have you got scoliosis

I had the surgery so the spine wouldn't go against my organs, it was necessity. I can also tell you if you're vain, this won't correct it. I have no waistline on one side of my body, like I have a huge curve in where my waist is one one side, flat on the other. This is because my spine is crooked still, the surgery just keeps it from getting worse.

I am also "scoliotic". My work requires me more of the heavy technical work. My back, especially near my right shoulder aches most of the time and I have to endure the pain. Like all other, I don't have enough finances for the surgery so I don't take the recommendation. But if I had the amount necessary for the operation, then I'd take it. Your 2 sons would understand that you are going for the surgery (and for the rest), not only for yourself, but also for them.

I have scoliosis too but I haven't seen a doctor since I gave birth. The previous doctor who diagnosed my scolios didn't mention anything about surgery, but even if he had I wouldn't have gone with it because we don't have the money to spend on surgery. If I'm not mistaken the recuperation period is 6 months, compare the 6 months you're going to spend doing slight housework (or none at all) to the pain you'll have to endure should your scoliosis worsen. I myself is suffering everyday from back pain when I work too much on the computer or write on my journal for a few minutes. There are also times that I cannot take care of my son because my right shoulder hurts too much. If ever I'll need a surgery now and have the money, I'll go with it.

As an adult living with spina bifida, scoliosis has long been part of my life. While I've not yet required surgery, I think that's more because spina bifida simply gives someone higher priority for surgery (I've had over 50 surgeries in my life). I fail to see why you'd consider this surgery to be "vanity" in your case. Having this surgery would be better for your health, your self-image and, ultimately, for your ability to adequately parent your children as failure to have the surgery would inevitably lead to further health problems and long-term difficulty with posture, self-care and caring for others. I might encourage you to consider speaking with a counselor regarding this issue. If you genuinely consider this something that would make you more "happy and confident," then perhaps there are other issues that need to be discussed as well? Ultimately, you deserve to be happy and confident AND healthy.

I think it would be better to do what you want to do. Besides the fact that you would feel better about yourself, most likely if you don't have the surgery, I'm sure there are additional health problems that may occur as you get older. I'm 32, and I had surgery for scoliosis when I was 14. I tried 3 different kinds of braces before that, but they didn't help. I've had no problems since I had the surgery, I'm a normal person with a normal life and I still have 2 rods in my back. Good luck, I think you'll make the right decision.