved with the man in my life, and it hurt him, he thought I was being critical of him, when we talked about it, and he realized that what I meant and how he percieved it was not the same thing, I altred how I said something, and then was able to understand what I really meant on that topic even when I still slipped up and said it similiar to the original way of saying it. This has happened in reverse for us as well. Though he finds it harder to do, he has come to learn that how something is said can be percieved one way and even when it is not meant that way. We still argue about things, alot. But we also reached a point where we can talk to each other, and instead of instantly getting angry with each other we will say "look this may not be what you meant but the way it sounded to me was ..." And we can then work on the problem with out it becomeing a problem it often then only takes 5 minutes to fix something that would have other wise escalated into an hour or hours long argument. When one or both of us happens to be tired, not feeling well, or very preoccupied then we don't do this, and we end up arguing, only to go around and around, with us both feeling defensive, and hurt, until we finally realize that what caused the original hurt or anger was in fact just a misunderstanding, that could have been avoid if we just asked ..."Did you mean for this to come out like that ..." So maybe the both of you have become some what complacent with each other and are reaching that point where to many misunderstandings are happening. It can't hurt to talk to her about, openly honestly. Both need to remember that you have to put hurt aside, be open minded, and be willing to really listen to each other, and if you think things are coming across in away that may be negative, then make sure first, ask, clarify what she means, have her do the same for you, because if she doesn't mean it that way or you don't then you can move on with out ending up in a fight. What you find offensive may be something that is not important to her, and so she can compromise on it, but it may be something she feels strongly about find out why she does, and maybe you can compromise, both need to be willing to compromise, listen, talk, and remain open minded.

No women are not always right, I don't mind admitting that I am wrong when me and my husband fight. Someone has to be wrong and I don't want him to feel like it is him all the time, so even if I think I am right I will give in anyways!

no, im a female and i know im not always right, actually im usually the one in the wrong, but i always think im right. my bf and i have been together for nearly 3 years as well, we fight constantly, but as long as there is love and trust i dont think theres a problem with a relationship, all lovers fight, and about the most silliest things you could think of, stick in there, and be strong, it will work out either way it will be for the best.

Don't give her much freedom. Man is always superior than woman. so if you give her much freedom you will be in deep trouble

you are funny. no women ain't always right in what they say and men ain't always wrong. nd i do not think that you should always give in o your fianncee because look what happend: you are not happy with it, you are confused, and you listen maybe too much to people around you for advices. i am sure your father is a smart man and you should always honor him but he belongs to another generation and you belong to the other. i thing you should thing about things. if it seems wrong you do not have to agree. do not cancel your personallity cause you are affraid of losing or upsetting the other loved person. but do see how you can compremise with your partner and seek with her for solutions for things that you two don't agree upon.

women cannot always be right all the time. You have to stand up like a man and don't go begging all the time. If she's wrong sometimes, make her know that she's the one at fault.

hey there...it is not true that it is always the woman who is right when it comes to relationship...it should be balanced...i think sometimes you just have to talk about something important like asking each other why do you always have fight?..coz in love you accept the reality that being two different people you are two different personalities. Your temperament, attitudes, ways and outlook differ.

hi bro u need some better advice for this relationship here it comes. first of all u two are in love so there should be mutual understanding between u two.smotime if she fight with u u have to compromise first and vise versa. the point here is that there is llimit to every thing u dont have to begg all the time even when u are right.. womens are not always right,but on the contrary mens r also not always right...so the solution is try to solve the problem by talking to her......