people are cruel

No your right. Why did she do that? Was is just because she disagreed with your opinion on something? I don't understand people sometimes. If I was you and she is on my friend list, I would DELETE her immediately.

If someone gave you a minus and told you that they did so for the sole purpose of either disagreeing with you or because they just didn't like what you said then you should have reported it to mylot. So for the next time, which I hope that you don't have a next time you know. That would definitely fall under the category of abuse. At the least I think that mylot would send a very strong warning to them. At the worst they could get banned from mylot altogether. Just my 2 cents worth.

I don't give anyone a minus rating unless they are clearly breaking the rules. And only after I think about it for awhile and I am sure they are breaking the rules. Don't feel bad, one minus rating shouldn't really hurt. And I may have done the same if I was mad enough. But I am trying to keep myself out of those situations.

That wasn't a very nice thing to do, and then to tell you that she gave a minus was even worse. I would have reported her even though you gave her a minus. She deserved the minus for being so petty. You are doing quite well with your star rating and she was probably jealous. It happens quite a lot here.

I usaully give people a postive rating unless it is rather offensive and them I give them a negative rating.I fell everybody has a right to their own opinion and I usually give them a postitive rating even though they disagree with me.I think mylot sent me a e-mail notification I dont know if anybody else got it , but it said to cut doen on people jsut giving people negatives for no apparent reason that if that person gave a negative rating then it would affect them not the person that had gotten the negatvie rating.But who knows.

I haven't given any minus ratings yet but I might have been tempted in your situation. I think it was unfair of her to give you a minus rating but you probably shouldn't have done the same back. Try to remember this in the future so that you avoid repeating this and feeling bad again.

I wish myLot took away the minus rating, I never use it - only plus or nothing at all. There is an alert button to press if somebody breaks the rules and then it is for myLot to decide what to do. myLot has informed us that it is impossible for one person to destroy anyones reputation by voting a lot of minus posts, so it is not a cathastrophy if somone tries it. They will only cause trouble for themselves. I used to have number 9 in my star before and I have no idea what happened and why it went back to 8. But that is not a problem for me. Perhaps for someone who is not so generous - that could cause a lot of problems in their own life. Let´s be optimistic, people will learn - we all do. If not today, maybe next month or next year!!:o)

i do agree with you i think people should only give (-) ratings to those who are rude and disrespectful.People are entitled to their own opinion so i just dont understand.There is a such thing as Freedom of Speech the last time i checked!!! have a great day hun!!

I always give a postive rating to anyone that responds to my discussion with a well thought out response. It doesn't matter if I disagree with the response or not. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. But, if the response is a violation of MyLot rules I will report the abuse. If it is one that is a one worded response or "I don't know", or "I'll think about it", they get negative ratings.

People are so sensitive here and will rate u with a minus for almost anything. I do not think that I ever have done that, but I have reported some for breaking the guidelines in an obvious way.. I rate all mine +, if they write a word or so as a reply, I do not rate at all!

It was wrong of her to do that. But really wrong of you. If you felt she did wrong which by the rules she did do wrong then it should of been reported. That is what this place is about. Telling what you think. And a person should be able to do that without being worried someone can make there rating go down.

yes, i agree. too often our emotions blur our judgement and we fail to realize that there may be 2+ valid sides to every argument. some people refuse to see that and therefore will "-" anyone who opposes their view. i think that's a shame and i agree that the "-" should be closely watched. i don't think it should be taken away, though, b/c sometimes people can answer in a negative way without being abusive. for example, there are answers out there that are pure crap and are offered up in a "gaming" kind of way. if someone is obviously giving a half-a**ed answer in pursuit of some money, then they should get a "-". they aren't really being abusive, they just need a lesson, ya know?? maybe you could write a note to mylot and explain what happened...i think that might clear your conscience a bit... take care:)

Yes, now a days people are becoming very cruel. People are not getting good jobs and they need money,so they go for wrong paths.

well i must say that sometimes i give minus. If it's a short, useless or lame comment that seems like it's only for the money it has been posted, then i give a minus.

I totally agree. Just because someone does not agree with your opinion on their topic...doesn't mean it it wrong. It's an opinion right? I think that giving a "-" should only be used if opinion what you stated above. Or if it does not follow the rules of Mylot.

Many times I feel like giving a minus to people whose replies to my post are not at all relevant but so far I have not done it to anyone. It is because, like you, I feel one should not get the minus unless their response is offensive or abusive. I simply do not rate them. Stay cool. You'll get wrinkles! :) Just cheering you up.

That is just normal out of anger. We are all human, what do you expect? That we can all the time an angel? At least you regret it later on so that means you are not as you had been acting. We are all the same!

Well, after reading your discussion i am still thinking that how much anger is dangrous for us. In our anger we make decisions that prove to be totally wrong. I will suggest to every one through your discussion that we should control our anger. And also we should behave nicely with those who gave us loss. Dont do bad with bad ones because if you will do bad with bad people then there will be no difference between you and between them. I think you are a positive thinker but you think after you have made the decision. Hope so that you will understand what i am trying to say..... Bye

wel ... my personal opinion would be.. to forgive and forget never discourage a person always encourage even if he's done a mistake correct but dont let him/her down... correct him. He would change . Yes as u told loudly that u can rate one negative.. only if he repeats the mistake again and again esp when its offensive or abusive. This message is to every one...

Well, I see you are a ten so I suppose it did not make a difference there. Still, I don't believe anyone should get a minus rating for not agreeing with someone. The whole point of a discussion is that it has several opinions. Often there is no right or wrong answer. It is petty to hand out a - for little reason, especially when everyone is just trying their best to make a go of it. I agree, that is someone was very rude or abusive they might deserve to be given a minus, but I have found that most people here are very nice.