How Do Feel About Your Girls Being Picked Up For A Date

I am dreading the day that my daughter starts dating but I am also old fashion. I want him to come to the door and I want to meet him. There is no way my daughter is walking out the door till I know who and where she is going. It drives my kids crazy that I am so over protective but it is for their safety and what if something happens do you tell the cops I have no idea who picked my kid up and what he was driving or where they were going. I always thought my mom was wrong about it but now that I have my own children I know that she was right

I feel that you are right in what you did. For that rascal to come right to your door and not have the courtesy to come in and fetch her.. that is atrocious! And him honking off just makes him all the more rudder. In fact, I would go further to say that your daughter might want to consider if her bf is as ideal as she thinks he is.

It is totally tabooed in our country. Here, in India, boys and girls meet hiding others. Going for dating so openly is a total mismatch as far as our culture is concerned. However, things are changing very rapidly. American culture is setting in very fast here.

Well the Guy came to the Door for my Daughter so I had no Problem there. I did find it a bit strange but I guess this is what happens when your Kids grow up My Daughter won't let anyone treat her bad lol so I am safe on that Side

I completely agree with you! There is no way my daughter would be allowed to run out the door at the honk of a horn!!! He better expect to come to our door and meet us first! This way, he will see the shotgun leaning against the wall. ha ha Seriously, that is totally rude what the boy did. And you handled it the exact same way I would have! She would not move to even look out the window to acknowledge that he was honking the horn! If he wants to take my daughter out, he best come to the door and be respectful enough to introduce himself and tell me his plans as to where they are going and what thy will be doing. While also volunteering the time as to when he will have her back! And if he knows what is best for him, he best give me the time of an hour before I expect! LOL Good for you for setting the rules with your daughter right now! I am sure that she will come to understand the meaning behind it more as she gets older.

I agree with you but not only do we expect them to take the time but we expect them to take the time to stay for a few minutes and talk , they are not in that big of a rush that they can't sit and chat for a few minutes . If they expect us to trust them with who they are with then they need to trust that we will not emabarass them when there boyfriends are around and they no all our friends and when we go somewhere they know the people we are going to be with so I don't think it is too much to ask that we get to know who they are going to be with and to get to know them a little better also .

Good for you my friend , I have 3 grown up boys , 2 eldest are married and have teenagers of their own now , I brought my sons up to have nice manners , thew eldest has 2 daughters and the eldest is almost 18 , she has been going out( as they say) for over a year and her boyfriend still comes to the door , much nicer I think , I hate to see people sitting in their cars and honking for people to come to them , grrrrr xxx

I LIKE your reasoning!!! It's not just a tradition, and that's not the imporession I got from your comment. You're RIGHT! We are not animals to be called with bells, or whistles or horns, we are real human beings deserving of RESPECT by everyone who knows us. A shame that most young people just don't think this way. This happened to my mother once, when she was a teenager. Her date honked, and Morfar (Danish for Mom's Dad, as I call my grandfather) ran outside and told him that if he couldn't come to the door like a gentleman, he wasn't worthy of dating his daughter!!! I've always been especially close to my Morfar, and I appreciated the way he thought. Mom was rather embarassed, but I would have thought it was sweet, were that to happen to me.

Thats a great story, My daughter is only 10 so I have a bit yet to go through this- But yes I'm certain that her dates will come to the door- Introduce themselves and be able to carry on a conversation, If I get a bad feeling about them- Date over! : ) I know I'm tough- But I only have 1 daughter and she is precious!

That is not old fashioned. You have a right to meet the boy and expect him to have the common courtsey of walking up to the door and escorting your daughter out to his car. He needs to come in and spend a little time with the mom. I would like to know where he is taking my daughter and then I would give him a time I expect my daughter back home. He should also walk your daughter back to the door after the date. This is called courtsey and I have found that a lot of the younger generation does not do these things. There are some but few and far between.

No no no...no boy will be honking his horn for my daughter. As a teenager I would never have been allowed to go out the door for someone honking. I dont think kids understand such rules until they have kids of their own...I have had to admit my mom was right more than once !!