Am I being a Hyprocrite?????

I don't think you're being a hypocrite at all. I'm curious as to why you didn't tell him in the 5 yrs how you felt? Were you waiting for him to make the first move or what? There's no need to move or quit your job. It's difficult now but will get easier with time. When your young it feels like your life is ripped apart when you get your heart broken but life does go on and you'll figure out how to handle the situation. You're a smart girl, just consider it a life lesson learned and now your a little smarter and a little tougher.

Seems like you have a very sensitive problem here, matters of the heart, and how to preserve relationships you have with your friends. I think it is better if you laylow for a while, tell them that you cannot always be with them because you kind of feel out of place. Tell them that you are not there for them everytime, because you have to consider their situation now -that both of them are in-love(ouch!). If you don't want to consider yourself acting as hypocrite, then I think it is better for you to stop thinking about the guy then. He's already taken, and to that you should move on with your life also. Try to look for others, entertain other guys. Just make yourself more busy, and put your mind on more important things instead of acting like a martyr..

"Well" you are young and pretty so don't waste to much precious time with this hurt. There is someone out there waiting for you who will love you back. Wish your friends well and don't wait to become second choice. You are too good for that! Take care Joby_09.

i do not think that you are beeing a Hypocrite. feelings like this are hard to talk about, especially since he is with a friend of yours. I am sure that the story might have been different if you would have told them before - or atlest the girl how you felt for him. Now it does sound like they really like eachother and for you to tell them now will probably just cause more pain to all the people involved. I would suggest that u try to move on, even though I know how hard it can be. Maybe you will have your chanse later on, and if not - I am sure that u will find someone else that will love you as much as you deserve!

No... I don't think you are being a hypocrite there. There is nothing wrong with loving someone. Love is divine and I feel that if you love that guy deep enough, you should let him know how you feel. Go out of the way to chase after him even! After all, it is your life and he may very well be your Prince Charming.

yes i understand its painful. And will always painful whenever u will think over it. Try to find more friends and activities to divert your thinking. Time will make everything fine again.

no not at all. u are not hypocrite. i should say you are great. You have sacrified your love for two friends. You have done one mistake. why you have not told your friend earlier that you love him? May be due to that today you were not at this situation. I should say you are too great. You are pretending to make them happy. Try to pacify urself taht what you have done is a great sacrifice.Think that may be u were destined for it and may be u deserve someone more great. Wish you all hapiness in life and that you find your tru love of life.

I do understand your feeling. But it has been 5 years now and he has never had the same feeling with you. You should move on. Perhaps, you can find a new job so that you don't have to see them frequently. I know it is not easy. Perhaps, he is not meant to you. Or maybe, God wants to give you a better boyfriend?

Well it sounds like this guy seriously likes the other girl, and that she really likes him. you say that they would be good together. so i must say that its time for you to move on. you waited to long to let the guy know your feelings. doing it now would hurt/confuse/maybe even anger him, and it would hurt/anger the girl you say is a friend of yours too. and you would be hurt too, i hate to say it, but he obviously doesnt have the same feelings for you, that you do for him. if you cant get over it and continue to be friends, then perhaps you should think about moving. it would give you a fresh start, remove you from the emotional trauma. but if you have a good job that you enjoy and moving wouldnt be an advancement..dont do it. it may be hard, but you cant let something like this ruin your life....open your eyes and heart to others. for all you know, there maybe be someone that wants to court you but has seen your feelings for this guy and doesnt want to be hurt himself. show you are a good friend and be happy for them.

Time heals all wounds. Just continue to be their friend, but focus your attention on making yourself happy elsewhere with others. You'll find a new love-- there are many people out there that are lovable, you just have to open your eyes and find them. I loved someone so much one time that it wasn't until I let him go that I realized that though he was great, there are other great ones out there.

i think you are doing exactly what I would do...but it is still a bad situation...I mean you are suffering a lot..Are they already in love or are they only dating? I think that id they are not already in love, you can try and open your hurt to the guy you love...just to lift your heart and see if he understands and he can feel the same..I mean...maybe he has not decided yet and he has never imagined you were secretly interested in him...If this is not the case, I think you have to find a way to feel better...I am thinking about taking up a new hobby or going out with friends or new one...you need to find your own way and a better one. a big hug for you

Just sey like a "Doctor" ...NEXT and move is not hveing point to suferr too mutch after this guy is his loss not yours junt ..advance do better with next one ..just thing like a man!

How could you love a guy for five years and keep it to yourself? How could you let a guy ignore you for five years? You really should move on now. You don't have to totally ignore them and not be friends with them. Maybe you should have moved on years ago.

Joby I think you had your time with that guy. Hey, 5 years is long enough. I think within that 5 years he has already a clue on what you feel for him. You know action speaks louder than words. And when you are into someone soemtimes you are caught off guard with your actions. I think it is really time for you to move on (but I am not suggesting that you quit your job). Face it Joby and have a life without that guy. You've dwell enough and that isn't fair for you. In the first place, wether he knows or not what you feel for him if he has the interest of courting you he could have done that even before. You can make it girl, take it lightly and be positive. You explore and feel good about yourself. You'll find your match soon. Goodluck!

stay strong, and this guy probably knows how you are feeling, some guys just like to string you along and see you feel like crap. try your best to move on, and if he realises he loves you and then you still feel the same then you can try work out.

Are you an angel or what? You must be a really good person to talk like that! I admire your courage. If I was in your position I would simply kill both of them. I would not even be friends with any of them. And surely this guy don't know you have been loving him for 5 years. I think if he knew he would have chosen you for the GOLDEN HEART!

not really, wat you did is just right, afterall what good it will give if you tell thm your feelings right? it will just make you bitter more.

No, you're not a hypocrite. You're just a good friend caught in a difficult situation. It's going to be really hard for you to still be so close to them and see them getting serious with one another. It sounds like you still have a lot of feelings for this guy. I think for now, the best thing to do is to slowly distance yourself a little from them. You need time to move on and they probably need time to explore their relationship. Just know that if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. If it works out for them, then good for them. If not, then at least you know it's not your fault that it didn't work out. And if you ever get another chance again with this guy and you still have feelings for him then, don't let him go like you did this time!!! But for now, it's time to let go.

No, I don't think you're being a hypocrite-- it has to feel just awful to be going through what you're describing, and it must be very difficult. Heartbreak hurts, no matter what. With time, though, I am sure you'll get past it. You may not be able to see it now, but maybe this is a good outcome. I mean you're young, you're very pretty and you seem like a really nice person, so if this guy hasn't made a move on you in five YEARS, perhaps he just didn't feel "that way" about you-- and friendship is all that could ever be there. I realize that may be difficult to think about, right now. As for moving away-- I would give it some time. Good friendships are important, and you like each other well enough to hang out for five years... so maybe that can still be "saved" in some way. And who knows, perhaps your "great love" is waiting around the next corner?

Leave them for the time being even though you value your friendship because it will make you so painful when you see how they love each other. Try to find new friends and maybe another boy who is worthy of your love is waiting for you somewhere. Do not come back until you can face them quite calmly.