Looking for Mr.Right on online dating sites!
By Rachel
@RachelleDD (823)
Canada
March 3, 2007 10:00am CST
My friend is gorgeous, she goes out on many dates it seems lately. Her longest relationship was only 14 months and then she ended it saying he wasn't good enough. Now she is checking online for Mr.Right. She has signed up to about 6 online dating sites that I know. She traveled to a few places to meet a few guys. Now she says she has found him, but guess what? He lives on the other side of the country. And the both of them have children. Then to boot, the guy is in the middle of a divorce. She is totally in love with him, I am scared she will leave her child and go to him and we would never see her again. How accurate are these dating sites? Can one truly find love on there or are girls like my friend just being foolish?? How could I check this guy out to see if he isn't just jackin her around because she is pretty and naive??
4 responses
@contuletz2007 (734)
• Romania
3 Mar 07
i think she should have a serious discussion with herself: does she really want this? does she really want to live a life like this? i mean, it's not that bad to live alone either, specially that you said she had a 14 months relationship but the guy "wasn't good enough" i think she's too picky, she definitely is.my mom has a friend who never got married because of the same reason - no one was good enough, all she did was criticise. no one is perfect and to find someone to love you just have to let go of some things, to be less tight about these pretentions.
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
4 Mar 07
I honestly dont understand what the girl is looking for. She is young, only 26, with her whole life ahead of her, the child she had was from a one night stand believe it or not. She doesnt have a good reputation in our community, so its no wonder she went looking online. I just wish she could be more realistic. I think this guy is going to eventually hurt her.
@La_Bella_Vita (598)
• United States
3 Mar 07
My advice is to stay close to your friend just to keep her aware of what she already has in her life. Don't let her lose touch with reality because if the guy ever reveals himself to be no good, she is going to need you and others as pillars of truth.
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
I have let her use my puter to log in and check messages. Some of the messages she has gotten from this guy is like something you would read out of a romance novel. I have tried telling her that this guy isn't for her but she wont listen, she is totally in love with him. She can't wait to see him and they have only been chatting online since christmas. She has asked me to watch her daughter when she makes arrangements to see him this spring. If I say no, she will leave her with her aunt, and her aunt isnt someone I would want to leave a child with. So I am not quite sure what to do here.
Thanks for posting.
@Radicalpatriot (665)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Looking for love online is one of the most dangerous things anyone can do. My daughter, who is now 22, did it all the time and she has paid the price for dating people online and not finding out serious problems with these people beforehand. Just don't do it!
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
She hasnt met him yet, but as far as I know its gonna be early spring. She has a 4 year old girl, and i dont know whats going to become of her if she travels there and dont come back.
Thanks for posting...Perhaps I will let her view this discussion.
@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
3 Mar 07
like you said,she went out on many dates and her longest relationship lasted 14 months,she said he wasnt good enough.If she's looking for Mr Right,i'll tell you she'll never find her,there's no Mr Right,she has to be satisfied with what she has,if she dated so many man and didnt last long with none or didnt like them,than your friend has a problem.You are scared that she leaves her child behind and never come back,i'll bet you she'll come back,it appears she is very picky on chosing her mate and will never find what she wants and will never be satisfied what she gets.And dating too many people will confuse her more,she'll be comparing the man with each other,and she wont know what is best for her
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
She is indeed picky, there is no doubt about it. She is very vain to say the least. She is really pretty and she knows it. When we go out on occasion all the guys flock to her fact, and she loves the attention. I think tho that this guy has her hooked, and thats what scares me because once she gets something into her head she don't back down. Its her child I worry about the most, and my friends safety.
Thanks for posting!
